until what age i should use the pasifier for my child?

Suhad - posted on 01/06/2010 ( 48 moms have responded )

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my son around 4 years still use the pasifier when he sleeps,he doesnt sleep without it,what is the best way to let him sleep without it????

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At my daughter's dental checkup when she turned 4, the dentist said that a couple of her teeth were loose (not alot, but enough), and that she had to give up her pacifier. We took her to Build-a-bear and let her pick out an animal to make. She put all of her pacifiers inside the bear and it was sewn up. She can still sleep knowing her pacifiers are near her, but she knows that she can't put them in her mouth because they hurt her teeth. It was a way for her to not use them, but still get comfort knowing they're near. The first couple of nights were hard (and I did give one back after I cut a hole in the top just to show her that now that she was "big" they wouldn't taste good). Good luck with whatever you decide to do!

Emily - posted on 01/07/2010

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around the age of two or three.. although there is no long term damage until they begin to develop their first set of permanent teeth.. (usually around the age of six).
pacifiers at that time can cause:

* The top front teeth to slant out.
* The bottom front teeth to tilt in.
* The upper and lower jaws to be misaligned.
* The roof of the mouth to be narrowed.

(visit colgate.com's website for further info).

when i was ready to wean my son off of them, i took a pair of scissors, and cut off the tips.. i re-dispersed them into his favorite hiding places.. he couldn't get used to the 'new' pacifiers, and went on his way.. never touched them again.. (it will take a few days of pouting, but worth it, considering the damage it can cause later on down the road).

hope this helps..

Grace - posted on 01/06/2010

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I told my daughter at age 2 that the pasifier fairy comes to collect pasifiers from kids her age and gives them to other kids younger that can not affored them.Have your child find all of them put them in a brown lunch bag leave them for pasifier fairy/super hero one night and the next mornning their will be a big girl/boy toy or something to sleep with from now on.Thats how it works for big kids remember their big kids now not babys

Meagan - posted on 01/06/2010

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maybe u could try a blankie or a toy he feels safe with or try a nightlighthope it all goes well for u

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Cindy - posted on 02/05/2010

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100% agree with Glory, just throw them out! I did the same with baby bottles and diapers, if you don't have them, you can use them :)

Glory - posted on 02/05/2010

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take it away...that is the only way, there is no nice way of doing it...My son walked around with his blakie for years....he used to suck on the corners of the blanket, corner by corner...to the point that I used to soak the corners in bleach because they where disgusting...he did it for ten years....so you can just imagine what this blanket looked like!...as a mother I tried taking it away but I always gave in...I felt so bad for him when he would look for it before he went to bed...this kid used to hold on to his blanket in the car on his way to school and leave it in my car until he got out..lol anyway my husband took the blanket one day and I have no idea where it is...my son cried but I tell you within a week after that he stopped asking for it..he gave in...as long as you don't mention it to him,,,he is fine..it was the best thing for him,,,you are the problem ...PLEASE NO OFFENSE TO YOU ..what I am trying to say, we as mothers are no help..so my sugestion to you is take all pacifiers in your house and throw them out!!! that way NOT YOU or HIM can get to them...

Julie - posted on 02/05/2010

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When my kids were not even one year old, I would let them fall asleep with the paci. After they fell asleep, the paci would fall out of their mouths, I would take it up. I think I weaned the paci at age 2 by cutting of the very tip. Everyday I would cut a little more off until there would be nothing left to suck on. I like the idea of replacing it with a teddy bear or other stuffed animal. Make it a trade though. Take him to the store, have him pick out an animal, but explain to him before you purchase it that he will need to give you his paci. Hopefully he will be so excited about getting something new, he will agree in the store. If he says no, then put the animal back on the store shelf and walk away. When he asks for something new after this, be willing but only if he gives up his paci. If he's not willing to compromise this go around, try another method. Good luck!

