what do you do if your children doesnt like your boyfriend

Kawona - posted on 10/02/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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my 12 yr old has gotten into voice match with him and my 9yr old seems to follow older sister and says she doesnt like him either .because of my children feeling its making me look differntly at him to the point that i dont want to be with him anymore

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Tammy - posted on 10/05/2009

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Get rid of him! Kids are the best judge of characters and you should listen. My daughter didn't like any of my old boyfriends until my husband came along. She called him Daddy from the go and didn't hide behind me when he came around.

If your children don't like the guy there is good reason and you need to observe and listen to them.

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Indira - posted on 08/26/2013

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My is kids are 17 14 12 totally dislike my boyfriend becuz we argue alot and sometimes really get into it like pushing each other around and he curse them out for being disrespectful towards me what should I do

Princess - posted on 10/05/2009

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Well to me theres two sides to this one the child may see things in him that may hurt them.Just saying he might not act right around them and hate them or your child may not want to see you with anyone right now, cause for me when i was younger these were the reasons why i didnt like my mom's boyfriend.Sometimes your children knows.

Angie - posted on 10/05/2009

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Since you're already thinking you don't want to be with him anymore, end the relationship. You daughters must come first and if they don't like him, I'm sure there's a good reason. Like Tammy said, children are good judges of character.

Casey - posted on 10/05/2009

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it has been my experience that kids are a better judge of character then most people. my daughter is only seven years old and doesnt understand the relationship thing yet so my situation is different but i would sit down with them individually and talk to them. find out what is wrong and see if it can be dealt with. above all else, never choose the guy over your kids. i have seen people do that and it was a horrible mess. if things can't be resolved between your bf and your kids, than there is probably a good reason. listen to your daughters and let them know that you value thier opinion on this matter. your relationships will go a lot smoother for it in the future i promise

Chavon - posted on 10/03/2009

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well I have been that child who didn't like my mother boyfriend and I had a good reason, not to like him.. Trust your kids when it come down to feeling out the goood and the bad.. Maybe it like that movie I can do bad all by myself. The boyfrined in the movie was wanting to have relation went the young girl.. Ask your girls whats going on ... To see whats the problem... Whats bad will soon leave. your kids is all that you have and that goes the same for them... I wish you well in making up your mind. keep god number 1.....

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How long have you been seperated from their father? Sometimes kids don't like seeing their parents with other people so they act out and refuse to like anyone their parent becomes involved with, no matter who that person is or how great they may be.



I would suggest sitting down with your daughters and talk to them about it (maybe sit down one-on-one so they can't feed off eachother). Ask them WHY they don't like your boyfriend and really listen to their responses, don't just pretend to listen because that won't help anyone. It is important to know what and how your kids feel on this before anything else.



Then you need to sit down with your boyfriend and talk to him about it too. Lastly, I would say to sit down with ALL of them and try making them all understand each other.



If it doesn't work between you and your bf, then it doesn't work, but at least you'll know you gave it a shot. Good luck!

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