Very emotional 6 year old. Is it normal?

Kayli - posted on 03/11/2011 ( 39 moms have responded )

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My 6 yr old stepdaughter is unbelievably emotional. She will cry about pretty much anything. Is this normal?

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Catherine - posted on 10/07/2013

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My daughter is 6 years old and she has been crying randomly for the past 3 years. When I tell her no, she starts to cry. Even when I say something like hey what are you doing or just go tell her to do something, she starts to cry. Example last night, she said she wanted to do mommy's hair. I said sure, she started playing in my hair. I told her to holdon, mommy has to go check the dinner and she started getting mad and whiney and then started crying. I don't know what to do. This morning, she woke up pretty happy and then I went to my room and came back, and she looked really sad and was crying! I asked her what was wrong she couldn't even tell me a reason. I must admit, I did over react about the situation but I just can't tolerate it anymore. She has an appointment to see someone in about a month but I need to know something now because this crying is getting out of control. Anybody have any suggestions with what is going on in my daughter's head. She has been doing this since she was 4 years old.

Vani - posted on 08/03/2012

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I have a 6 yr old son. He has been acting very emotional lately .He recently came across a homeless woman and was very upset . He kept crying that she is so helpless. This happened a month ago. Last week he came back home from his summer camp and started crying again. When I asked him the reason he mentioned that he has a friend in camp who has hard time using scissors. I told him that he should actually help his friend with the cutting part. He was ok after few minutes. But now I'm starting to worry that he might have early symptoms of depression or just sensitive kid. Please help

Beth - posted on 03/20/2011

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They're becoming much more aware of the world around them and that they're not at the center of it, so it could just be this stage of development. If you suspect it's more, there's a book called The Highly Sensitive Child that you could check out; there's a free survey online with questions to answer if you think she's highly sensitive.

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Oh yeah, totally normal. Be prepared - she's entering her tween! ::gasp:: lol. My stepdaughter went through the SAME thing at around 6 years old too. At least once a day she would just break down crying - sometimes for no reason whatsoever, sometimes for very valid reason (like "I was thinking about how sad I was when my great granma died"), sometimes for really silly reasons (like "when I was 3, I kissed Garrett" He was one of her best friends at that age), and sometimes for kinda disturbing reasons (like "I don't think my other mom [her bio mom who abandoned her] really loves me." or "I's afraid of the day you die."). THEN, you add in all the changes in this age (starting "regular" school, etc.).

All-in-all, this is a very emotional age. Don't worry about it too much and comfort her as best you can and she'll be fine. :)

Good luck - I know I'll need it too! My daughter's 8 now and the emotional outbreaks have tapered off quite a bit (if that helps ease your mind).

CoffeeMom - posted on 03/14/2011

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yep I would say its normal its a phase. My 7 year old is awful about it. if she thinks we are mad at her, when we try to explain something, shows on tv sometimes, sappy songs on the radio (anything that is old and slow). Anyway I have tried to have her go to her room and calm down but that only get the Mommy and Daddy hate me routine started. One thing that works for me I made chart and everytime she a meltdow/blowup we wrote it down and the reason why, how we could handle it better next time. There are some things I can understand about crying for or at but having these things daily 7 to 8 times a day is old. I hold hope it will get better soon and your not alone look at all the parent out here dealing with it. I have told my daughter from time to time that I love her more then anything but if she cries my head might explode. ( her crying is more like a huge fit throwing screaming cry but the time she get done both hubby and I have headaches and we even ask the dr about and she said its a stage cause they don't quite understand their emotions yet.

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Mary - posted on 04/02/2014

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I'm sorry but I really hate when people say girls are harder than boys. They are both children and they are both a job to raise in their individual ways. It is ignorant and dismissive of a girls development to chalk it up to another "difficult" female. Some boys and some girls are extra sensitive too. And guess what extra sensitive people need help managing their emotions when they are growing up but these are typically the people with the biggest hearts who are grow up to be the caretakers in the world or the artists. Help them, don't just make them feel crazy or roll your eyes. If your child were hitting and aggressive you would be helping them stop and work through their "big feelings". But somehow so many parents and teachers just love to throw up their arms and say "OH GIRLS!" or "OH MY BOY IS ACTING LIKE A GIRL!"

