should a 5 year old take a big girl shower?

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How old should i stop giving my daughter a bath? should i let the take a "big girl" shower? she is 5.....

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Jackie - posted on 02/14/2012

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my girl (almost 6) has been taking showers since she was able to stand up.... she LOVES it, and now (with minimal supervision) she washes her own hair/body. Kids are much more capable than we give them credit for :-) Besides, saves time and water! For a working mommy of 2, these are essential things to consider! Shower it up! Why not???

Petula - posted on 02/12/2012

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she is still a kid ..........help her out once in a while if she is ok with it then fine my 10 yr ols still calls me at times to scrub the back.........

Kirsten - posted on 05/26/2010

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Teach her how to properly soap up her washcloth and how to properly bathe herself then let her do a test run. My daughter was taking showers since she was 4. About once a week i bathe her in the shower to be sure she has had a good cleaning. But go for it.

Kristen - posted on 05/26/2010

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My daughter (age 4) takes both. I make her take a shower if we are in a hurry...or if we simply don't have time to play in the bath.

She still prefers to bathe, but learning to shower has really come in handy...especially when we go to the beach or other places without baths.

If we have been taking a lot of showers, I set a special time aside for a "play bath"....

However....you know your daughter best...and there is nothing wrong with just bathing....clean is clean!! :)

Jaime - posted on 05/21/2010

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Your lucky I still have problems with my 6 year old getting his hair washed, he would never get in the shower - doesn't even like going into amusement park pools with the spray water.

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All three like having a combined bath/shower!!! If I want to get them through quickly - then it's just a shower. When they do have a combined one - then the bath gets filled up as they have their shower/do their hair. Then shower normally goes off and they can relax in the bath (but not too long). Eldest is allowed to have her's unsupervised (she's 11) and the younger two (9 and 7) with appropriate levels of supervision.



As long as the appropriate level of supervision/help is applied, then it's down to whether the child is ready to have showers instead of baths. Depending on how much time you have, the child can have a bath or shower.

Antoinette - posted on 02/15/2012

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My kids are 2 & 3, they shower most nights, but they like to sit on the shower floor which I think is gross so I put a Giant Flexi Bucket in the shower for them so it's basically a shub (shower over tub if thats not a thing non NZers have lol). That way they can soak their stinky feet and smelly bums for a little bit too while still feeling like 'big kids' being in the shower. Te he he

Francinne - posted on 02/13/2012

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My wee Man has had showers since he was bout 6 weeks old and he is now 2. But recently he has decided that he wont let me wash his hair in the shower and screams about it.

So we have to compromise with a bath now (wich we dont have so have to use a 110 Litre plastic Container lol) But he will have showers by himself and stay in there for ages as long as he doesnt have to wash his hair.

Rebecca - posted on 02/08/2012

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Unless she has a skin problem, such as eczema, where there is an absolute medical need to make sure all the soap is washed off her skin, or she is prone to UTI's, there is no real reason to force her into showers until she hits puberty. If she wants a shower, then by all means, help her to take one.

Julie - posted on 11/18/2011

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Let her enjoy the bath ... bubbles and toys.
She will probably cue you when she is ready to shower. Abths can be very relaxing before bed... nice and warm!

Sharlene - posted on 11/11/2011

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I started putting my kids in the shower at 3 yrs old. For them it was the most exciting thing ever my daughter even said its like a indoor rain storm LOL

Karli - posted on 11/11/2011

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my daughter is three and she showers kinda i turn the water on let her get all wet turn it off help her soap up and get all scrubbed then turn the water back on for her to rinse and then help her dry and dress she just doesnt yet understand or have the ability to scrub everything by herself ive let her try periodically to gauge if she can do it all by herself she also thinks its funny to try and drink the water at the bottom of the tub so shes supervised but in a couple of year shell get scrubbing all of her hair and all her body and be able to shower alone ill still probably get the water temp ready for her but well see.

Erin - posted on 06/24/2011

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responses are way too numerous. Didnt read.
My daughter is 5, she sees that I take showers, and asked to have one a few times. Shes really not a fan of the water hitting her face so she decided herself she would rather have a bath. She also wasnt too fond of the fact that its not nearly as much fun to play with her toys in a shower, as it is in a tub. When she grows out of that mindset, showers will make their comeback, but until then, play on rubber ducky!

