Elizabeth - posted on 01/08/2011 ( 12 moms have responded )




What is the right age to allow your daughter to have a sleepover or go to a sleepover at a friend's house? I have a nine year old daughter who wants to have a sleepover. And I have two younger children, a boy, 6 and a girl, 5.


Fiewor - posted on 08/06/2013




I know as a mother, you sometimes feel the need to have an "alone time". However, the safety and proper upbringing of your children should be the very first thing on your mind at all times. Just because everyone is having a sleep over doesn't mean your child "MUST" have one too, and if they MUST, it is safer if sleep overs are only with family members that you trust to be responsible ( it is easier to tongue lash an erring relative, than an acquaintance). Teach your children from the onset what is right and wrong. Start being their friend and confidant when they are as little as a year old and they will trust you even when they become teens. They see their friends in school and go to the malls with them, don't they? Night time is for sleeping and resting to get ready for the next day. Children should be taught to put things in perspective from the get go.
Sorry, I know I sound harsh, but this generation is turning into something else, and it is left for us parents to correctly raise role models.

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Leigha - posted on 01/10/2011




My 7 1/2 year old hardly spends a Sat. night at home anymore! She has a best friend her age in the neighborhood and they are constantly together. For her birthday last year we hosted a sleep over for her school girlfriends and had about 6 little girls here!

Allie - posted on 01/10/2011




~~I have a 7 year old girl and a 13 year old girl...I really think as a mom you have to step back for a moment and look at where your child wants to sleep, do you trust this family,do they do things that you mirror yourself...would you worry about what is being talked about? How do the parents treat their children?

Jessica - posted on 01/09/2011




My kids have been having sleep overs since they were 3 and 4. It makes it easier to spend time away from home without getting upset (school excursions etc)

Candy - posted on 01/09/2011




Sounds like a good age to me. Of course I dont plan to let mine sleepover at anyones else's house. Other then Nana's. You never know who might show up and time has proven you dont really know the other people either. Sisters and brothers can be just as evil. I feel my kids can have over all the friends they want but they cant go over to their friends house.

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i have always thought it's lovely for my kids to have kids stay over and also to go to other people's places. My kids have begged since a young age. In fact my eldest went to have sleepover with her best friend when she was 18 months old (yeah!) just to get into practice when I was pregnant with no 2 and may have needed her to stay over at short notice.

Obviously some kids (and parents) have problems with anxiety and separation, but I think that for average kids, there's no reason why they can't go and sleep with trusted friends and family from a young age.

It's great for kids to see that other families have different routines and ways of being - it broadens their mind no end.

Sherri - posted on 01/08/2011




I have been allowing sleepovers since about 4 although they were close family friends. However, for my older two not with school friends until around 3rd grade I think. Even then it wasn't until I knew the parents for quite a while and really more times than not are more family friends, and I know the families rules, parenting styles, have hung around with them, been to their homes, etc.

Angelica - posted on 01/08/2011




Nines a good age. Make sure you meet the parents and get emergency numbers.

Tammika - posted on 01/08/2011




Honestly, my son has been doing the sleepover thing since he was a preschooler. He has always had a lot of little cousins and friends around and they like to spend lots of time together. I had a little anxiety at first, but I figure if anything goes wrong they can always call me and I'll come get him.

Angie - posted on 01/08/2011




Depends on how well you know the family. All my children went to sleepovers before they started school.

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Depends on your child and your comfort level. I was 5-6 on my first sleepover and did a lot of back and forth overnighters w/ my best friend.

My girls are 9 and have only done a sleepover (not counting Grandpa's or Dad's house) when I was in the hospital having their brother.

There are only 2-3 homes that I'd be comfortable letting them sleep over at and we just haven't ever managed to arrange it.

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My 8 year-old daughter keeps asking for her first sleepover. I think we'll let her, but either have her friend come over first or she can only go to one friend's house (the friend who's mom I've met and trust). I think it's all a out your comfort level with it, but I personally don't think I would let my daughter go any earlier than 7 or 8 and I would NEVER allow any of my daughter's to have a sleepover at a friend's house unless two thngs happen first - 1: I've met the friend's parent(s) and trust them AND 2: I've been inside the friend's house and I know it's safe.

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