Cindy - posted on 02/04/2010

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My daughter was 1 and 6 months when I was already sick about her pacifier, I went to a store and bought a teddy bear and I told the girl that my daughter was giving her her paci so she can give her the bear, Didn't work so good, she was mad with me and cried 2 days for 10 minutes and forgot about it.
A 4 year old child understand perfect, just tell him that he is so big for a paci.
With my second child I say bye bye to his paci and bottle when he was 10 months old, a lot easy because he couldn't talk and make me feel bad :)
Good luck!

Kammy - posted on 02/04/2010

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I would poke a hole in the end of the pacifier. My daughter would not give it up either until we poked a hole in it. She would take it to bed and when she realized it would go flat she stopped wanting it.

Anita - posted on 02/04/2010

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With a dummy you can just chuck it out. My daughter sucks her thumb, and has since she was a couple of weeks old. She is also 4. I wouldn't stress too much about it. I spoke to my dentist and he said as long as they stop before their baby teeth start to fall out, then they won't get bucked teeth. I don't see a problem if he is only using it for sleep, as long as he's not walking around with it in his mouth constantly. Maybe talk to him about replacing it with a "special" toy. He will get used to not having it, if you are desparate to get rid of it.

Jakki - posted on 02/04/2010

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I agree with the posts above that say going cold turkey is best.



Kids get used to new things surprisingly quickly. My daughter was completely besotted with her pacifier but on her 4th birthday we said "that's enough". She cried and cried on the first night, and I was tempted to give it back to her, but by the 2nd and 3rd nights it was OK.



Be strong! It won't be as bad as you think. And give him a nice reward for when he gives up the pacifier.

Sherri - posted on 01/13/2010

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My children where taken off pacifiers at the same time they weaned off the bottle (they just disappeared 'oh my what happened?'). Most children May suck their thumb for a short time after the pacifier is gone but that is normal and stop on their own. By the time they were in school sucking thumbs was considered Baby behavior not something Big kids do.

Althelia - posted on 01/12/2010

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Quoting Suhad:

until what age i should use the pasifier for my child?

my son around 4 years still use the pasifier when he sleeps,he doesnt sleep without it,what is the best way to let him sleep without it????



Im almost sure youve tried not giving it to him but what i've learned is that if you just stop giving it to him, yes it will be a task at bed time but it will not last that long. I guarentee if you stop giving it to him. Everything will be smooth withinn two weeks!!!! Gud luck!!!!

Althelia - posted on 01/12/2010

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Quoting Suhad:

until what age i should use the pasifier for my child?

my son around 4 years still use the pasifier when he sleeps,he doesnt sleep without it,what is the best way to let him sleep without it????



Im almost sure youve tried not giving it to him but what i've learned is that if you just stop giving it to him, yes it will be a task at bed time but it will not last that long. I guarentee if you stop giving it to him. Everything will be smooth withinn two weeks!!!! Gud luck!!!!

Janie - posted on 01/11/2010

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talk to him say he's a big boy, try to see if he can sleep without it or swop with a teddy or other soft toy. my boys gave them to santa or the easter bunny- they got something to focus on and yes we had tears for a few nights but continued praise also helped.good look

Debi - posted on 01/10/2010

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Also when I realized my daughters teeth were begining to grow out and with an over bite I quit it right then. I was afraid for a while but when she started loosing teeth they came in beautifully!

Debi - posted on 01/10/2010

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My daughters were 11 months apart so I know what it is like to try to break the passy! For my son that had the passy at night time when I took the passy he chewed on the corners of his blanket of course he was old enough that he was not going to choke but it seemed easier on his teeth then the rubber of a passy. I decided for both my son and daughter to end the passy teh same way....but you have to be sturn and have willpower!....I cut the tips off all the passys in the house and would give it to them when they would cry for it and of course they would TRY to chew it for a while but realize it was hopeless and they gave up quickly! Good luck!!

