Melissa - posted on 02/20/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )
I live currently about 1500 miles from family. I'm divorced and been so for almost three years. For the past three and half years I've bascially done 100 % of the care of my son alone. I have no family here. My ex spouse is here and he's been in/out of alcohol rehab and relapses, etc. He is doing better currently, but not in any position to help much with childcare (no car, no job right now, looking for job). He hasn't paid any support since last summer and even before that was not giving me full support payments.
My lease is set to exp. here early April and I'm considering, should I move closer to family. The rent is going up here and if I stay here, I think I should try to move to a cheaper apt. I'm paying tons of money out in babysitter fees, etc. Some months, I'm having trouble paying my bills, been able to do so so far, but really worry about it longterm esp without child support pmts.
My son really wants to move closer to family and is begging to move back this summer. He has sensory processing disorder and is currently in a special ed class mainstreaming into a regular ed class and doing well with that. I just worry about moving him to a new school and having issues.
I don't know how much family could help me, but I worry being alone here and if dad relapses again, I have no one. It can be very stressful.
Has anyone been through something like this?