The truth about Santa

Kim - posted on 11/10/2008 ( 12 moms have responded )

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When is the right time and age to tell my childern the truth?? A few of the friends already no longer believe. I don't want them to hear it from a friend and be mad at me. The girls ages are 9,8,&7. My oldest one can keep a secret, but that seems like to much pressure to put on her. Please help me!!

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Remember the article "Yes Virginia there is a Santa Claus." It applies and I read it every year to my kids along with the actual Christmas story. They still believe!

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My 7 and 5 year olds still believe, but the 7yo is starting to ask questions. She told my husband that her friend said your parents put presents under the tree. He thought fast and said yes, we do, but then Santa comes and puts more. She obviously wanted to keep believing and was fine with that answer. I had to smile at Kim's comment about the Santa suit. My daughter started asking years ago if each Santa we saw (mall, in front of Target, on tv, etc..) was the *real* Santa, and I started telling her that the *real* Santa was busy at the North Pole and that all the others were his helpers because there was SO much work to do to get ready for Christmas. lol. I am afraid this year will be the last year for her, but she seems to want to keep believing. Even after they knew that we knew, my parents insisted that if we denied the existence of Santa, we wouldn't get presents, so even into adulthood we would say certain extra-good presents were from Santa. Had to stop that when the kids came along... :-)

Kim - posted on 11/14/2008

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Thank you for all the replies!! They have all been very helpful. I hope the truth can wait, but if not I am ready for the truth. the one problem we have is that they found my dad's Santa suit three years ago and because the littlest one was only 4 we made up a story about Santa's helpers! They found that pretty cool that Papa knew Santa! So they may think Santa is real for a long time!! Thanks again for the help!!

Jessamy - posted on 11/14/2008

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You know when I was a little girl, I told my best friend that there was no such thing as Santa (My parents didn't celebrate Christmas.) Her mother got so mad at me and I felt terrible.... We celebrate it now with our 3 & 5 yr. olds... and I won't say anything until they ask. It's a lovely tradition and the innocence that comes with believing in "magic" only lasts a short while... why end it sooner than necessary (when they ask)?

Melody - posted on 11/14/2008

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My oldest just turned 11 today, and we told her last year at Christmas time. She was really questioning everything about it and a lot of her friends were talking. She seemed fine and wasn't mad. She helped me get things ready last year for my younger one too and has been fine with keeping secrets. Ironically enough, she still believed in the tooth fairy. She didn't equate that they were all fake yet (or at least, not that she has admitted). I think it would be different with the individual child though. I think you'll just know when it is the right time!

Karen - posted on 11/14/2008

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we are also christians and i dont see anything wrong with making your children believe in santa. it is a magical time for them. a time of innocence and fairy tales. she believes in the tooth fairy and the easter bunny and that the princess's really do have their own castles in disney land...

Amber - posted on 11/14/2008

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I've always told my kids (8 and 7) the truth about Santa - even though they've come home from school at times wanting to believe the myth. But instead we talk about St. Nicholas and the spirit of giving. I don't have to worry about them being traumatized when they discover they've been lied to.

My husband and I also chose this because we're Christians. We want Christmas to focus on the birth of Jesus. We tell them St. Nick had the spirit of giving because he was celebrating Jesus's birth, and that's why we follow the tradition of giving too.

Maribeth - posted on 11/13/2008

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Wow!! My boys are 10 & 7...and they still believe!!! I was just having this very conversation the other day with a bunch of friends...we were talking about when we found out the real deal, and everyone had all these horrible stories of either older siblings or friends ruining Christmas for them, by telling them "There was NO SANTA"!! I found myself trying to remember the big moment when I too figured it all out, and honestly I couldn't remember??? I was the youngest of 4 kids and I guess even though I was forever being called the brat of the family, my older siblings stepped up and didn't ruin it for me....so in closing , I just hope my kids have the same experience that I did, and they can believe as long as they want...they grow up too fast as it is....so let em' be kids for as long as they want!!!

Karen - posted on 11/13/2008

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my oldest daughter is 8 and still writes to santa. she believes with her whole heart. i wont be the one to burst her bubble. when she asks i wont lie but gonna try to keep the dream alive as much as possible.

Alicia - posted on 11/11/2008

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My girls are not old enough yet although it is just around the corner. When my step-son found out we tried to make that time extra special for him and it is something we do every year and will continue to do. He gets to help put a few "santa items" (not all) under the tree after his sisters go to bed and he gets to eat the cookies and drink the milk the girls leave out for santa..



My step-son found out about everything when he saw his dad playing Easter Bunny and hiding the eggs...for some reason he just didn't believe the Easter Bunny was busy and asked dad to hide them for him...LOL



Good luck!!!

Amy - posted on 11/10/2008

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If they ask I would tell the truth, but I wouldn't be the one to tell them. I don't think they'll be mad if they hear it from their friends. That's how most people learn right? good Luck! It will break my heart once my kids are old enough to start questioning Santa!

Tricia - posted on 11/10/2008

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My daughter age 8 inquired here recently and we told her the truth. She is quite excited about keeping it a secret for her younger brother. She wants to "help" with the festivities. :)

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