tired of the mess.

Krista - posted on 10/31/2008 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Seven year old that leaves stuff out from morning to night. I make her pick up, but exhausted from reminders.

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Shirley - posted on 11/12/2008

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find out what she likes, when she start leaving things around the house let her know that until she cleans up she can not do whatevet it is she likes to do. I have a six year old son he like to play games and go to the movies. so when his room is dirty I will let him if you don't clean up there will not game playing or no movies on the weekend. and it works

Meghan - posted on 11/12/2008

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I agree with Veronica. I have 3 boys and one of them is a "trailblazer" . I threatened them that were left out at eh end of the day would be given to Good Will. It only took 1 trip to drop off at Good Will and I never had to say another word.

Jennifer - posted on 11/05/2008

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Oh good! At least it's not just my kid! I try to confine the mess to her room. If it comes out, I tell her it goes in the trash. One Barbie got thrown away, and now she's pretty good about keeping it in her room. I just close the door and walk away.

Rhonda - posted on 11/05/2008

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i know how you feel i have a 9 yr old daughter that wont clean her room, so one day id had enough... i grabed a garbage bag and made her sit with me and throw the items out she no longer uses to my shock supprise this worked and now she goes through the items she no longer plays with and throws the mess out... as for little bits and pieces like barbie brushes that she use to leave in the lounge room i would throw them out now she knows if she leaves mess in the loungeroom it gets thrown out

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Start one day by letting her know that she can keep any toys that she picks up. Don't remind her (don't make it your problem, make it her problem). Set the rule you want - they need to be picked up by the end of the day, before she goes outside to play, when she is done playing with them, whatever works for you. Let her know one time that this is the rule, and again, she can feel free to keep any toys that she picks up. The let her make the mistake of not picking them up. Quitely hide them where she can't find them. When she asks, just let her know "Oh, how sad for you. I get to keep the toys that I pick up.' You can let her earn them back by doing chores, or just give them away. The hardest parts are to not remind her to pick them up and not to react to her anger when she discover her toys are gone. Make it her problem and it will be a lot eaiser on you (and she will learn responsibility).

Veronica - posted on 11/03/2008

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For my son it toke like 4 weeks but it was worth it. The first week I told him Troy put your toys away 2 times a day. The second week I told him that if he couldn't find his toys not to ask me. I had put them where he couldn't find them. The third week I gave them back and told him next time they would not come back. Week four I just started to put them in the trash when he found out what I was doing he would see me coming and run and pick his toys up and put them up. He knew that if I put them in the trash he would never get them back. It worked for me. And no I did not buy him more

Bridgett - posted on 10/31/2008

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I call my ten-year old a "trailblazer" - meaning she leaves a trail wherever she goes. I take her ona tour of the house to show her where she has been and the evidence she has left behind. Now I just say "Bailee, your leaving a trail!" and she says "I did?" But, then she knows to go back and check her areas before she leaves them. This drives me nuts.

Amber - posted on 10/31/2008

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8 year old that does the same thing - leaves stuff out - I make a pile and she can't do anything until it is put away, this works great foe me, I just had to be really consistant for a while. If I don't make the pile I get exhausted of reminding her to get it together and put it away. It's like they can't see their mess!

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I know how you feel! My boys are soon to be 6 and 4. My problem is not getting them to help me clean up the mess. I have tried chore charts, rewards, taking things away, grounding...everything! Nothing seems to work. I get so discouraged because I cant seem to ever have a spotless house for more than 5 min! :( They do help at times with reminding but I wish they would be more consistant! It is so exausting!

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