Recently, my 4 year old backtalks and gets sassy! What can I do to nip this right now?

Theresa - posted on 01/06/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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In the last 10 days or so, my 4 year old has gotten so sassy and backtalks constantly! How do I get him to stop? Time outs, explaining why it is wrong, nothing works! Even daycare is having issues with it.

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Danielle - posted on 01/08/2009

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I think a big part of this is age. Both of my girls started acting sassy about 4-5. I think part of it is pushing boundries, and seeing other people and mimicking other peoples actions. Daycare and school are wonderful places, but I HATE some of the things they learn!!!

Jennifer - posted on 01/06/2009

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I completely hear you! My 5 year old daughter is quite sassy. I think she is mimicking the way she hears me speak so I have been watching my sarcastic tones. Otherwise, I just tell her the way her tones make people feel. Never let it go and maybe make your son resay the things you dislike and don't give him what he wants until he says it appropriately. My daughter is slamming doors (which nobody else in my house does) and glaring a lot. I have just been honest with her and explain things logically to her. She seems to get it but still has the habit. Work on it. It'll get better.

Danette - posted on 01/06/2009

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you're welcome. I didn't hear about them until I moved out to MO and let me tell you everyone out here is talking about Parenting with Love and Logic. I read it in 2days, mind you I never have time to read, but made the time....found out what kind of mom I was and am working on improving parenting skills all the time. ;-) I hope you enjoy it, too. See if the library has it as well!

Theresa - posted on 01/06/2009

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Thanks! That is awesome advice! I really appreciate it! I will amazon.com those books right away.

Danette - posted on 01/06/2009

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Theresa: I have 4 girls ranging 8.5, 7, 4.5, 3 yrs of age. I hear you on this and I have a couple of suggestions:

If you don't have it, get it....Love and Logic books....fantastic solutions for these types of issues and more.

I get down to her level, look her in the eyes with the serious mommy eyes and say "I do not talk to you that way and you will not talk to me that way either. If you continue to talk to me and use up my energy you will do some of mommy's chores." They all have their own simple chores, but know they're in trouble when they have to help do mom's stuff. It has been working like a charm. Make sure you and the daycare are on the same page for disciplining as well. If they make him sit off to the side and not participate until he apologizes, he'll realize he's missing out on the fun. Always be consistent and follow through....whatever you do, don't do empty threats.

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