Too curious about body parts?

Trisha - posted on 07/20/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My 6 year old daughter is very interested in body parts now. I know this is totally normal, but what I don't remember from that age is trying so hard to see them. But she's not curious about daddy, she's curious about me. Now I'm pretty open-minded and haven't really hidden myself from her but she's told me she's peeked at me in the shower and she pokes (yes, pokes) my breasts alot. She also puts her head on them when she's hugging me. Is that part normal? Is it because she's wondering if she'll look like this when she's older? She does keep asking if her boobs will be big like mine. I don't ever want her to be embarassed about her curiosity or her body but this unnerves me a bit. I tell her 'don't do that' in a casual way when she pokes me. I'm sure the hugging on my chest thing is a security thing. It all started when I started breast-feeding my sons (one 18 months, one 2 months). I never hid it from her. Neither of them are breast-fed now (not my choice) so I was just wondering. Anyone have similar experiences?

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I agree. Ask her questions and get her talking. But I would take it one step further at this age and start introducing modesty.

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totally normal...they are just curious and learning new things.My daughters (9 & 6) had plenty of questions when I was breast feeding my baby girl and I answered them all, I want them to have all the facts. I wish my mom would had been so open with me about my body, puberty, boys and sex....I will always educate my girls and be there for them to talk to and to answer all their questions.

Trisha - posted on 07/24/2009

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Thank you ladies. I think I will ask her questions next time she does it. I was pretty sure it was a normal reaction and probably spawned from the breastfeeding. Thanks and God bless you.

Kathie - posted on 07/22/2009

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I think the key to this is that your son is 2 months. (edit: new baby in the house could be part it. Kids react in a sundry of different ways when a sibling is born.) You started breastfeeding. Your daughter is old enough to understand that it was from your breasts that your son's nutrition came. You said you are not breastfeeding now. So i would imagine that the issue of breastfeeding was something of a central topic in your household for awhile. These afore mentioned, serve to draw attention to your breasts in regards to your daughter. Maybe she is confused about the breastfeeding thing. After all you started it and then you stopped. Maybe sitting down and talking about breastfeeding and the reasons why you stopped might be the trick in getting her to move on.

As for the poking and watching you in the shower, i do feel you need to address that with her too. If i were in this situation, i would poke at my child's arm or leg a couple times and when they pulled away i would ask them why they pulled away. You can then use that to explain that your breast are a part of you too and that she should respect your body as your property just as you respect her body as her property. Tell her that instead of poking or peeking that she should respect your body and you enough to talk to you about it instead of disrespecting your privacy.

Julie - posted on 07/21/2009

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my son did similar things with mine groping them, staring, instead of "hiding" or being stern about not doing it i asked questions back like why do you do that? what are you looking for? etc. it kind of forces that curiosity out so i can answer his questions without him feeling too ackward to ask on his own usually just why do you have boobs? what are they made of? why dont boys get them? by essentially forcing him to ask me i was able to kill his curiosity on the subject and also answer his normal childhood questions. in your case it could also be why are the babies sucking on them? or even a seperation like issue but try asking her what she's thinking about and help with answers

Isabel - posted on 07/20/2009

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it's normal she is just finding out there are differences between a boy and a girl. my daughter is five and wants to have boobies already but children just are curious and like to feel like they are grown up im also a teacher and children are just curious in Pk4 but you have to be a little more distant and careful in school settings about how much to tell them. Its all part of growing up!!!!

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