Rachie - posted on 03/30/2014

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My partners 6 year old boy will cry over everything.
And I mean everything from toast to juice, his school bag, socks, shoes, school clothes, his dinner, when you ask him a question, when you ask him to get his lunch box, when his brother walks down the stairs before him. When his sister walks into the school gate before him.
It's not just crying it screaming to. He used to be aggressive and punch me all the time in the stomach over his toast not being cut in perfect triangles.
He has been doing this for the 3 years I have known him.
The pre school, his mother, me, his big school have all said there is something wrong but his dad refuses to do anything about it. The school called to say kids are not hanging with him because of his behaviour and constant crying.
I did want to have children of my own but now I really am turned off.
He also chews his finger tips to the point of bleeding. He also rocks back and forth. When I mentioned something was not normal about 6 months ago his father broke up with me. It's been another 6months and nothing has changed apart from getting hit in the stomach daily.
This is destroying me what can I do to make his father get him some help.
Naughty corner does nothing, his dad screaming at him does nothing, the time out does nothing, telling him positive things does nothing, rewards does nothing.
Please help.

Cheryl - posted on 07/30/2013

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taekwondo I was told helps with anger and controlling hitting and outrages anyone have experience with this with a 9yr old the oldest of 3 girls
My middle girl is the crier I really believe its wh

Cheryl - posted on 07/30/2013

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taekwondo I was told helps with anger and controlling hitting and outrages anyone have experience with this with a 9yr old the oldest of 3 girls
My middle girl is the crier I really believe its wh

Cheryl - posted on 07/30/2013

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could it be the add meds they made me cry a lot I got off them asap it was wellbritrin

Karen Ann - posted on 12/18/2012

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My daughter same age & does the same thing only her dad & I are divorced so I don't know what to do

Jessica Lynn - posted on 10/03/2012

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yes, my daughter does it all the time if she cant get it her way... and even in stores its embrassing to me and my boy friend ... we just want to laugh but u cant its your child and its hard delling with stuff like this i got pregnant with her when i was 15 now im like 25 so yeah shes spoiled but not rooten yet.. if u know what i mean

Celine - posted on 01/27/2012

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Yes Ive notice that my 6 year old is doing the same she crys a lot! If she doesnt get her way she crys and its very frustrating. I dont want her getting in the habit of crying and thinking she'll get what she wants... lts hard sometimes because it could be over the litttlest things.

Now that she has her 6 month old baby sometimes it gets hard for me to keep up with her emotions. I try to talk to her as much as I can to understand her better. I let her know she is 6 and shes not a baby anymore and she needs to stop crying for little things.

Jen - posted on 01/25/2012

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My 7 yo son is perfect at school. When redirected or disciplined , no problem. At home, something so simple and stupid will set him off. Hot mess. I get angry. I beg him. I tell him just because I tell him what the rules are, I love him. Now, awful as it sounds, I correct and ignore him. I'm screwing up!

Jen - posted on 01/25/2012

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My 7 yo son is perfect at school. When redirected or disciplined , no problem. At home, something so simple and stupid will set him off. Hot mess. I get angry. I beg him. I tell him just because I tell him what the rules are, I love him. Now, awful as it sounds, I correct and ignore him. I'm screwing up!

Dawn - posted on 01/23/2012

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I think this is normal. I have a son who went through that stage. He was more emotional then physical like his brother. Don't let her think that it gets to you unless she cries for a good reason and she will learn. I also told him that instead of crying just come a use your words to tell me how you are feeling and why. Good luck to you and your stepdaughter!!!