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 05/28/2011

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My 6 year old decided she wanted to try taking showers when she was 4 and I helped her with her hair and washing her body while she was in the shower with me.

Shauna - posted on 04/14/2011

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I have a 3, 5 and 7 yr old (all girls ) they all take showers. I supervise the 3 yr old more. we still take baths too but they are all fine to shower. I don't have a shower with a tub though I have a large walk in (big enoughf or all 3 to shower together- which they sometimes do) mainly we do this because it is a huge time and water saver.\but no problems-I do help with hair washing of 3 and 5 yr old.

Kim - posted on 04/13/2011

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My 4 yr old has been taking a shower for yrs now. I do wash her up but she helps. she insists on doing her own hair too.

Carol - posted on 04/13/2011

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My oldest daughter was still a baby when I gave her her first shower, that way she wouldn't be afraid of the water hitting her in her face. Then when her sister came along when she was 14 days old I put her in the shower with me at first she didn't like the water hitting her in the face but then when she realized she could nurse while in the shower she didn't mind the water in her face. I would wash her hair and body first then rinse her off and then I would set her in the tub away from the water while I washed my hair and body then I would rinse off and then I would shut off the water and get out and dry myself then I would take her out and dry her off. Some children can be afraid of the water when it comes out of the shower head so be prepared for her to be a bit scared but if you take a shower with her for the first few times she might be ok with it. Also mom remeber this your bath water techniclly is dirty water because you are dirty when you get in it and you really can't get things clean in dirty water, give her a shower then after washing her and her hair off and all of the soap and shampoo suds have run down the drain let the tub fill up and let her play once in a while, also you use less water taking a shower than you do taking a bath. Taking a shower is a "GREEN THING".

Misty - posted on 06/05/2010

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Victoria, I myself either just open the shower door and reach in and wash and condition my daughters hair as she has very long hair also or I am in the shower with her and do it then. Most times, I take a shower and then have her get in when I am through washing so I can wash and condition her hair and then I get out and let her wash. It works out great for us.

Chaitra - posted on 06/03/2010

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My son is five and he loves taking showers. Let her try it out and see how she does?

Victoria - posted on 06/01/2010

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How do you moms wash your kid's hair/body in the shower? Do you get in with them? My daughter wants to shower but her hair is super long & she isn't able to wash/condition it by herself.

Anne-marie - posted on 05/31/2010

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my son is five and half he has been having showers (we have a cubicle with glass door so he can see us and we can see him) from about three with non slip mat and myself or parter in the bathroom he also has a good soak in the bath at least twice a week if your daughter wants to go for it good luck

Pramitta - posted on 05/30/2010

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My daughter is going to turn 5 soon and she has hinted to me many times that she is capable of showering on her own. So i tried it out the other day. I was curious to see how she would manage as the shower knob is way out of her reach but the shower head has a button that lets you lessen the water as you shower. She used the button while she applied soap to her body while explaining to me that you have to lessen the water so you dont waste it. I was impressed as she did quite a good job. Im due to have my second child soon and i think by her wanting to shower on her own, it is one less job for me to tackle early in the morning before sending her to school. I only have to switch the shower on and off for her.
So if your daughter hints to you that she is old enough to do it on her own then i think you should let her be a little independent.

Misty - posted on 05/30/2010

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My daughter is 6 1/2 and has been taking showers since she was 5 and she can only take showers due to kidney reflux and not being allowed to sit in the bath water. She loves it! She has her own soap and of course play items which for her is shaving cream and a plastic toy razor. She spends at least 30 minutes in there and comes out clean as a whistle. I do shampoo her hair but she feels like a big girl washing herself without moms help.

Effrey - posted on 05/30/2010

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Hi, my son is 5 going 6. He satrted taking a shower on his own, 4 months ago. I simply taught him how to wash himself...

Dena - posted on 05/29/2010

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I think you should start teaching your child how to wash their hair and body well enough while they're young (when they start to talk) ... tell them how you do it and why (such as to scrub their hair so you can get the dirt that is on their scalp) as you do it, then tell them and have them do it, then have them tell you as they do it. When they're old enough to do it themselves and you feel they do it right (smell check after they do it alone for the first 20 times or so - and don't be afraid to send them back in their, even if they throw a fit - they'll learn), they can do it alone. I would say that definitely by 6ish ... I hadn't given my girls a bath myself since they were 4, but I have supervised to make sure they do what they should and that they are safe.