Monica - posted on 01/10/2010

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I am not in favor of a pacifier fairy or lying and saying that they are lost, or other kids need them more than he does.... Be honest and tell him he doesn't need them any more- he's a big boy! (tell him they can hurt his teeth, too- that's true)
I do like the idea of giving him a new stuffed animal to have at bedtime :0)

Mickie - posted on 01/10/2010

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I think the bottom line here is that, at this age - you as parents can get lots of ideas from other parents ... but by this time, you either have to step up to the plate and be strong parents to your 4 year old ... if you don't want him to have the pacie or turn your head and let him keep it until HE decides he doesn't want it. All these parents have given you very sound advice ... so you have plenty of jumping points to start from. The real question is "do you really want to stand firm when the noise starts", which it will, when he can't have it? If you can deal with that - and are ready for it (because there is not quick fix to any stage with children) than pick a plan and start your engines. It's all up to you now!

Monica - posted on 01/10/2010

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I decided by their first birthday we would be done with pacifiers. Frequent use can lead to problems with their teeth and language development. I have three sons, and only boy number two really liked his pacifier. Before his first birthday I'd stop giving it to him at naps- he rarely used it outside of naptime/bedtime. Just throw them all away and if your child asks for it or signals they need it---just don't give it to them. It may be a rough couple of days, up to a week. But if you throw them away---all of them-- you won't cave and give it to them in a moment of desperation. The transition at this point will be tough- but know he will be able to learn to live without it.

User - posted on 01/10/2010

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Once the pacifier is lost dont buy another one or if he is running around without it in his mouth trash it. Now you going to have to figure out how to keep him busy to tire him out as far as going to sleep. But after a few days of non rest on your end the pacifier will be history. But work on it soon I was told it messes up their teeth. Be strong..

Tara - posted on 01/10/2010

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I took my sons away at age two, bottles too. As soon as they know how to drink out of a sippy cup they should no longer drink from a bottle and the longer you wait the harder it is to take it away form them later. As soon as mine drank from his cup I throw away all the bottles and pasifiers. There not good for their teeth. They may cry at first at night to fall asleep but you have to let them cry them self to sleep and get used to not having something to suck on. Ya! it's hard for a couple of nights, but it only took two nights with my oldest and three with my yougest.

Mickie - posted on 01/09/2010

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As I said, each parent would have their own opinion. I think consulting the dentist is an important part of the decision. But by 4 that would be a mute discussion - and damage would already been done. By 4 all his teeth are in and getting ready to start their falling out process. Most kids lose their first teeth in kindergarten. Whatever the decision it has to be one that both parents agree on and can carry out as a team. Because at age 4, it is going to be a difficult on. Maybe talking to him about being a big boy and treating him more and more like a big 4 year old might encourage him to act older and he will toss it aside himself. You have many, many good ideas here. Good luck.

Janet - posted on 01/09/2010

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Well, my opinion both my children were off by a year old! That was my limited, it was hard, but I was very persistent about it! I believe that it is a good thing to have them off, because of their teeth development, that is what my dentist said to me! I hope this helps!

Mickie - posted on 01/09/2010

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Neither one of my kids had pacies that long ... and most doctors would tell you that it isn't good for them. And you could probably ask 100 parents and get a 20/80 split with answers of their opinions as to what they did and why. You know your child and you know what he needs. I have taught nursery school for 25 years and I know several kids still had pacies at home ... it was their relaxation tool (like those who suck their thumb or twirl their hair). They didn't bring it out of their room or their house and friends never saw it - it was something they used to calm themselves down. Is it right? Is it wrong? See what the dentist says about it regarding his teeth. Are they being hurt by it? If not, than what's the problem? He could just need a little more time to mature. He will toss it when he's ready. Like a favorite cuddle toy or blanket - it will be near but not used. It won't go to college with him. He may be feeling a little insecure at night or afraid ... maybe needing more mom and dad time. As I said, only you know you child. And that's why only you and your child can make the decision - please see my blog on other issues, if you like. nanny2go.wordpress.com Trust your instinct

Christina - posted on 01/09/2010

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You are really going to have a hazrd time getting rid of it now. I made it a goal to get rid of them around two years of age. Just like blankets and stuffed toys, they will become dependant upon them and it takes away from language development.

