School issues

Nicole - posted on 10/02/2010 ( 82 moms have responded )

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Does this seem right to you...

My daughter (2nd grade) is struggling in school because she's slower than the other kids.. not mentally slower, but she reads & writes slower to make sure she gets it. The Problem: At school they have these big workbook type things and they have to get their work done in class or they lose their recess(es) for the next day until the work is finished, but they aren't allowed to bring their workbooks home to finish because they expect the kids to forget or lose them. I'm not sure about other mom's out there but I usually make sure everything is accounted for in their bags before they head to school the next day so they don't forget or lose anything. My daughter isn't the only one with the problem, apparently there is a list of kids who are also struggle with their work load. I don't think it's right that they work these kids so hard then punish them for not finishing because they aren't given more time. I mean just imagine they get all this work in one day, they don't finish and can't take it home, so the next day they have that work plus any new assignments they get.. I'm afraid that my daughter (along with the other kids) are going to end up falling so far behind because of this.

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Heather - posted on 10/06/2010

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At our school, each child has a homework folder. This is used to transport a communication book between teachers and parents, newsletters, their daily reading book and any "homework". Homework is writing out a list of words given for the week (about 10 words) and finishing off any class-work. We were informed for year 2, this should be no longer than 30 minutes.

Break time is extremely important and it sounds like it is the teacher (if there are several children also experiencing this) who has the time management issues not allowing sufficient time for all students to complete the tasks.
I would be making an apointment with the principal and the teacher to discuss this, and make it known that it is not appropriate for children to miss rest/break times. In a WORK environment employees are not allowed to miss break times, and neither should children at school.

Dara - posted on 10/05/2010

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As a teacher, I totally disagree with what your daughter's teacher is doing. In grade 2, kids need lots of time and should never be punished for being on task! If she is working hard the whole time they are supposed to, and she still doesn't finish it, I would see absolutely no problem sending it home or even lessening her work load a little. I would have a talk with her teacher and let her or him know that this situation is stressing your daughter out, and that you don't want her to be punished for trying to do her best. If the teacher doesn't change something, maybe a chat with the principal would do the trick. In the mean time, make sure you encourage your daughter and tell her she is doing her best and not to stop trying. The more comfortable she gets with reading and writing, the faster it will get as well.

Good luck with your situation!

Sylvie - posted on 12/31/2012

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talk to her teacher and pu your foot down my son went to a cholic school and was so far behind because of his ears not to say i did everything to help him and so did the so call school till i had enough. I changed his school and he is a total different child i talk to his teacher every day yes every day and if he does has thing that hasnt been finihed in the allocated time he is allowed to bring it home to finish. Just before school ended he had a major assesment where he had to write a story then fix the mistakes 3 time then publish the work they let him bring this home and i wasnt allowed to fix any of those spelling mistake or grama he was so happy he had finish that piece of work his teachers know i will let him finish his work wrong and then he will learn all those mistake during the weekend at home. You need to put your foot down as i have told the school i am his mother and what is best for my child is what i believe not them. If they want your child to finish then she can but not during her relaxing time at home or they can stay back with her after school they wont want that will they

Vickie - posted on 10/13/2010

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Has anyone here read last child in the woods by Richard Louv? taking recess away as a form of punishment seems to be ok with most of you. I find the increasing LACK of free unstructured play time to be at the source of some of our greatest challenges when it comes to the education of our children. i say more time outside in a natural classroom, more time exploring, thinking freely, learning by doing, internalizing in that way.. playing IS learning. Recess used to be something like an hour when i was a kid in the 60's....our school has something like 40 minutes. i can't believe it's down to 15 minutes in some schools or not there at all to make room for more test preparation for ever more tests. Tests are not the only way to gauge a child's intelligence there are many many other ways that a child gains knowledge. I still think taking away a kids recess at all is not the only solution to teaching the lesson of finishing their work. they need to learn intrinsicly and the outlet of running and fresh air should be mandatory...it is healthy...you don't take away something that is healthy for kids to teach them to do their work. any of you maybe even teachers have other ideas to "teach" this lesson other than taking away an already sadly diminished playtime in the middle of a long long day where they are sitting and concentrating.

Obviously we all have differing opinions and our own style of parenting. I'm curious what you all think.

