What is a good age for my child to shower alone?

Victoria - posted on 06/23/2010 ( 89 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 6..is that too young to teach her to shower by herself?Too old?
I still wash/rinse her hair in the bath but she has gotten the body scrubbin part down...

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My son was 6 when he learned to shower himself. I showed him the routine & he wears a bath hat (visor type) to keep the water out of his eyes but still enables him to wash his own hair. I made sure he was very aware of hot the water could get if he turned the knob to much. The first couple times I just sat in there to make sure he was ok. He took right too it, and now I love saying its time for a shower & he does it all himself!!

Cathy - posted on 03/06/2013

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Wow, I guess I need to cut the oO apron strings....my daughter is 9 and I still give her a shower. If I let her do it herself, she takes 20 minutes, uses tooooo ugh soap and shampoo, and get water all over the bathroom. My 6 year old son will probably be better at it.
I find its just faster if I do it myself.

Megan - posted on 07/04/2010

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I have started letting my 8 almost 9 yr old bathe by himself. He gets in, does what he supposed to and gets out in a resonable time. I believe he like the privacy now. We can't bathe them forever!

Loren - posted on 07/03/2010

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My son is going to be 7 and he still takes a bath and I still wash his hair but he doesn't want to take a shower he doesn't like the feeling and I'm fine with it !

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Nicole - posted on 10/08/2012

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My son is now six and he does everything on his own I taught him where to turn the shower knob and how to adjust it. I started with having him sit in the bath tub and clean his body by standing we started doing this when he was 4 because he was ready to shower he only liked playing in the tub and didnt like having to use a cup to rinse his hair.

Audrey - posted on 12/08/2011

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mine are 2 and 3 1/2. they like to take a shower sometimes, mostly just to be under the water. they take a few toys in and their little loofas. i give them a little bit of soap and let them wash themselves. i still do thier hair of course but they do pretty well washing thier bodies. i start and regulate the water for them and stay close by but other than that they do it all themselves.

Anne - posted on 09/08/2011

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My son was 4 when he started showering by himself. I do go in and give him the shampoo (to make sure he doesn't use up the whole bottle, lol). He usually takes some Hotwheels into the shower with him and once he is done with the cleaning part, he likes to play for a few minutes before he comes out.

Carla - posted on 09/07/2011

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MY son like to take what he call a shower/bath so he can play but if she is cleanning well let her do it. Mine like help with his har yet

Danielle - posted on 09/06/2011

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My son is 9 and he just started to take showers by himself this summer. (I would sit in the bathroom with him in case he fell.) I still go in and check on him.

Allison - posted on 07/18/2011

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My daughter was 7 when she started showering/bathing by herself. I would shower with her every second night (hair wash night) until she was 10 and could wash her hair (waist length) properly by herself. We didn't have a problem with it.

Lika - posted on 07/12/2010

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at the advise of her dr my daughter started showering b4 5 i dont know exactly what age but if she can wash herself shes good i would put a bath mat in the shower as well as a rug outside to prevent slipping leave the door cracked so you can hear whats going on

Merenda - posted on 07/11/2010

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I think that a 6 year old can bathe alone if an adult is within hearing distance in case they need something and always remember accidents in bathe can also happen.At this age most children can actually handle most bathing tasks independently, but still need adult supervision and assistance. So again it depends on each kids.Never leave a child under 6 alone in the bath. Don’t even turn your back to them. They will probably need help with cleaning their back.

Toni - posted on 07/10/2010

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My son has been showering himself since he was 2. I think it depends on if she is ready. You dont want to make it a struggle to get her to take a shower by herself if she isnt ready yet. If she is willing to then try it. You never know if you dont try!!!

Fabienne - posted on 07/10/2010

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I have a 4 yr old a still scrub and bathe her. Is that what we are referring to or talking about graduating to showers. She will be 5 this august. Should I start giving her more freedom in the bath?

Janet - posted on 07/10/2010

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4, 5 or 6 years is ok to learn to shower themselves but they need supervision each time thay do it. Detachable heads are the best. I let my only daughter to shower alone at the age of 5.

Michelle - posted on 07/09/2010

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My son is 5 1/2 we started to let him shower himself when he was 4, i stayed with him and helped with his hair but now he can do this all by himself and is very capable, he can dry himself too and puts his own cream on after i just do his back, which is nice to be needed for the litttle things now.

Donna - posted on 07/09/2010

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Six sounds fine. Go over the hot/cold water rules, and how much shampoo to use! May be pop in to make sure the hair is rinsed if the hair is long.

Jessica - posted on 07/08/2010

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Every child is different and so with mine I allowed them to start taking showers alone when they could wash their body good and wash and rinse their hair good without my assisstance in the bath. Thats when I knew they were ready for the shower. Our oldest was 7 when she started taking showers alone and our 3rd child is just now starting and she is 9 so they are each different.

Ginger - posted on 07/08/2010

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My son was 6 in April and is all on his own at bath/shower time. He even decided he wanted a bath last night, and fixed it on his own. Of course, in the tub he has help with the hair, but does a great job in the shower.