April - posted on 01/08/2010

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Quoting Grace:

I told my daughter at age 2 that the pasifier fairy comes to collect pasifiers from kids her age and gives them to other kids younger that can not affored them.Have your child find all of them put them in a brown lunch bag leave them for pasifier fairy/super hero one night and the next mornning their will be a big girl/boy toy or something to sleep with from now on.Thats how it works for big kids remember their big kids now not babys



I also seen this idea on the Super Nanny...I thought it was a great idea!

Janelle - posted on 01/08/2010

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Tell him that there are other children that need it more than he does and help and encourage him to (give it away..."send it in an evelope".......give it to the "pacifier fairy") what ever you decide, then he gets to go pick out a new toy or something for being such a big boy!.......and truely just throw them out and if he does throw a fit about it remind him what a good thing he has done (it won't last for more than a day or two) - Good Luck!!!

Debbie - posted on 01/08/2010

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According to my daughter's doctor I should have gotten rid of her pacifier right when she turned 1 year old. I ended up getting rid of her bottle then and then around 18 months old I finally took the pacifier away. I started with only letting her have it at naps and night-time but then something happened and she wanted it constantly. I ended up having to take it away cold turkey. It was about a week of her not being happy with me (screaming, crying, taking forever to fall asleep and such like that). But now she's two and a couple months ago a baby dropped her pacifier in front of her and Ella didn't even react to it like she would want one. So goes to sleep easily now as well since that was something I worried about since she went to bed so well with the pacifier. It just took her getting used to not having one and then she began falling asleep easily without the crying.



I was lucky with my 8 year old, she never wanted a pacifier so I never had to worry about weaning her off of it.

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Snip a small hole in the end and try to replace it with a teddy bear. It won't be as interesting anymore and it'll be better for his teeth.

Linda - posted on 01/07/2010

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I have a thumb sucker (7yo) and that is harder to stop than dummies/pacifiers!
My cousin got the dummies that she could find, got her daughter, a bin and let her know that she was a big girl know and that she doesn't need them anymore and procedded to cut the bit that goes in the mouth way from the hard plastic and threw them in the bin in front of her daughter. She kept doing it (and repeating the words) till there was no more for her daughter to find. Her daughter whinged and cried for about 2 days and that was it! She was 2yo when it was done she's now 7yo too).

Emily - posted on 01/07/2010

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i would buy him a new blankie, or soft teddy bear. tell his he's moved on to big boy status to help him through the transition.

Tamika - posted on 01/07/2010

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for myself and many other mothers I know we found out if you cut a hole in the top if the pacifier the child soon will not want suck in it anymore.

Rebecca Lynn - posted on 01/07/2010

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My son threw his out when he was 3mo and wouldn't take it back but my Daughter is almost 1 and still has hers we will be taking it away very soon, we've already limited her to it staying in her bed.

Julie - posted on 01/07/2010

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both my girls lost there pasifier when they started getting teeth around their first bdays. but what i think might work for you cuz he is only sleeping with it is. maybe you could have him snuggle up with his fav stuffed animal and get him a night lite that projects the stars on his ciling.. my kids love them and the fall asleep looking at the stars.. hope this idea works for ya!!

Rebecca Lynn - posted on 01/07/2010

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I would say take it away by age 4 that's to old lol my son is 4 and he is in kindergarten

Shiela - posted on 01/07/2010

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I took my daughter off the pacifier when she started crawling and didn't give it back after that. As soon as she could occupy herself with new things she never begged for it again. I would go with Meagan on this one and get him a new toy or blanky and hope he takes to it.

Liz - posted on 01/07/2010

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Binkie fairy worked for us! Granted my son was not 4. It was a little fussy and a few tears that night but in the morning when he got his Big Boy present and a thank you note from the fairy he strutted around like a peacock feeling very big boy. Being 4, your son probably already feels he's a big boy so maybe the binkie fairy could leave him a cuddly stuffed animal or another lovie type item. Or is there a true big boy toy he would like? Don't let the fear of his tears ruin your resolve - he is too old for the binkie. He will adjust - you may not get any sleep that night - but he will adjust.