Holly - posted on 10/12/2010

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As a substitute teacher I don't like the idea of keeping kids in for 10 minutes of their recess as an answer, most school recesses are only 15 minutes. 5 minutes just barely allows the child to get to the playground and then they are lining up the kids to come in.

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Jmiller693 - posted on 12/26/2012

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Wow i have answered a few posts on here and have realized my school is not so bad! Always bring it up to the teacher and if this does not help talk to the someone higher. We had a problem similar to this and the teacher worked something out to make it easier on the children. I hope this helps:)

Dominique - posted on 12/25/2012

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Children at that age need recess. Badly. That's a horrible punishment. It seems as though that is a messed up school system. Kids need to get used to bringing work home. It's a huge part of the school experience.

Sherri - posted on 10/15/2010

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Remember the teacher has no say as to the workload. Your district dictates to the amount of work that needs to be taught and completed by the end of the school year.

Cookie - posted on 10/15/2010

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My son is in first (1st) grade. The work load seems enormous for that level. I didnt want to complain because I thought it was me with the opinion. Apparently other parents felt the same way. A group stood together to share there frustration in the matter jus today among each other. Perhaps the teacher can be given a friendly note to suggest when it is a bit too much without too much pressure.
The topic is quite sensitive where it may spark long-lasting negative feed-back. That is my fear and concern.

Carla - posted on 10/15/2010

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I'm sorry, guys, but I am shocked and appalled at the robot-ization of our little guys! Kids have that all-consuming energy, and they have to get rid of it some way! Keeping them virtually locked up in school without recess, then home for more homework, how do they expend that energy? Then we diagnose them as ADHD and medicate them! When did book learning become more important than the simple freedom of running or swinging or playing ball? What are we creating?

Sorry, I just find this very, very sad.

Sherri - posted on 10/13/2010

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I am actually all for it. I think they are gaining such a better education then most of the students in the surrounding towns where there kids schools are failing all state guidelines. My kids are running circles around there children academically. I think that is sad.

Suzanne - posted on 10/13/2010

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wow thats nuts i think the school system has forgotten that they are children no wonder they burn out

Sherri - posted on 10/13/2010

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Homework starts at that length beginning in 5th grade. Our kindergartners have about 1/2hr, 1-2 about an hr, 3-4 about 1 1/2-2hrs. 5-8 3-4 hrs. I don't know about high school yet as we are not there yet.



My 7th and my 8th graders avgs 8-10 math pages a night

Language arts homework, social studies homework, reading and writing homework and science homework. Then what ever special is for that quarter art, cooking, sewing etc there are always essays, research and papers that need to be done for those as well.

Suzanne - posted on 10/13/2010

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i truly beleve taking away a childs resess away just to make them finish work is wrong i don't beleve it teaches them to do the work in the time given it would teach them to put anything down just so they can have the breack their body mind and sole needs to grow and be healthy, not just the children but the teacher needs the breack to refresh their mind and sole, they are speacial people and they need a bit of time for themselves also if they keep the children in they are hurting their self too
sherri what grade are your children in? 3-4 hours seem extreme unless they are in high schoolin our school system grade 5 students should be doing between 45 min to 1 hour and the most come grade 12 it is ideally 2 hours.

Sherri - posted on 10/13/2010

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Kids here from 1-6 get an hour of recess a day. 30mins in the morning and 30-40mins at lunch. I think that is more then adequate and if my child didn't finish school work I want them to miss some of that recess to complete that work. School is sooooo important in this house. Recess not so important to me. Am I saying I don't want them to have any recess at all no but 10-15mins missed because they haven't finished there written work is very satisfactory to me. I don't want them having additional homework when they get home. My kids already don't get home till 4pm and have 3-4hrs of homework a night. So basically I get to see them an hr a day at the dinner table m-f. Because after they eat dinner and do homework it is bed time. M-Thrs they rarely if ever get any free time after school. So the school work that is due in school needs to be completed in school because there is NO time once they get home.

Holly - posted on 10/12/2010

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I would talk to the teacher, and if that does not work talk to the principal. They should at least agree to let you try taking the assignments home to see if they come back the next day. I would propose that to the teacher. It is a reasonable request. The principal can't very well say no to a reasonable request with the teacher taking recess. You may find some laws requireing recess time. That would give you legal leverage if your daughter is always in catching up on work. You could argue that her class is being run so that her recess requirement is not being met despite your offer to address doing the work.