Anna - posted on 01/23/2012

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my 6 yr old son is highly emotional and everytime you try to ask him a question he says i dont wanna talk about it and starts crying. he cries over every little thing. hes on medication for ADHD but i dont think it has anything to do with it, but idk what to do anymore.

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My son was exactly the same way until we put him in taekwondo at age 7. It ended in 2 weeks. I don't know why. Tons of other parents there told me the same thing. Even the korean master of 25 years, said his father put him in TKD at age 6 because he was a "crybay." If anyone is in the WNY area and wants to try this for free for a couple of weeks, let me know and I can get you 2 free weeks and a free uniform for your child. You'll know easily in that amount of time if it will work for you too.

Tunisha - posted on 03/23/2011

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I have this problem with my son..... He has a habit of crying whenever I try an talk to him... I can't explain it or understand this backwards step but I was told He will grow out of it . w

Diane - posted on 03/21/2011

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MY GRANDDAUGHTER DOES THE SAME THING. SHE CRY WHEN I TELL HER WHAT TOM DO.SO YES I AM IN THE SAME THING WITH HER.JUST HAVE A SFT VOICE WITH HER AND SAY YOU CAQN DO IT ARE YOU7 WILL STAY IN YOUR ROOM.

Tiffany - posted on 03/17/2011

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One thing to keep in mind that this is a good time to try and explain how to handle certain things whether or not crying is a warrented reaction. falling and getting hurt, crying is acceptable. not getting what they want - not acceptable. etc. they are now testing you and the people around them as they become more aware of their emotions and how their emotions affect everyone else (ie. getting what they want or the attention they want) Do not give in to them if they cry, however talking to them briefly about why they are crying is a great tool. My daughter went through this and came out of it quicker than I thought she would because I think that she realized that it is not worth crying about many small things.

Sally - posted on 03/17/2011

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She may be suffering from anxiety. Whateva it is she's worried about it's very real for her and takes up a lot of her head space, be empathetic and understanding. If your worried your child health clinic or GP is a great place to start. My now 10yr was always like that from about age 4 and I always told him to get over it, stop being silly etc etc. He's now receiving the help he needs, psych, anxiety clinics etc etc. Unfortunately he got worse and now has 2 x diagnoses.Hopefully it's just a phase for your girl. If it's a recent change in her personality look at what's changed recently - Has she just started school? What does her tchr say? Is she this way in the classroom? Or playground?
Good luck - I wish you and ur little girl all the best.

Jenn - posted on 03/16/2011

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It is all about tapping into new emotions, just like when they turned 2 or 3 and everything set off the tears then. Six years old is big time. Lots of changes physically and emotionally. Boys are just as emotional as girls too!

The difference is, girls like to TALK. They need someone to listen. Even if what they say sounds so trivial to get that upset about, it matters to THEM. And of course girls are ready to talk only on their terms. It is frustrating but like the other posters have said, some kids are more sensitive than others. Patience and understanding (you know your child so you KNOW when her emotions are real or embellished!) will help her understand that her feelings are validated though tantrums are not tolerated.

All kids are difficult to raise at different times. They are complicated little beings! ;)

Melissa - posted on 03/15/2011

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It's definitely not just a girl thing...it's a boy thing too. My son just turned 6 and he is so emotional. My husband can look at him and he breaks into tears. It's about to drive me crazy. It constantly something, whining, pouting, or crying. I hope it passes soon, I have 2 more children (1 is 5 and my daughter is 3) and I'm not sure I could handle all 3 of them like this.

Laura - posted on 03/15/2011

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Thanks Holly..I will be or patient and more comforting. It's reassuring to know that there are people in the same boat...

Brenda - posted on 03/15/2011

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My son who is now 8 went through the same thing when he was 5-6. He would cry when he would say hi to someone and they wouldn't say anything back. He loves life and people I think that it has taught him to have more respect for others (not his sisters LOL) because her cares what other people think. he is much better about it now when people don't say hi back to him he just will say it louder and go about his business.