Shelly - posted on 01/06/2010

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Wow! I don't agree with children this age having pacifiers; for numerous reasons. But, that's neither here nor there. Here's the thing - he's used to it in his life, in his surroundings. At this age, it's going to be a rough transition. If you can plan a short trip somewhere for a couple of nights or if you are planning on a vacation, the best thing to do is cold turkey it, AWAY from his normal surroundings. The binky had to go bye bye, it's not allowed on the trip. Get rid of every last one before you leave, or it will pop right back in when you return from the trip. Reward him with a lot of praise and "what a big boy he is now" when he goes through the first night. My daughter had absolutely NO issue when we did it this way, but when I had originally tried taking them away at home, it was bad. So, on the trip, they were gone. She didn't miss it at all when we returned home. However, she was under 2. For you, because he's so old, it may be rough - temper tantrums, crying - he will grieve it. You just have to stand firm. Tell him the Pacifier Fairy had to come collect the binkys for another little baby that came into the world, and the baby really needs them. You can easily handle a few nights of restless sleep, it will pass. Just be patient, strong, and loving. Good luck!

Kelly - posted on 01/06/2010

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My kids never took one, but the lady next door to me her children all had one and one night when they were sleeping she threw them all away. Her kids did cry and whine about 2 days and then they just stopped..Just make sure the people around you know that your done with them too because nothing worse then someone watching your kids give them one..Had that happen with a bottle..Good Luck

Kate - posted on 01/06/2010

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Well, I look at this as something like Santa, the Easter Bunny, etc, etc. And, hey, whatever works! lol

Alisha - posted on 01/06/2010

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This idea is cute but it is also lying to your child which I wouldn't advise.

Brittany - posted on 01/06/2010

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You should definitely have it completely gone by the time he is 5. After that it can do damage to teeth.

One trick is to cut a slit in the tip of the pacifier and make it larger each day. I've heard that the child will often give it up on their own after a couple of days. Once it feels a little different they will decide it just doesn't work anymore.

Alisha - posted on 01/06/2010

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Usually the nuk's go when the bottles go but since you have a different situation... it will be much harder. You will just have to wean him off of it just like a bottle. My daughter never would take a pacifier so I'm not sure about this one. Just stop giving it to him one day and try other techniques to get him to be comforted before bed like rocking, back scratching, giving him a favorite toy or blanket. It will be a challenge but hang in there and don't give up. Also say big boys don't need those and keep comforting him; dont' give in when he screams for it!

Kate - posted on 01/06/2010

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Well, I'll tell you what worked for me and maybe you can take something from it! I slowly weaned him off the pacifier until he only used it to sleep at night and I waited until he was around 3 years old to get him completely off it. I talked to him about having to stop using it for a week or two and then during one of our discussions about it, I told him he could give his pacifier away to the sheep (our local childrens farm is well known for letting children "give" pacifiers to the animals - great idea) so the sheep could then give it to a baby who needs it. He liked that idea so when we next went to the farm, he gave the pacifier to the farm staff who played along brilliantly! There were no tears, and when we got home there was a little present from the "pacifier fairy" on his bed. The only tears we had was actually at bedtime. I think he only truly realized what it meant to give his pacifier away then. Still, it was only a few sad tears and then he accepted it - because he gave it away himself.



Hope this helps - good luck!

Nikki - posted on 01/06/2010

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I, personally, would have gotten rid of it years ago. I took my sons probably when he just turned or was about to turn 1. I didnt want it to become something that he felt as though he needed. Same thing with a bottle. I heard so many stories about people having problems with getting their children to be ok without either of those after being so used to having them, that I wanted to make sure my baby wasnt dependant on it. Once I decided it was time to get rid of them, I just took them all and tossed em out. That way there was no way for him to see it, and hopefully, out of sight, out of mind. Also, they can cause your child to end up with buck teeth, even if taken away thy are used to sucking on something and I think thats when the thumb or fingers come into play. If I were you I would take them all and just toss em. Tell him he is a big boy now, and big boys dont need em. If you talk to him in a positive way, it will make him feel like he is a big boy and he wont want em. It might take some time. Try working on some sort of 'being a big boy reward system" I hope this helps. Good luck

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