Sherri - posted on 10/12/2010

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I know that PE is a class and recess is something that they get before school and after lunch to just run and play as they please. So yes recess can be taken away weather a parent agrees with it or not if school work is missing.

Tamara I love it. I think that teaching the kids like that is AWESOME!!

Bonny - posted on 10/12/2010

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I don't know what state you live in, but I'm a secretary at a school in Alabama and PE time is MANDATORY for them. Students do not miss PE unless a health issue restricts it. I would talk to the teacher and, if the issue is not resolved, talk to the principal. (Of course, if they have PE and recess at separate times and recess/free time is being taken away, that's allowed.) Good luck.

Erin - posted on 10/12/2010

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I would follow the proper chain of command, first talk to the teacher, and if she or he doesn't give an acceptable answer then talk with the principal, and just work your way up until you get the answers you want or it is fixed. I am a little bit pushy when it comes to my kids education but I also think that you should have a good working relationship with you child's teacher.

Tamara - posted on 10/12/2010

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I'm not sure about you child's school (you will have to talk to the teacher) but my second grader's teacher explained to us that they do that to teach the children to take responsibility for getting their work done. The kids sometimes like to visit instead of doing their work in the time provided so the being held from recess encourages the kids to do their work when they can. Our second grade teacher doesn't want us to force our son to do his homework. She wants him to decide to do it on his own so he doesn't have to miss out on recess. I really like that:-) I don't think I have to worry because he loves recess. I would calmly talk to your child's teacher and see what the deal is.

Amanda - posted on 10/12/2010

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dont take this layin down i had a similar problem last year with my daughter and i went to the principle when that didnt work i went to the superintendent you have to be your daughters advocate or she will grow to hate school and no mommy wants that fight for her and if you get something done for her then tell the other parents what you did so they can get things changed for there children also

Lakeisha - posted on 10/09/2010

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Well my daughter was kindergarden any the wanted to put her in the secong grade. We let them then they sid she can do all the work but she couldn't keep up with writing it down. So now she in the first grade, but still reads at second grad reading level.I just try to her active atr home with diiferent work book and we do lots of reading , and some copmputer activties thats what help me and my daughter. Dont give up keep encouragign her to try harder, and you trying to make it fun fer as well then you should see a change. I also thing when our childern go to school for the first time it corrupts them my daughter behavior has change dramtically and I dont like. I see my self getting on her more ane more now. When IU did not have to before she started school.

Christiana - posted on 10/08/2010

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That doesn't sound right to me either. I have a son who doesn't always get his work done. Because he to does it slower to make sure he does it right. I did talk to his teacher because she was going to pull him aside on his speech days to get the work done. I told her to send home and I'll make sure it is done. I always check their backpacks before school to make sure everything is in it. And after school to see what they have to do.

Chondelle - posted on 10/08/2010

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Are you sure this is the only reason why she and others are writing an reading slower? Here in Barbados we usually deal with this type of problem by having their eyes checked

Ann - posted on 10/08/2010

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This is how my School ( a few yrs. ago , was rated the "Best" School District), When I went to bat for my kids in front of Teachers/ Principle.. I let them know their School isn't at all #1 in my eyes. I simply told them that they only care about a lable called.. National Blue Ribbon School District. This School is so "Harsh" towards "Students" that don't hold up to this standard and therefore, It's Student's that aren't at all Smart or Gifted are considered an embarrassment to them!

Sylvia - posted on 10/08/2010

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I'm no fan of homework for little kids -- a lot of it is stupid busywork that doesn't teach them anything -- but that system sounds even worse. Incredibly stupid. Especially taking away recess -- when are they going to figure out that kids do better at everything (learning, behaving, sitting still, getting their work done) when they've had a good run around outside first? (someone actually did a study on this, and people who had spent 20 minutes running around outside scored better on tests than people who had spent those 20 minutes cramming for the test.)

