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Stubborn 8 year old.

Natalee - posted on 08/27/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )

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One of my best friends lives right across the street from me. So we're pretty much at each other's houses everyday. She has two sons (11 and 8) and one daughter (9). Her two sons share a room together. I couldn't help but notice, everytime they're asked to clean their room, her 8 year old just sits on the bed, while his older brother does all the work! She told me this has been going on for a year or so. We've tried things like telling him he can't play until he cleans his mess, but he doesn't seem to care.

So, my question to you mothers. Do you have any idea how we can solve this problem? Any suggestions at all?

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Kym - posted on 09/03/2012

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Hi there,



My three children (14,10,8) get told to tidy their rooms, and if its not done my Husband gets a big black rubissh bag out and that seems to work. (if they dont clean their rooms he will and EVERYTHING ON THE FLOOR GOES OUT !!!!!!!. This has only happened once to each of my three. It might be worth a try....

Margaret - posted on 08/29/2012

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I have boys that share a room, they are only responsible for their own mess. Not clean no extras e.g dessert, take away, treat at the shop. The youngest will soon learn even if it is the hard way but you mustn't give in e.g I promise to do it when he gets home.... Home that's hepls

Natalee - posted on 08/29/2012

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Thank you all! I love the bin idea, it sounds like something that would work. We'll see how it goes!(:

Amber - posted on 08/29/2012

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One of my friends has a bin and anything the kids won't clean up goes in the bin. They cannot have it back until they do a chore to get each item back. She was so sick of all the mess. It works for her. maybe give that a try. Or if he won't help clean up, he gets a favotite toy or TV taken away for a certain amount of time. Good Luck :)

Rebecca - posted on 08/29/2012

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I have an 11year old, an 8 year old and a 7year old. My son is the youngest and he has 2 sisters. They all share a room. They all have to tidy their own mess. The rule is one box of toys eg lego or cars, dolls or petshops, at a time. If anything is left on rhw floor or not away, it goes in the bin!! This works.

Amy - posted on 08/28/2012

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She needs to speak to the 11 year old and make sure that he's only cleaning up his mess and his portion of the room. That way she can hold the 8 year old accountable for his portion. My kids don't share a room but my 6 year year old son is constantly in his sisters room cleaning it for her, she's only 2 1/2 so it's not really messy but at some point he's going to have to stop so his sister can learn to be responsible for her own messes.

Chaya - posted on 08/27/2012

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My sister would tell you it's God's punishment for you having been an 8 year old..

My suggestion would be to require him to clean the room himself for a few months. No clean room, no (insert reward here) Additionally, give the kid who's doing the work a reward for doing it himself. Maybe big brother getting a chocolate bar would be appropriate.

If it were my kid, I'd tell her to keep her door closed, but that doesn't work with sharing a room.

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