Dawn - posted on 08/13/2012 ( 11 moms have responded )
can anyone help me plz i have tried going through the right cannels with this problem for over 2yrs now and im really at the end of my tether. iam a mother of 4 my oldest is 24yrs and my youngest is 8yrs.i have lived at my present address for nearly 13yrs now and most of my nieghbours are new to the cul-d-sac. however there is 1 nieghbour who moved here 6mth after me we used to get on great until she became the legal guardian of her niece who happend to be the same age as my youngest daughter. she just snubbed me for no reason at all and from time to time i would ask her if id done something wrong but she would just turn away from me. over the last 2 to 3yr she has made my daughters life hell and has turned other kids and nieghbours against her/us. the kids gang up spit punch kick and call her names etc every time she goes out to play. there are19kids in our cul-d-sac and only 2 of them play with my daughter but the others threaten them and take them away from her. i have approached the parents and all they say is well so what or keep her indoors then.this nieghbour is well in with the school and the govenours and got the teacher to separate my daughter in class from the other kids including her niece she told the headteacher that my daughter bullied all the kids in our street and got 5 other nieghbours to see him to back her up...he told me this. i had a number of meetings with the school and the education welfare officer < who couldnt believe the way the headteacher treat me and she advised i took my child out of the school as it was clear she was the victim.i have kept a diary of what has been happening and took it to the houseing officer who went across to the nieghbour who then sent her to the other 5 neighbours and when she returned to me she said my child was the bully and that she had also spoke to the head who said the same.i have also had the police involved and they just say its a common problem parents fall out over kids all the time....i dont think they take things seriously. my daughter didnt play out for over 8mth and became very withdrawn. i changed her school just 3wks before they broke up for the summer holidays and she has just started to play out again until tonight. she came breaking her heart because a 10yr old had chased her through an ajoining cul-d-sac onto the main street and back home trying to hit her her arms torso and leg had bright red marks where his 4yr old brother had hit her with a twig from a tree.she said she was just playing with anouther boy and the 4yr old started to hit her with the stick she ran away from him but his brother and the rest of the kids surrounded her to let the 4yr old continue to hit her she managed to get away but crying saying sorry mam for going on the main street.after getting the same story from the boy she was playing with and another boy i went to see the parent who said well he is only 4 and his brother said she had kicked him so he was only sticking up for his brother my daughter and the 2 friends denied kicking him. i really dont know what to do other than move house and thats not as easy as said than done. any help please.