It would certainly never occur to me to check my kid's bag (she would flip out, for one thing -- "I don't go poking around in your backpack, Mommy!!" -- and also, she's 8, she's old enough to keep track of her stuff and face the consequences of not doing so), but I do ask her if she's got her lunch, her sweater, etc., and I confess I also remind her to do her homework (if she has any) and pack her lunch after dinner, just to avoid the last-minute scramble in the morning :P

Can you speak to the teacher and work out some kind of compromise? Like, if she's done a certain proportion of the work she can call it a day, or else take it home to finish? What DD's teacher told us at Curriculum Night was, she will never assign homework that should take any more than about 20 minutes to finish, so if your kid is spending more time than that, just tell them they can leave the rest of it and write her a note explaining what happened, and that's fine with her. (DD is in Grade 3, and the homework is ramping up this year because they have the $%*$* standardized math and "literacy" tests in June -- they have a reading log :P, they have to write a paragraph on a given topic every weekend, they have spelling homework to hand in every Wednesday and a spelling test every Friday, and DD has brought home a maths worksheet to finish a couple of times.) What she mainly wants them to do is read whatever they like to read, because that's (obviously) the best way for them to get better at reading, and (again, obviously) they'll read a lot more if they get to choose their own reading material.

Sorry, I got off track a bit there -- I was also going to say, it might not be a bad idea to talk to your daughter about how sometimes "the better is the enemy of the good" -- sometimes instead of trying to get everything absolutely perfect, it's okay to go a little faster. But on the other hand, there's nothing wrong with going slowly and carefully, either! So you don't want to overdo that point, either...

Sherri - posted on 10/08/2010

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No it actually it isn't frightening and because of this are school systems are rated #1 in the entire state. Our kids are blowing the state requirements away. I am extremely proud and actually it is the 1 and only reason we moved to this town 9 yrs ago so my kids could be a part of this school system.

Great Schools City rating 10 of out 10
Bedford's rating is based on its public schools' test results; 10 is best.

This was for EVERYONE of our schools.

Vickie - posted on 10/08/2010

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oh Sherri, seriously this is not something to be proud of... "Our kids have to be able to read fluently 100+ words and have mastered an extensive math program to even make it to 1st grade. "
this is frightening...so much pushing in information at such a young age and i wonder how much is really internalized, understood, good for a love of learning. really.

Heather - posted on 10/08/2010

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I have definitely been on the receiving end of some horrible teachers. Our kids have surely suffered from the no child left behind, the standardized testing, the dumbing down of the requirements for our students and teachers. The unions that make it impossible to fire teachers that need to be fired. Social promotion because we can only fail so many times. But also we have parents who don't back up our good teachers and also don't teach their kids to respect authority.All the while expecting the teachers to teach the kids every thing with no help from at home. Which I am sure that would not include the majority of us here, But if you grew up in the school system in the town I grew up in and my kids started out in....it is the norm. Metal detectors, gangs, fear of the students, the parents, lack of involvement, no support from the administration...thecommunity

Ann - posted on 10/08/2010

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Sherri, By You
Well, I guess I've rubbed you the wrong way about the School Topic and you sound angry. What?? Either you are a Teacher or maybe a Parent that happens to be in a Teacher's Circle Of Friends , You know a "Click" and when in this type of Friendship goes "Special Favors" when it comes to Your Children to pass from grade to grade! You say: We Parents Shouldn't be so angry with the Teacher or the way They Teach and Should see and Talk to their Principle, Well, Been There and done that. LOL, The Principle will always stick up for Teachers and in the end: They Blame Us for not Teaching Our Children!! I hope your not in The Levittown PA Area ( Neshaminy Schools), Because It sounds like our kids might be in the same School District. No Hard Feeling, Letting You know my view!
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Heather - posted on 10/08/2010

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I must say I tend to want to talk to my kids teachers BEFORE I make any decision. I definitely do not and would not take my kids word as gospel. You want to believe your kids BUT after raising kids for 25yrs. lets face it, our kids at some point are always going to think the teacher doesn't like them and is being mean.

