Talking Back...

Leah - posted on 07/22/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I have a beautiful, intelligent eight year old daughter. She is very creative, and usually thoughtful. However, recently she has started talking back HORRIBLY! Everything is a an argument, and I feel like I am living with a moody teenager, when she is only 8! This makes me really worry about what she will be like later. SO.. any suggestions on how I can get her to stop and start speaking respectfully?

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Tamara - posted on 07/22/2010

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My daughter is starting to do the same thing. I was telling her to watch her attitude, but have changed it to her tone when she talks to us. I let her know it's okay for her to feel whatever way she does but she can't always talk to us the way she feels. I encourage her to tell us how she feels and what she wants, and with her acting like a teenager and when she talks to us with respect I talk to her like she is older then she is. She responds to it well, she actually responds to reason very well. I am finding that it is a long road, but it is easier when I keep my cool (which with all my pregnant hormones is not easy these days)

Good luck.

Carla - posted on 07/22/2010

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We have been going back and forth on this, check farther down the posts and see if you can find it. Basically, it is not uncommon for an 8y/o to be going through adolescence! The moods, the breast buds, etc. My girls were horrid when they were going through this! Tears over every little thing, tantrums, oh boy!

That being said, whatever she is going through is not an excuse for disrespect. What kind of discipline system do you have in place? My 3 y/o granddaughter had a meltdown today, she was absolutely hysterical, and she doesn't normally act like that with us (just with her mom :)) I gave her a warning to stop, but it got worse, so I took her and put her on the naughty chair. She started screaming 'No!', but I kept putting her on, and she sat there 3 minutes, after a couple tries at getting up. I went and got her, told her what she had done, and that Grammy does not put up with this; had her apologize and then hug and kisses. I am not quite sure how this works, but it does. I don't know if it's putting her somewhere quiet, even if it is just for 3 minutes, it stops the interaction that could come between us if we keep being in close proximity. And we always close our naughty chair moments with hugs and kisses, I love you's, etc.

I have read a lot of posts from mothers who take away things, iPods, TV, computer, etc., but that is a hit-or-miss thing. I have been using the naughty chair for 2 years now, and it just works! I hope this helps you, honey.

God bless!

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