As far as the shower ... it's definitely cleaner than sitting in bath water so if they're interested, go for it! Supervise for a while ... make sure they know 'why' they have to do things a certain way - it helps them to make better more informed decisions. Don't force the shower ... if she doesn't want to wait until she is 9 or 10 to suggest it more.

Lisa - posted on 05/29/2010

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Forgot to mention... in our shower we have a hand held nozzle w/hose... which made it MUCH EASIER when 1st starting to give him showers... easier to control the range of spray, etc.

Lisa - posted on 05/29/2010

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my son is 7 now, but has been taking showers since was abour 4yrs old I guess. Not always on his own @ first... like other moms have said... I would wash him 1st then let him wash himself & "play" in the water. That was 1 of the lures of the shower for him... playing in the "sprinkler". The way I control the amount of water that is used is I go ahead & plug the tub just as if was filling for a bath... & he knows to turn off the water when it is "full". Then sometimes he immediately gets out & other times he stays in & soaks/plays some more. These days he washes himself w/o any help other than handing him shampoo etc. This gives me a chance to make sure that he is actually washing & not just dancing around in the shower.

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My children both would rather take baths than showers. I guess it's more relaxing. I agree with the other mom who says as long as they get clean, it's OK. My daughter has long hair, so I pull the shower head down and help her rinse the shampoo out. I think taking a bath might be a comfort as well, and I always hesitate to take anything away that might be soothing, especially around bedtime.

Aimee - posted on 05/29/2010

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if she wants to take a shower sure....i think by 5 she should already be mostly washing her self anyway. she may need some help rinsing her hair in the shower. definitely try!

Markia - posted on 05/29/2010

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All my kids take shower they like to feel like a BIG KID lol so I say yesterday don't see a problem with it .

Kristin - posted on 05/29/2010

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My daughter has been taking a solo shower for over 2 years now. She is six. It depends on the maturity of your child I think therefore each child is different. Not only do washing techniques have to be taught since a shower is "not just soaking the dirt off" but also water safety (slippery surfaces etc) to include water temps. Showers are a great time saver and a great way to conserve water.

Rebecca - posted on 05/29/2010

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my daughter is 4 and she wants to shower herself. i always tell her mommy has to wash her first and we name all the parts, time to wash the arms now the legs ect.. then i tell her its her turn and she washes herself again naming the parts that way when she is a bit older she knows not to miss anything. my son 6 just started showering alone in the past few months because he wasnt washing, just playing in the water, i told him if he wants to be a big boy and shower alone he needs to remember to wash everything. i think it gives them a sense of some independence. i would at least stay in the bathroom and talk to them the whole time to make sure they are safe. hope i was of some help. have a wonderful day.

Anna - posted on 05/29/2010

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it depends on the child. I give my 41/2 both a bath and a shower. During the week I give her a bath and then on the day that she has to have her hair washed she takes a shower. Its easier for me that way and she also can handle it herself. I still stay in the bathroom with her in case anything happens, but its more supervisory than anything. Just see where your child is at. If you think she can handle it-go ahead. But its not wrong to keep giving her a bath for another year or so either.

Christal - posted on 05/29/2010

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My two girls now take showers and they are 3 and 5. I leave the water in the tub so after they are done I can finish washing their hair and anything else they happen to miss!!!!!

Krystle - posted on 05/29/2010

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Kia Ora.
It all depends on how ready she is. My eldest was bout 3. My younger two where in there about 7 weeks old. You get more confident at introducing you children to things earlier the more you have. Make it fun. Maybe have a new special towel of her favourite character to get into after her first shower. Anyway good luck.

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I think sometimes you can worry about things which aren't important. Get a rubber mat to put in the cubical so they won't slip and away you go..... I tend to find the only problem I have is getting my daughter OUT of the shower.