Sherri - posted on 10/08/2010

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You guys really need to understand that the work is only get harder if she can't keep up now on a 2nd grade level she is going to be sunk by middle school. Kids aren't challenged enough the work load seems pretty typical to me. The school is not to blame here go to the principal or the school board is just ludicrous!! Maybe you people need to actually stand by schools and these teachers that are giving there blood, sweat and tears to teach these children. This child isn't being punished, the teacher is doing all she can do for this girl to make sure she is staying current with the workload as not to fall behind. She should be commended not shot in the middle of a rioting crowd because you guys can't see to realize that a certain amt of information needs to be taught by the end of the school year. The teachers don't come up with how much work needs to be taught the states and districts do!!! So instead of slamming the teacher which makes me just want to scream, a better solution would be approach the teacher calmly and see what options are available to get your daughter at a level she can keep up with the class.

I am so glad most of you do not live where I live your children would be sunk!! Our kids have to be able to read fluently 100+ words and have mastered an extensive math program to even make it to 1st grade. Our kids are also by 5th grade required to take 2 foreign languages a yr until they graduate from HS. Yes this is public school. If you can't keep up with your school work then you are required to either come in early or stay after school to complete it or simply get a zero. The parents then must either drop off or pick up the child.

The one thing that I have to say is that 1 there are two sides to every story so until you actually communicate with the teacher. You are only getting half the story and that needs to be done A.S.A.P. If I have to say one negative thing about your daughters school is this they seem to have poor communication with the parents. Our teachers all call each and every parent personally during the first week of school. Supply all parents there phone #'s and exts and also give us there e-mail addresses so we can be in contact with them at all times.

Vickie - posted on 10/08/2010

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i absolutely hate the rule of losing recess for ANYTHING. Recess is already such a small time and the kids NEED this time to be HEALTHY. it's like taking away kid's lunch as far as i'm concerned. nasty!!! and this work load sounds completely innappropriate. i hope a bunch of you parents join together to voice a complaint and propose that kid's should be able to take the work home at least adn trusted to get it back the next day.

Ann - posted on 10/08/2010

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NO!! It's not right to have any School or Their Teachers do this to the children. I would suggest don't make the mistake I made with my 3 children... My First child ( Daughter is now 19), She was very smart and flew throught school, But I had issues with her because she tried to imform the school that she was being abused from grade 5th-11 th grade because she wanted to act up with a boy and nothing to do with her schooling. Anyway, They fell for her crap and tried coming after me and also tried to get my other 2 of course , But failed because my own daughter admitted she made stories and lies up to get with her friend. LOL, Watch for the smarter children you have because they are gifted on trying to get their parents in trouble. My Second Child ( Boy, Now almost 18) is in his last year and I assumed that all my kids were the same. LOL, I was wrong! He always struggled with school,Not because He was slow. It was because the same schools His Sister attended was exspecting Him to be just as smart as His Sister in which is just as smart but doesn't want to apply Himself. Why? The School kept judgeing Him and putting Him down because They couldn't accept the fact that if they stop bothering him, He would have been able to function. They put him through hell because it got to the point everything he did was totaly monitored and he started on purpose spend his entire school life ( k-11) getting back at the teachers!! My Youngest... Getting back to your situation.... I understand why you annoyed at the school and if they exspect the child to function and maintain their grade level , Then allow the kids to take the materials/ books home and give them pride/ responsabily to not lose their things. My last child ( 12 yr. old daughter) is not doing so great and when she was younger the school tried to make me put her in Pre-First and They tried to hold her back a year in 4th or 5th grade. Wouldn't allow them to do this to her. I have a serious problem with my daughter's school... I feel she's got the short end of everything pretaining to her studies/ work habits. She was born with a seizure disorder ( Epilepsy) and her first seizure was around 2 1/2 or 3 yr.s of age. I made the mistake of letting her school know, really, I had no choice to let them be aware. Well, Since they known, They have treated her Indifferent, Let her tease Others by letting her get away with being mouthy. Homework Issues: What a joke! The School never properly taught her on any grade leveal because in their eyes.. To Them, She's a Damaged Child and They inteaded to just pass her throught School.Just recently Our Summer was Ruined because The School insisted that I recieve Tutoring for her because I told them that the School Itself w/ Teacher's did such injustice to my daughter in teachring her that they owed her an education!! Well, The Tutor came here and the School turned around and gave the Tutor 2nd-3rd grade levels in which this paperwork would be turned into the school. The tutor fought the School for her grade level to be taught and if my daughter sits down without being pressured, She be able to do the work with help of course. Towards the end, Even the Tutor said: She's not Dumb, Retarded or Slow and was disappointed in her School District for letting her down!!

