LYNNETTA - posted on 09/23/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )
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I AM RECENTLY DIVORCED WITH 4 KIDS AND MY MIDDLE CHILD WHO IS 5 HAS STARTED ACTING OUT IN SCHOOL LIKE EVERYDAY. I KEEP PUNISHING HIM, BUT I DON'T FEEL LIKE THIS IS WORKING. WHAT SHOULD I DO? I NEED SOME ANSWERS REAL SOON.
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Dolores - posted on 09/26/2009
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I'm not sure how much free time you have, but you can try to spend some one on one time with each of your children to see how they are handling things. Take him out to lunch, just the two of you and let him know how much you and his father loves him. Talk with him about how he is feeling about things, and if he opens up, assure him that things may have changed at home, but your love for him hasn't. I also agree that you and your children should see a therapist. The children should see one individually and then everyone as a family. Best of Luck.
Mindi - posted on 09/23/2009
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My parents divorced when I was a teen. I wish they would have taken me to a therapist so I could talk about my feelings. I acted out in a lot of ways, but no one realized it was due to my hidden feelings. If you can, take all of your kids to a therapist to allow them to deal with their feelings with someone other than you. Kids don't usually want their parents to know they are upset about the divorce, so you need to find someone who is good at pulling their feelings out. Honestly, punishing him for his behavior isn't going to help until his feelings are dealt with.
Pennie - posted on 09/23/2009
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Ask him to draw pictures of how he is feeling. Maybe it will help him and you work through it. Five is a hard age for them to express how they feel at times. I have 5 myself. Hope that helps.
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