What is a good age to let your child have a facebook account?

La Shea - posted on 06/12/2010 ( 90 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 12 now, is she ready for the internet??

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Sharon - posted on 06/26/2010

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I am just amazed at the amount of parents who are teaching their kids that it's ok to lie about your age just to get a facebook account. If their age restriction is 13 why would you even consider letting them on it before then? Kids grow up way too fast as it is. There are plenty of gaming sites suited to younger children. Let them be babies as long as you can.

Sherri - posted on 06/13/2010

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Actually it is 13 Angie to have an account without lying about about there age. My husband and I set up my boys accounts when my oldest was 12 and my youngest was 11. However, they only went on to play the games, Only could add family no or close family friends. No friends from school etc. I read every message sent etc.

Facebook’s Age Restriction

Facebook’s terms of service are very clear on this subject. In plain English, the site advises that “this site is intended solely for users who are thirteen (13) years of age or older, and users of the Site under 18 who are currently in secondary school or college. Any registration by, use of or access to the site by anyone under 13, or by anyone who is under 18 and not in secondary school or college, is unauthorized, unlicensed and in violation of (Facebook’s) Terms of Use.”

That’s quite a mouthful. What it says is :

* You must be at least 13 years old to join Facebook
* If you are under 18, you must be enrolled in secondary school (high school) or college

Most people probably don’t realize that this age restriction exists. Also — isn’t it interesting that Facebook won’t accept people under 18 if they’re not in school? Seems like a random restriction to me, but who knows . .

Penalties for Lying About Your Age

Nothing serious is going to happen to an underage person if they register for the site and lie about their age. The worst that can happen is that they’ll be banned from the site. It says in Facebook’s “policies” section that “By using the service or the site, you represent and warrant that you are 13 or older and in secondary school or college, or else that you are 18 or older, and that you agree to and to abide by all of the terms and conditions of this Agreement.”

No, you’re not gonna get arrested if you register for Facebook illicitly, but if the site finds out about it, they will ban you.

Renee - posted on 06/13/2010

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How about not until u are comfortable enough with not having to ask. I truly & personally feel that is a parent has to question the responsibility level of their child or if they feel like they have to WONDER...its not time. When it is time..u will know.

Sutton - posted on 06/29/2010

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My daughter has been asking like CRAZY for a FB account and she finally let it go when I showed her their terms and conditions.. kids have to be 13 in order for it to be legally permissable (although many of her friends have them already)... she backed off about it when I showed her.

Lisa - posted on 06/15/2010

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Whatever the facebook leagal age is. Watch them closely, know the password, block all outsiders, and keep them on your profile. I let my daughter have one at 14, its a good way to stay in the loop with her friends, I can keep track of whats going on and if there is any trouble on the horizon I already know and can prevent her from being involved. Its just as good as having GPS on her. hehe

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/29/2013

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I always love this question, because it shows how many parents are willing to allow the "white lie" about the kid's age when it comes to a FB account, or any other activity of the like.

"Oh, it's not really lying...I've approved them being on there..." The excuses go on and on and on.

When, in reality, FB has age limits that should be heeded for a myriad of reasons, not the least of which is the appropriateness of material posted in relation to the extremely young ages.

I've heard it all from "they communicate with their grandparents via FB"..."They communicate with our family"...Yeah, like your 10 yo is writing a message to grandma daily on FB and needs an account to do that...how about teaching them to write a letter?

bottom line: restrictions are in place for a reason. If you don't care that you are advocating lying, dishonesty and deceit to get around a rule, then by all means, let your little angels lie about their age to get on FB. After all, it has been proven that all life as a teen will come to an end if you haven't had a FB account since birth...LOL

Sheesh, people! common sense is ok to exercise!

Shalin - posted on 01/18/2013

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I think that they should let children on Facebook that are responsible and over 10 years of age. Also they cannot be under the age of 10.

Titch - posted on 12/15/2012

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11 years old is a good age :) xx so yes, just make sure she only accepts friend requests from people she knows!

Aaron Willam - posted on 11/24/2012

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Yes and you won't have to spy on her if you give her a BIG talk about creeps and jerks.

Lisa - posted on 11/24/2012

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my son is 9 and hes got it because i trust him to be good on faecbook there is no bad things on it so let your kid have it if he/her is asking for it.

Karleigh - posted on 09/09/2012

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she was ready for Facebook at 10! she should only be friends with her parents!!

Shannintipton - posted on 12/25/2011

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LOL I did realize that and that is why I asked what she decided. ha ha There are a ton of old posts not locked. I was kind of just playing around because it was so dead yesterday. But people have been posting to it recently. I was wondering if they lock old posts or not. I thought all old posts or most were locked. Just wondering. :)

Christina - posted on 12/18/2011

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Mine is 11 and I sit and watch her. that's the only time she's allowed on the computer

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Facebook's official policy is for age 13 and above. IMHO--they set this age for a reason. My daughter is also 12, and MOST of her friends are on FB. I trust my daughter, but I WILL NOT LIE on the website just so she can play a few games and post a few fun facts to approved family or friends. Believe me--they are bombarded with other websites, including at school where they sometimes start in KINDERGARTEN, they DO NOT belong on FB until the appropriate age. Personally, my daughter is very naive, (she is more like 12 going on 10 compared to most girls; I work in her school and I KNOW what kids her age are like) that we probably won't let her have a FB account until she is a bit older (maybe 14-15) Kids grow up so fast, lets not make it any faster please!!

