School trouble

Threenorns - posted on 05/15/2012

first off, check your state laws. my youngest daughter was being bullied and harassed at school. not even finished junior kindergarten and already with the stress headaches, morning drama, etc. she was frightened of one of the kids in her class, confused by the hubbub (she has learning disorder) and was starting to be mocked because of her size (she's 5 but is heading into size 8 clothing - she's the height and weight of an avg 7yr old). doesn't help that she's one of less than a dozen non-white kids in the school.



the school said they "try" to discourage bullying and they will "consider" testing her for learning disorder in grade 3. i said "she has to suffer for five years before you'll do anything about it!?"



so i pulled her out and i'm home-schooling her now.



my second daughter, too - i pulled her out 5 days before the end of the school year because she was whipped across the face with a rubber skipping rope by a girl who'd, among other things, knocked out another girl's teeth by slamming her face into the drinking fountain. i told the principal if you cannot guarantee my child's safety, then she cannot be here.



in both cases, i submitted my position to the school in writing and cc'd the board of education.

Tina - posted on 05/13/2012

The school is lying to you. They DO have the power to put a stop to this. A bully is a bully regardless of the age. Bullying should not be permitted at ANY age, much less at this young age. Go up the chain of command and if you end up having to go to the school board meeting and raise a ruckus, then so be it. You must protect your children at all costs when it comes to bullying. This can have a lifetime lasting effect on this poor kid. If the school will not do anything, press charges against each and every child who is bullying your son. I wish you and your son the best of luck and will pray for your situation.

Susanne - posted on 03/13/2010

Im in the UK so i dont know how the school system works there but i would really try harder to move him from that school i know how you feel because ive been through this with my 9 year old son and believe me it doesnt get better the poor kids just get more and more mentally messed up in the head. The sooner you can get him away from them the less mental anguish he will have to suffer.

Emilie - posted on 03/13/2010

He is not in Karate or sports or anything like that. I can't afford it right now. I really think I will drive him to and from school the rest of the year. I think maybe next year we will use my grandmothers address to put him in a better school. My grandmother lives in a very good school district. I am a little nervious about doing that, because if the school found out that we don't live with her then we might get in trouble.

Janet - posted on 03/13/2010

How Awful but it sounds like the school could do more (not to mention the parents) also how about collecting your son from school can anyone help out.
At my daughters school the bullies are mentioned in assembly which helps more victims come forward because you can guarantee there are more also they are kept in during breaks at school. Meanwhile does your son do any sport or clubs to help gain his confidence exzample karate or any martial arts, does he have any friends if his not alone they may leave him alone.

Heather - posted on 03/13/2010

you are your sons only advocate. go to the school board, the superintendent, the damn newspapers if you have to - let that school know that either they take responsibility and punish these kids and adopt a ZERO TOLERANCE policy for bullying or you will let the whole world know that your son is being bullied and no one is helping you. if one of those kids touches your son again, call the cops, and press charges, on the kids and the parents.
if the school is not safe for your son, they have to let you transfer him somewhere. start writing every incident down so when the time comes you have a record of each and every thing that has happened to your boy. find a teacher that your son trusts, if there is one, so if he is at school and something happens he has an adult to go to that can get in contact with you. you should be at the busstop with him, and if the kids there start something, then you need to call the cops right then and there. and if the bus comes, tell the driver that the police are on their way and the bus needs to wait. dont ever give up fighting. too many kids have killed themselves, or other people because of bullying. and it IS the principals job to make sure that your son is safe and it never happens again.

Keidy - posted on 03/12/2010

The school tells you that they cant do anything about that but they are just being lazy! Go to the school again tell them you want to do sign a transfer request. The transfer request is a form that you sign asking the school district to please tranfer your child to another school within your region. If that does not work go to the district itself and complain. If that does not work, press charges against the children and make the parents do something about it...a lawyer maybe needed. Dont back down, let the school know that you will not allow anything of that sort to happen to your child. You can also investigate and see if there are any other children that were bothered by the same children and get the parents together and get the school to transfer those kids out! Dont be afraid of the school staff or the other parents...this is your childs well being at risk! Hope that this helps and if any other concerns write to me! Good luck!!