Courtney - posted on 07/08/2010

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My daughter was 5 when she started showering alone. She is now 6 and does the shampoo, conditioner and body wash alone. I still start the shower for her to prevent her from burning herself, but she turns the water off when she is finished. It is very relaxing for her in the shower, so we let her take her time and come out when she is ready (within reason, of course!). It makes her feel very grown up and independent!

Jennifer - posted on 07/08/2010

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i would say 6 but i still did the water adjustments and left the door open

Jeannie - posted on 07/07/2010

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well once your confident that they can do it on there own...no matter the age, I think 6 is fine. My son was 6 when I started letting him shower and I do still let him take baths...and I usually check him to make sure he's doing ok and cleaning himself properly...if not I repeat telling him how to and make him get back in and do it...And I think once they start becoming bashful about dressing in front of u or when there in the bathroom and U accidentally walk in and they go postal...lol It's time to let them have there independence, privacy and comfort by them doing it alone...children need to be comfortable with themselves and have confidence in knowing they can do it, as hard as it is for us mothers to see our children pull away and become independent, it's a good thing. good luck sweetie

Rebeca - posted on 07/07/2010

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For my daughter to start the transition we bought a detachable shower head that way you can make it a regular shower for yourself and then bring it down to their size so you can wash and rinse standing up and eventually they start helping my daughter still brings it down for her shower just because it helps her rinse better they can be expensive but I found them at Target for $14 something and I bet Wal-Mart would have a cheaper one as well.

Debbie - posted on 07/07/2010

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I liked this question, a lot. My son just turned 5 and im still conflicted if I should let him do it alone. I only say this because he still puts his head under water, and has choked him self with me in there. He spins in circles and has almost split his head on the faucet. I wouldnt say he's hyper but he loves the tub and he's at the age where listen isnt in his vocabulary. So should I still let him try it alone? Im old its hard for me to get down there to wash him all the time lol

Rebeca - posted on 07/07/2010

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My daughter is about to be 10 I know it may be crazy but I still keep an eye on her in the shower. She does the work but I adjust the water and dispense all soap and conditioner. I do give some time to her self while she washes but even at this age kids don't always do the best job of washing and rinsing all the time. I guess it is all up to the parent and how they feel though.

Nicky - posted on 07/07/2010

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no thats not to young to have her start bathing herself teaching them young like that will teach them to have a little bit more freedon and alittle bit responsiblity.plus shell think its neat that mommy dont bath her any more so try to make it fun for her as she gets older cause when she gets older then she wont want u in there any more i have a 13 year old and i tought her at a young age but just start out slowly then work ur way into having her do it all by herself u can even try to make it a game out of it to .. she have fun at it while shes getting clean

Cari - posted on 07/07/2010

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My daughter turned 5 in May, and she is showing a desire to shower herself. I let her do it every other time, but I monitor the progress. She's getting better, but she still likes to get in there and play around instead of washing. I think she should be good to go by herself by 6, and do a decent job of things.

Donna - posted on 07/07/2010

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My DD was 6 when she started showering alone. I walked her through it a few times but had already started teaching her to do her own hair in the bath so that didn't take long. When we had trouble with showers that were too long, I gave her a timer. She has to finish it off before the timer goes off - lol! I usually turn it on for her but we keep out hot water heater turned down pretty low to conserve energy so there's not much danger there. It's set so we have it turned all the way up when we shower.

Gail - posted on 07/07/2010

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As soon as my kid's wanted to bath/shower themselves(around age 5/6). I was all for it. I have 4 and their ages at present are 12,10,10,and 9. So it freed up some of my time. I used the little travel bottles to put their shampoo and conditioner that way we weren't going through it. And I would pop in and out to make sure they were ok and getting everything clean. Start when you feel comfortable with it.

Jennifer - posted on 07/07/2010

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I say it really depends on the kid. My oldest started showering alone around 5 (she's 6 now). I will go in there a few times to check on her to make sure she's doing a good job washing. I also have to check her hair once she gets out to make sure she rinsed everything out. I don't allow her to touch the water knobs though. Our water heater is set very hot and it wouldn't take anything for her to scald herself.
My 4 yr old son has recently started wanting to give himself a shower like his big sissy but he's not ready. We tried it out one night, I stayed in there to watch him and it just didn't go very well LOL. So I have let him start giving himself a bath... I fill the tub (I don't put as much water in it if I were bathing him) and let him soap and wash his own hair. He does a pretty good job. I still go in there every few minutes to check on him but hopefully he will be shower ready in the next year.
Also I would suggest you investing in a pump lid for your shampoo, if it doesn't already have one. I learned that the hard way.... they used up an entire bottle of shampoo in less than a week LOL. Once I put the pump on there I was able to tell them to only use X amount of pumps to wash their hair.

Darcy - posted on 07/07/2010

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My kids have been showering alone for over a year now... they are now 6 and 4. I taught them how to wash themselves when they were still taking baths and then when I felt they were too old for baths (together, its a waste of water and time for them to take them separate). I still watch them and make sure they are washing. When they wash their hair they simply close their eyes tight and mouth shut (and I still buy the tear-free shampoo and body wash).