Susan - posted on 05/29/2010

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wow my emma who is 6 in september has been going in shower since baby ,obviously with me at first then with shallow bath with sister then from 4 on her own with door open and me putting kiddy shower gel on her she loves showers and in sticky hot weather will have 2 or 3 a day .we live in all electric house so kids are encouraged to shower rather than bath ,we only allow bathing once twice a week because bathing 4 kids all wanting full baths would cost a fourtune and i dont think its as hygienic as a shower.

Tracie - posted on 05/28/2010

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My 2y/o loves the shower, just ask her if she wants one. I love it because I can save water and a quick shower saves time many a night (and you can walk away for a few seconds to get the forgotten flannel without fearing she'll drown!)

Emily - posted on 05/28/2010

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It depends on the child, I think. Some fairly old kids, like seven or so, don't need a parent present to bathe, but just like company. When you feel she is safe in there and can handle the soap and shampoo just fine, ask her if she'd like to take a shower.

Monique - posted on 05/28/2010

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My advice is let her keep taking baths because she's so young but if you decide as her mother to let her shower you have to be veeeeeeeery very careful!!!! You have to watch her! I mean like go in and talk to her/watch her while she's showering until you believe in your heart she is "READY" to shower on her own! I didn't start my daughter in the shower until she was 7!! She'll be 9 in July, Well.. >>I prayed this helped you out! :)God Bless..

Heidi - posted on 05/28/2010

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If she wants to take a shower and likes it let her take one. She is becoming more independant and needs more privacy now that she is getting older.
My daughter is 7 and has been taking a shower since she was 5. I still wash her hair for her but then she is on her own. You may want to sit in the bathroom with her and remind her to wash her legs, arms etc.

Teri - posted on 05/28/2010

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if she wants to, let her. my lil boy just turned 6, and he takes showers. he likes to play in the shower, which is fine with me. i leave a towel hang over the bar, so he can wipe his eyes when he needs to. I can't stand to get water in my eyes when taking a shower, so i don't expect him to put up with it either. :)

Tamara - posted on 05/28/2010

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My 5 year old daughter has been taking a "big girl" shower for a year. However, I do stay in the bathroom with her. Recently, she wants the shower curtain closed. I let my daughter pick out her own soap and sponge. She loves it.

Diane - posted on 05/28/2010

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Of course she can shower if she wants to. My daughter is four and she takes both showers and baths. I still help her with both and need to be there with her. Some days she likes being able to choose. Diane

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My 5-year old has been taking showers and baths since she was 3. We base it on the amount of time she has to bathe. We, of course, don't leave her alone in the bathroom. We still help her wash and rinse her hair. She loves showers.

Tania - posted on 05/28/2010

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If she wants a bath, let her have a bath. If she wants a shower, let her have a shower. Either way she gets clean so it's all good. That's what I've done with my kids. They like having the choice.

Monika - posted on 05/28/2010

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as long as she want to have bath, you can let her to have it. it is nothing wrong with that. maybe you can try to shower her every second day...or you can take a big shower every day, but on sunday she can have a bath.

Sarah - posted on 05/28/2010

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Absolutely. My daughter is 5 and has been taking showers for a while now. Good luck!

Lisa - posted on 05/28/2010

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My daughter is 4 & my son is 2 and they both love showering. I stand there with them & my four year old is just about doing everything herself, even washing her long hair. It's great because it's quick & easy.

Rosario - posted on 05/28/2010

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I started giving my girls showers as soon as they could stand...too many germs in bathtubs!!!

Jennifer - posted on 05/28/2010

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My daughter just turned 7 in February. She started taking showers intermittently last year, but is now just starting to take them consistently. I think it really depends on the child.

Carol - posted on 05/28/2010

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My 6 year old daughter has been showering alone for at least two years. Her twin brother just discovered it this school year. It depends on the kids.

Feather - posted on 05/28/2010

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I let my daughter start taking showers on her own time. She is 7 and she rather take a shower then a bath like her brothers. She washes her own body and if she needs help with her hair i will help her. So if your daughter wants to take showers let her, but dont make her.

Autumn - posted on 05/28/2010

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My daughter started at 5, and needed help. Now though she's 8 and does it all on her own. It took a while until she could do her hair by herself, but it was worth the time helping her. Now I tell her to take a chower and she goes and does it. She alternates between baths and showers and doesn't get bored.

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