should i try for a 7th kid
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Elan - posted on 09/12/2012
The fact that you're asking other people if you should have another child only shows that you're not sure if you want to have another one. It seems from deep inside you think you have enough to take care of. Why don't you ask yourself, your husband or your children? Does your husband want another child? Do your children want another sibling? You know your situation better than any of us. We can write whatever we want here but at the end of the day, you and your family will be the ones affected.
Look deeper within yourself and ask the people who will be affected with your decision.
Alanna - posted on 08/14/2012
I have 7 kids! 5 boys ages 12, 11, 10, 5, 3. and 2 girls ages 6 and 19 months. i love my big family! we were expecting our 8th but lost the baby about a month ago 6 weeks along. i still want to have another:) my advice is that if u think u r stable enough then go for it! God is good!
Andrea - posted on 09/18/2012
My honest answer is no. You said you want another because you want a girl but you've had 5 boys in a row. You're more likely to have another boy. Would you love a 6th boy as much as a 2nd girl? If you wait and think on it, and know in your heart that you would be just as happy with another boy, then it would be ok.
Sherri - posted on 09/17/2012
Really Donna there is a family in my town w/8 children they manage beautifully. They just built a 10 bedrm house. They attend every single baseball, basketball game any of the children have. They have a simple routine stick to it and they afford financially amazingly and every one of those children are in an enormously healthy environment.
Why do you think that just because someone has a large family they can't live in a healthy environment or be able to afford to care for them?
I have 4 kids w/giant age gaps. 15, 14, 6 & 7mo's and my 14yr old helps me with the baby all the time. Just because they opt to help out, so you can get laundry on or dinner done, in no way makes you not much of a parent. My kids are all expected to help out w/the house etc. It is called being part of a family. No matter if you have 1 or 10.
DONNA - posted on 09/17/2012
There is a term for women like you and it's "BREEDER."
A woman who has nothing in her life but giving birth and raising children.
You have made yourself dependent on having something small and weak to take care of and this is incredibly unhealthy for both you and the children.
Let me ask you a question: how can you possibly take care of so many children. If your answer is that you make do then you arent, if your answer is that the older children help then youre just not much of a parent, in my opinion. And how exactly are you affording to raise and feed 6 children in a healthy environment?
Either way you need some serious hardball counseling instead of having yet another child.
Sherri - posted on 09/14/2012
I am well aware of how the world works but thank you for thinking I am ignorant on the subject simply because I have decided to have more kids than you have. I have done my research on having more than 2 children and sorry but I was and still am okay with my decision to have 4 children and I will not be justifying my reasons to you about the size of my family. I am okay with any person having as many children as they seem fit whether that be 0 or 20.
Oh and the US has enough oil rich land that technically we do not need to even be in the middle east. However, the US for ridiculous reasons refuses to allow drilling on that land in Alaska. So you do know what happens when you assume something especially when it comes to other people......Right??
Rotflmao? When one of those kids dies and when it doesn't????
Rotflmao? When one of those kids dies.... who will be laughing? While your desires might make you want more kids, it's your ignorance to how the world works that will make them dead. That's ridiculous? You do understand why we spend so much time in the middle east I'd hope... Perhaps spitting out kids is a more worthwhile study lol. Wow
Ana - posted on 09/13/2012
It's up to you and hubby.. why, because you never know who you are raising.. might be the next president, or his wife..! lol..keep it easy, obviously you know what you are doing when it comes to parenting and it seems as if your kids are sort of right behind eachother..
If you decide to have another one, there will be a 10 year difference.. will kinda be like having an only child in about 8-10 years..
Well that's just it Sherri, it is Queens place... After all, it's called a democracy for a reason right? Enough certainly is enough.... It's one thing to keep the population growing, but when it gets to the point that we as people have to use so many resources that we have to send out "7" kids overseas to kill people over all the oil we need, yeah.... I'd say there is a line where "enough is enough". Anyone that's ever lost a child in a war can probably agree.... We use and use and use, and then we have to take. Heck, why not have a 100 kids, that way you can just create your own little army and go knock over stores and banks too instead of stopping at the small change act of killing people in foreign nations for what they have cuz you can't keep it in your pants....
That's the truth hurts lol
Kylie - posted on 09/13/2012
You and your partner are the only ones who can answer this question! However there of course will always be a 50% chance that a child will be a boy. How would you feel if you had another boy? A child should be wanted regardless of gender.
Sherri - posted on 09/12/2012
However, Queen it is not your place to say when it is enough for them. They will stop having children when they so choose not because you say sooo. DUR!!
Just because you opted to only have 2 doesn't make you any better or worse than any other person who opts to have none or a 100.
I love myself too however, I LOVE my 4 kids to death. They are my life and then some. I would have had 20 if I could have but God had other plans and blessed us with only 4, I can't help but be very sad about this for us.
Queen - posted on 09/12/2012
LOL! I can..... and that's why I I have self control... a tight vajay jay... and no need to feel the type of love children provide because i love myself! OBVIOUSLY! DUR! besides over population and the obvious number of children ready for adoption and good homes... the psychological aspect of why people feel compelled to "breed" ooo thats right i said it.... AND SPARE THE BIBLE THUMP..... CUZ GO FORTH AND MULTIPLY......at some point.... you have to know when to say when! WHHHHEEENNNNN!!!!!!!!!
Queen - posted on 09/12/2012
should you try to make tax payers pay for one more of your children? sure! Unless you have your own TV show there is no way in hell on a middle class income you can afford 7 kids, so NO you shouldn't have another kid for me and every one posting on here to pay for! Truth hurts~!
Sherri - posted on 09/11/2012
@Elan yup read your article but still doesn't change my stance what so ever. I have 4 and if I could have would have had 12. God sadly had other plans though. So instead I will opt to foster to adopt if I can convince my husband.