Tina - posted on 07/07/2010

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I started my son at 5, but I was always in the bathroom w/ him. He is now 8 and doing it alone. I am doing my daughter now, 5, and again, am in the bathroom. I let her have her own independance and sh eloves it!! I will probably let her be on her own when she is in irst grade age 6 or so ;)

Nicole - posted on 07/07/2010

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We just taught our 5 year old daughter about a month ago to shower herself. Her big sis (7) even helped out. We do have the kids showerhead attachment as the showerhead in their bathroom is way too high so they don't get a good stream of water from it. Check it out- we even bought a second one when we moved - My Own Shower - Kids Adjustable Size Showerhead

Aniko - posted on 07/07/2010

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My children started taking a bath both around 4, my daughter still needed help with her hair , which was fine. I let them sit in there and stayed very close, just to make sure they were fine. They felt like big kids. My son is doing a very good job, 6 now. But i told them to stay sit and not to get up, because they might drown and injure them selfs. Well i was lucky, they never got hurt and as i said i was always close to make sure nothing happens. But yes, let them experience and learn to be a big kid.

Danielle - posted on 07/07/2010

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I am teaching my 6yr old to shower herself and she loves it. I showed her how to use the tub and even how to wash her own hair. Most of the time she'd rather wash her hair herself. It's a process but i think 6 is the best age to start.

Corrie - posted on 07/06/2010

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I taught them at 6 but we started at the pool. I think it was easier to start them in the locker room so they could ask others if they got all the shampoo out and such.

Macie - posted on 07/06/2010

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My son was 5, but I must say the boys are easier because of the hair thing. For girls depending on the length of there hair it can be complicated for them to shower by them selves. All you can do is to give it a try but stay in the bathroom with her until she get use to washing her hair. But remember the tangles, and possible tears do to the tangles. Good Luck :)

Candace - posted on 07/06/2010

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I think it's all what you expect of your children. Obviously the single mom that had her kids showering alone by the age of three expected them to do so. My daughter is 6, almost 7, and has been bathing/showering on her own for at least 3 years. She is perfectly capable of washing her own hair, dispensing her own shampoo/conditioner, and moderating the water temp on her own. Each child is different, but most children will rise to the occasion if you give them the opportunity.

Heather - posted on 07/06/2010

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both my boys, aged 7 (soon to be 8) and my soon to be 6 year old shower themselves. One of us is usually in the bathroom to keep an eye on the younger one and to make sure that they have rinsed their hair properly.

NANCY - posted on 07/05/2010

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My daughter is 6 with long hair - and although I have no problem with her being in the shower by herself, she cannot get all the soap out of her hair so I make sure I rinse it.

Tesha - posted on 07/04/2010

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My son had just turned 3yrs old when he started showering with help. He started taking showers alone when he was 4. We still adjust the water for him (he's 6 now), but he does everything himself.
My daughter is almost 4yrs old and scared to death of the shower. She cleans herself in the bath and we still wash her hair. It really just depends on the child I guess.

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My daughter is 6 and is just getting used to and starting to enjoy shower. I made her switch from baths, where she was used to cleaning herself head to toe, to showers in the hope to save water. But she seems to take long showers most of the time. Oh well.

Kimberly - posted on 07/04/2010

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my son is 5 yrs old and for the most part showers by himself. I put his body wash and shampoo into empty hand soap bottles so that he has more control over how much he uses. 2 squirts for body wash and 1 for shampoo I just have to check that he rinses all the way. Then he likes to play in a bubble bath after showering so I add the bubbles.

Rica - posted on 07/04/2010

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Well I have an 8yr old girl. I stopped showering with her around 4yrs old. She was very independent at that age a could show me that she was ready for that. Now that she is 8 I still wash her hair, but she has also started to go to a stylist. As long as she can show that she can scrub all the dirt away she should be good in the shower. Give her a little independence and you will see her start to blossom.

Heidi - posted on 07/04/2010

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My daughter is 6 also. I still help her with her hair because it is very long and make sure she gets all the sampoo out. After that she is on her own. She has her own scrubber and I lay her towel out so she can dry when she gets out of the shower.
My daughter has been taking showers on her own for almost 1 year now.

Cheryl - posted on 07/03/2010

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My son is 6 now and has been showering alone since he was 4. I adjust the water for him and I told him when he was younger that he was not allowed to touch it, just to call me instead if it needed adjusting again. The biggest hurdle we had to over come was the amount of soap, he will just keep washing if you let him. He doesn't just wash himself either, the walls the shower curtain, the toys everything. We went through a lot of soap until I put just a little bit into a smaller pump bottle and told him how many squirts he could use. I would love to start teaching my 3 year old to shower alone but he HATES the shower so it looks like I am bathing him and my 1 year old for a while longer.

Ruby - posted on 07/03/2010

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my daughter is 7 now, still she not completely able to shower herself. but am trying again again to do it herself. now she is little good at it. i think start to teach ur child. but one thing she will not do it very fast. you have wait for a long time. she will study it by taking time.if had got the body part its nice. but the difficult part is the head. if she has more hair. then its much difficult.

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