This Year, She's in 7th grade and fights with Us every morning and says she hates school! I don't have a clue if she's on her normal grade level or if they continue to give her babyish work. She doesn't maintain friends. Doesn't have any because of the way she behaves ! She is learning that if she behavedaround them, She would have friends! I'm hoping the kids that she treated wrong will come to realize that if they forgive her and if my daughter treats them with respect, She'll have lots of freinds to hang with!

Carla - posted on 10/08/2010

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I can't imagine punishing a child for being meticulous. I spent our childrens' lives telling them to slow down and get it right!

I am with the other moms--talk to the principal. Go to the school board meetings if you don't get any satisifaction from the principal. I think the school system forgets that they are paid by our taxes and are there to educate our children, not to make them into cookie-cutter clones of each other. Also talk to some of the other moms in class and see if this is causing their children problems/anxiety. I see this as a set-up for disaster.

God bless, honey, keep us informed.

Jodie - posted on 10/08/2010

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I would talk to the Head Master how dare they do that to such a young girl, learning is thru encouragement not thru punishment, they are going to make these kids burn out before they even get out of primary & wreck them for high school.

Melissa - posted on 10/07/2010

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I would take to the teacher. If that doesn't work then follow the chain of command, meaning the principle next then the board or however their boss system works there. That is wrong and they need to make adjustments to help them succeed not fail. Kids are supposed to want to enjoy school not be scared that they will not be successful becuase they cannot keep up

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I would discuss this with the principle and see what he has to say. IF this is school policy that the kids cannot take the workbooks home then I would go further and talk to the superintendent.

good luck and god bless

Rebeca - posted on 10/07/2010

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Here is another thing to think about the fact that the mom said she does her work really slow to make sure she gets it right this could be the begining signs of OCD or something else before my daughter was diagnosed she could not just right stuff she would trace it ove and over and over if you get the picture there are so many different things this could be it is not fair to attack the teacher without all the facts and talking with the child first

Tammie - posted on 10/07/2010

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I wanted to add that there are many very good points here, that you are going to have to decide to take or leave. My biggest issue is with holding recess if they dont finish their work, the teacher should not interfear with recess, its a huge part of their development.

Regina - posted on 10/07/2010

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I think that you should talk to the teacher and if she does nothing then go to the principle and see what he can do. Tell him that you are not the only one with the conserns.

Rebeca - posted on 10/07/2010

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That is my point I am not saying that te teacher is not wrong but we that are posting do not know the whole story so before we get all crazy and start screaming to get this teacher fired we should also give suggestions that might give other reasons for the problem. It may be just the way this particular teacher teaches or there could be a more serious issue with my child she brought home the home work and the teacher gave her a gradin curve but tha was not solving the problem that she was never finishing her work on time and couldn't finish tests either. She had a learning diffrence and once that was discovered we were able to make changes to help her out and teach her things to help herself so I think it is important to start with the child and make sure the child themself is not having trouble it could be an outside issue if they are missing someone or being bullied it can affect their work with out talking to the child you may not know the true cause. All I am saying is before getting the teacher in trouble do everything you can first maybe the teacher sends home homework and does not want to add extra work on top of that. My daughters teacher would never send homework that should have taken more than 30 min so they didn't get overloaded so maybe she is afraid of that without knowing all the details we can not start yelling about the situation

Suzanne - posted on 10/07/2010

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please don't get me wrong first and for most their learning style and any learning isues should be addressed before they escalate to the child having serious problems, but that aside if there is alot of children having the same isues i would tend to beleve it is the time alowed to do the work, but i also beleve homework or at leaset school books should come home some times so the parents can see and reveive what the kids are learning. and have some kind of "homework" for example reveiw sheets to do at home even if the teacher does not want them back, homework habits formed at a young age really go along way come highschool where mom and dad should not have to hover to make sure it is done or in collage when the child will have to depend on time management skills learened in the past to maike it. and i am speaking from experiance as it was not discovered untill well into highschool that i could take everything in but puting it down on paper was a problem (as a result of mild dyslexia) teachers and parents really need to work together