Merenda - posted on 03/15/2011

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I know this could be incredibly irritating at times.... but do try to listen and understand why she is feeling so emotional.Anyway, I think that you just have to be patient, some children are more sensitive than others, and give her lots of support and reassurance. I expect she will grow out of it to some degree!

Laura - posted on 03/14/2011

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I to have a 6yr old girl . They are very emotional. Her favorite line to me is "you just don't understand what I am trying to say"! She gets so frustrated. I try to calm her down so we can talk about it, but sometimes she just gets so upset. What can I do???

Edie - posted on 03/14/2011

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I don't know if its normal or not but I have a soon to be 11 year old son who does this. If he is late for the bus he will cry, if his dad says anything to him he will pout. A couple of months ago he didn't feel good in class but he wouldn't tell the teacher so he sat at his desk and cryed until she noticed, it took me 4 days to get him back to school cuz he was embarressed that everyone in class saw him crying. wether its normal or not idk but its how he is. He has always been a mommas boy from the day he was born.I was known at my discharge class after i had him as the one with the baby that wouldn't take a bottle. I know they say babies at first like the bottle cuz its easier but not him. And NOONE could hold him but me for the 1st 8 months, if he alowed me to put him down that is. and i am not one who believes in the baby can't cry. He is my third child and it just didn't matter with him, he slept in our room until he was around late 3- early 4 i think. he was in his own bed but it had to be next to my side so he could fall asleep holding my hand. I know that sounds a little (alot) crazy but after awhile sleep becomes more important than the fight!!

Deepti - posted on 03/14/2011

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whenever she is in calm status, talk to her about her school, friends, her like and dislikes... also create a time space on weekly basis where both of u can share about each others experiences of the week... u can motivate her to talk abt you, the things she didnt like abt you... in the same in a very calm and friendly manner u can pinpoint things of hers which u thought were not right and the right ways to do the same... this may help

Samantha - posted on 03/13/2011

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I have almost 8 childern ( due in may with another little boy ) but yes it's normal. I have three girls and let me tell you LOL! It starts then, calms down and comes back when they hit the teen years. Just explain why you're doing what you're doing and if she cries or throws fits for no reason send her to her room and tell her when she's done throwing a fit or crying she can come talk to you. My daughter is almost 6 and we just now got her out of that phase, she actually started when she was about 5. It's tough but she'll learn her crying or throwing a fit for no reason won't get her anywhere or attention.

Kayli - posted on 03/13/2011

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I try to talk to her about why shes crying, and she always answers with 'i dont know'. so it makes it really hard to understand why shes crying. :(

Dara - posted on 03/12/2011

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My 6 year old wears all her emotions on her sleeve...it's an emotional time being 6 and adjusting to school and everything! I think it's very normal, and this is the time we need to teach them the tools they need in order to deal with their emotions properly and help them work through issues before they start keeping it to themselves. Use it as a way to help them understand exactly what they are feeling and the reasons they feel this way, and you are building a foundation for later on in life, especially those confusing teenage years. That's what I think anyway. My daughter and I talk at great length about what she is feeling when she breaks out in tears, and what she can do to help herself feel better.

Kayli - posted on 03/12/2011

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Ya see mine doesnt have attitude thank goodness. But she does have mood swings sometimes.

Kimberly - posted on 03/11/2011

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My daughter is 5 goin on 6 and does this...and if its not crying, its attitude...only recently has this started happening when she started school...Its like she sees the other kids do it and think its ok for her 2...Idk but im right there with yall

Kayli - posted on 03/11/2011

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I know! I have no idea what to do. Like, yes i want her to be able to express herself, but at the same time i dont want her crying about everything so that she gets her way! girls are so much harder than boys!

Jessica - posted on 03/11/2011

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My 6 year old just started this. When you tell her she can't do something or if she gets in trouble and her daddy and I try to talk to her about it she starts to cry. I don't know what to do because i don't want her to be afraid to show her feelings but at the same time i don't want her to think she can cry and get what she wants. Little girls are much harder then boys

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