Elan - posted on 09/11/2012
I hope you read this first before you decide
It's about the Tragedy of the Commons. I have 3 kids but if I have read this before I had kids, I would have chosen to have only 1 child. I have no regrets in having my 3 kids but I think we shouldn't just think about ourselves. Pls. do read the article. Thanks.
Population is a good point. Keeping the Dads in the family down to just 1-5 would be great too, so hopefully they are all by the same daddy lol. The Brady Bunch x 7different dads effect seems much. Perhaps this one will have better income than the last 6 though... cha ching on that child support baby!!
Heck I don't know. What a world lol.
Tammy - posted on 08/27/2012
Ugh, some of these answers that people gave you are outlandish!!!
Yes, there is a population explosion, but there are so many people that don't have kids at all.
So, if you want another and can afford/handle it, go for it. But if you really want a girl, I do suggest you go to a fertility specialist and get some info on ways to chose the sex of your baby.
Tracie - posted on 08/26/2012
Bekah - since you asked, if we're trying to control overpopulation then 2 seems to be the logical limit. Two new people to replace the two people who are going to die gives us a zero population growth. And what if you're 8th child is the tipping point in resource consumption and my first child was the one who was going to cure cancer, but they died because your 8th child ate their food? We can play the "what if" game all day. I only deal in facts. And the facts are that our planet cannot sustain current consumption levels. It's math. Very basic. No opinion needed. Humans can only inhabit about 20% of the planet (the other 80% is too wet or too cold). We need to be judicious and forward-thinking when it comes to managing our meager 20%. It's not about me. It's not about you. It's about everyone. We're all in this together. The decisions we make "for ourselves" affect all the people we have to share our planet with.
Jessica - posted on 08/25/2012
Hi! My opinion is that if you want another kid go for it. You never how long u got left. I am 30 yrs old and my father had me a baby sister who is turning 4 and I could have never been happier. My dad recently passed at age 48 earlier this year. The point I am trying to make is you only live once and you should make the best of it don't wait because you are unsure of others opinions. If you want another kid you should have one. Thxs
Bekah - posted on 08/21/2012
So at what point is it immoral to have another child - Is 2 too many, 3, 4?? If the world is so over populated and you are gonna judge this mom for having 7 kids than why shouldn't others judge you for having 2 or 3? What is the "moral" limit for the number of children?
How about buying and selling child credits like energy credits that corporations do? Whose to say how many people the planet could truly hold? And what if my 8th child is the one to discover and/or invent a renewable energy that is cheap, easy, convenient, etc?
Taya - don't listen to others ... You have to do what is right for you and no one else should be telling you otherwise - or judging you for the number of babies you want to have!
Yessss Tracie nicely said... I was wondering if I was the only person to think alone those lines.
Resources are finite - that means something that is used up by your children (and my children too of course) is no longer available for anybody else to use. There's a moral issue here.
If you and your husband want another baby, you have the means to support him(!) or her, then by all means have another. I am secretly jealous of your large family. I wanted three but my husband has stopped me at two. Realistically we can't afford another, but that doesn't stop the intense longing. I think my husband is finally starting to see it from my point of view. Anyway, enjoy your large family and don't worry about age gaps. Children are amazingly resilient and get used to whatever situation they are presented with. After all, this baby will have six big brothers and sister to look up to. Just don't let the baby get away with everything just because it's the baby. Good luck and hope it all goes well.
Bekah - posted on 08/20/2012
I agree with almost all the other ladies! Go for it! If you and your SO want 7, 8, 12 ... :-) and you feel you can provide for another than by all means!! I want a large family. I am one of 6, my dad was one of 10 (possibly an 11th which would have been my grandmas first that was adopted out).
I have four ages 16, 11, 5 and I have a six week old baby and I definitely plan on having more!
By all means have more and don't listen to others criticism, if it is what you want than do what makes you and your SO happy!
I agree with Barbara as well. If you are unsure about another pregnancy than adopt a child. Maybe a middle aged child if you are worried about the age gap.
But whatever you choose it is your choice and you alone are the one that can decide if that is what you want!
:-) I hope I am one day being able to consider a 7th child :-)
Jill - posted on 08/18/2012
Taya, dont listen to Jakki. she's entitled to her opinion but it has nothing to do with what's best for your family. if you wanna, then you shoulda! go for it! and many blessings to your family! i'm very happy for you. i have 4 step kids (26, 24, 22, 20) and 2 of my own (8 and 4) and a daughter in law. that's 7 and i'm done done done! we stopped when we felt it was right and you should do the same. the age gap means nothing to children. they adjust. if it works for you, then it's the right decision.
Jantcy - posted on 08/18/2012
I would also suggest looking at Ashley Spencer's book How To Concieve The Gender Of Your Choice if you specifically hope for another girl. I had four boys and one girl. My daughter really wanted a sister and I wanted another girl and my husband said six was the limit. I read the book, and tried to have the mindset we get what we get, but it doesn't hurt to try to increase our chances, and we had another girl. As for the age gap, I have four siblings 9, 11, 12 and 15 years younger than me and I loved getting to help with the babies, and it was nice for my mom to have older kids to help around the house. If you and your husband want another baby, go for it.
Pamela - posted on 08/14/2012
Why would you ask? If you want a child have one. There are families with as much gap as 20 years between siblings. Who cares? It's no one's business but yours. If you want another child and your mate agrees.....go for it!
Well if you'd like my honest reply - I'd say "stop with the 6 kids".
The earth is already terribly overpopulated, and think of what it will look like in 2050 or even 2100, when our generation of kids will .be very elderly.
There'll be no oil left and the climate will have gone completely crazy - It's not going to be happy times.
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