Rebeca - posted on 10/07/2010

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People are not looking at this from both sides. Has any one considered the fact that their are kids whocan get the work done in this time period so first thing would be to talk to the child and see if there is a problem at school. Maybe she needs glasses, maybe she is having trouble understanding the work and just may not be ready to go to the next level. I am not saying that the teacher may not be giving to much work but before people get all crazy and start blaming the teacher you should start at the source. I know from experience with my daughter who had a similiar situation and it turned out the problem was her learning style then we got her a 504 plan and now she can bring her work home if she does not finish and she gets extra testing time so that during the reading portions she can have more time to go over the reading selection. Now she gets mostly A's compared to F's & D'ss before we addressed the problem

Monika - posted on 10/07/2010

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Hi Nicole, don't worry, as they r just kids.... u can go n talk to the teacher n find out what exactly the problem is. some schools r so competitive, that they run the schedule very fast, u've to make ur child prepare acc. to them if u think the institute z really worth it, or may b ur child z been a bit slow,meet other moms of her class n see how their kids r doing it, a bit of hard work can make ur child cope up wid the class. and moreover, kids r kids.... they work according to their own pace, always show confidence in whatever she does only then she'll be able to give her best...

Sherri - posted on 10/07/2010

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Sending the work home isn't always the answer. Ultimately something needs to be done to catch her up so she can keep up with the work load and the other students. The school seems to be doing what the can to try and help her but it seems that more needs to be done weather that be at home or through the school with extra help classes. It will only get worse for her and they will not make exceptions for her when she gets in the higher grades and we don't want this little girl to fail but thrive.

Suzanne - posted on 10/07/2010

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at my sons school they still have morning recess, lunch recess and afternoon recess, if they miss one of those they are ending up sitting there expectied to concentrate and focus for over 3 hours i don't know many adults that would be able to sit that long without any kind of breack it would be bad for their social skills as well as their selfesteem. and even though they would be aloud to go to the bathroom and get a drink that would not strech the musles very well and if they do that on the walk it would take them longer and then mot only would they have to miss out on recess they would be in trouble for taking to long. all that trouble when the child could take it home and work on it because if the teacher knows the childs work which they usally do they would be able to tell the child did it. as parents we just want our children to have well rounded children. both in school and socially.

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Well at our school they get a 1/2hr in the morning, 1/2 hr at lunch missing that 1/2hr at lunch time they will be fine!!

Suzanne - posted on 10/07/2010

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if children do not get that time to run and play and burn off steem it makes it harder for them to focus later which will only make her farther behind

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I am sorry but she needs to be able to complete her work within the allotted time frame. It is only going to become increasingly harder as the years go on!! I would rather her miss recess then have to do it at home especially by the time they get to 6th grade and my kids are averaging 3-4hrs of homework a night.
I would stop criticizing the school and instead address your child's issues and get her to a level she needs to be at. Missing recess will not traumatize your child she will survive. The teacher is doing what she can for your child to make sure she doesn't fall behind.

Priscilla - posted on 10/07/2010

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I would talk to the teacher. It does seem like a lot for a child and recess should not be taken away because of large amounts of work that cant be done in an unreasonable amount of time. Besides learning..,kids need exercise. if the teacher gives you a hard time or develops a bad attitude towards you take it the principle.

Tammie - posted on 10/07/2010

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That sounds completely wrong to me, talk to the teacher, the assistant principal, and the principal. If your teachers system does not get reavamped, I say see if she can go to another class, or even school. When speaking to these educators always start with the things you do like about your daughters class, and the school. Then go into your concerns, and tell them that if they are not changed, ( I mean please, with holding recess to 2nd graders?) you would like to work with them on the above alternatives (different class, different school). These are crucial learning years for your child, and you know your child better than any one else. Be firm, professional, and helpful in your attitude with the educators at your daughters school, and they will respond to you in a positive way in return. Good Luck Nicole!

Amy - posted on 10/07/2010

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Mrs.Schlueter, Children get help in school from their teachers. At least they are supposed to. Some teachers are just lazy. I have had to deal with a couple of those myself. My daughter is a straight A student, on the honor role since kindergarten. Parents are supposed to help at home. We are the backups and sometimes we must be/should be the main educators of our children. They must be able to look to us for help. If she can help her 2nd grade child at home, then that child should have that opportunity. It also is a great way to create a bond between child and parent in later years.

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