Patricia - posted on 10/07/2011

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My son has had one since he was 12. I have the password and monitor his fb activity. He mainly just plays the games or talks to his cousin on fb chat

Cristy - posted on 06/30/2010

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my son is only goin on 9 & he wants a facebook account already....I told him no though cause I know he is too young yet....he just wants it cause his best friend (whom is goin on 10) just got one plus he knows a few kids his age that have it too already & 1 kid we know that got it last yr is only 11 now & he brags to my son about it all the time. I told him maybe when he is 10 but I am not sure I will cross that raod when I come to it. Good luck though.

Beth - posted on 06/28/2010

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Facebook will not allow children under 13 to have an account. So you would have to lie to get an account for children under that age.

There are plenty of other sites that are geared to younger children. My 8 year old has been going on the internet to approved sites for about 3 years now. We watch where she goes and how long she is on the computer daily / weekly.

So it is a matter of personal preference on whether you are ready and think your child is ready to go on the internet. But read thru Facebook's policy before agreeing to get your 12 yr old an illegal account - 1 year is not a long time to wait.

Brandi - posted on 06/28/2010

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WOW ! This question has resulted in a lot of responses and I am sorry I did not read the rest of them. I honestly think it's a maturity thing. I would not let my son/daughter start until she is older. If you do choose I would just reccomend keeping a close eye on her account, making sure you are the only one who knows password, you review it, etc. Unfortunatly there are more issues with trusting other people int he world then having to trust your daughter.

Theresa - posted on 06/28/2010

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I just went through this with my son. He is 12. I monitor it daily and am also on his FB PAGE. he mostly has it for the games. I will deleate anything I need to or restrict anything I need too. I also talk to him about it . I do not go behingd his back.

Alba - posted on 06/26/2010

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I wouldn't go by age, but by maturity. Do you feel she is ready? I would make clear rules and limitations and be honest with why you made those rules. I always hated it when my parents said no, or gave me rules/limitations without explanation because I learned nothing other than my parents didn't understand.

Barbara - posted on 06/26/2010

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La Shea,

My daughters have been playing on the internet for a few years. They are now 9 and 12. When they are online, they are in the family room with my laptop so we can easily see what website they are on. They really just want to play games and maybe watch an episode of "The Suite Life".

My oldest daughter has an email addy but she doesn't check it and doesn't like it. None of my kids have a facebook account.

Alot depends on your child and what she wants to do on the internet. If she wants to go to Moshi Monster and play games - let her go now. If she wants to be on facebook and doesn't want to add you to her friend list then you might need to put more restrictions in place.

I would also like to add that the internet is frequently becoming a way for students to conduct research for school projects and papers. I do think you should teach her how to do that successfully online.

Sharon - posted on 06/26/2010

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@ Beth Krane. I am simply expressing my personal opinion which is my right to do so. If you take exception to that then I think you have a problem and quite frankly I think your reply to my post was rather aggressive. I did not name you or anyone else in my post nor did I say all parents were teaching their children to lie. If this is the response I get to my first post on here then I don't think I'll bother any more.

Beth - posted on 06/26/2010

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@ Sharon Minto - Don't be judging ALL parents because we opt to do something you disagree with. And assuming that we are ALL teaching our kids that lying is acceptable is inappropriate. I am sure that if I were to know you I could judge many things you do that I would disagree with but is it really my place to do so, and to do it publicly. I think you are best kept to sharing an experience as opposed to criticizing.

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I can't add anything really, but just wanted to say I appreciate being able to read through these comments. Some points were brought up that I hadn't thought about before & I especially appreciate what Alana & Amy B. pointed out. My daughter is 11 & doesn't want a FB account, because she saw the rules & she saw a creepy profile pic when we were looking someone up (I reported that one to FB & it was removed). I've had strange friend requests too & I told her that each person on my account is someone that I know well & I've refused the others, so there is some healthy fear established. It's good to be thinking about all this though because it will come up again.

Beth - posted on 06/26/2010

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They have a minimum age of 13, but both of my kids have accounts (neither are 13.. cough cough cough... but 1) I have the email addresses coming to my main email account (forwards); 2) I am the keeper of the password so if they want to get on I have to log them on; 3) I have their privacy restrictions set very high and approve who is on their friends list.

Go with your gut, keep their safety in mind, and if this is something you want to take on than go for it. One of my kids is only 7 and his whole thing is just the games. His only friends are family and approved friends from my list. Neither kid account is visible on ANY public searches and all the friends are hidden.

Lilibeth - posted on 06/26/2010

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I allowed my daughter she is now 10 yrs old but i chose her friends and monitor her all the time.

Kim - posted on 06/25/2010

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Neither of my biological kids have one, though they are only 6 and 4. My step-daughter apparently had one, but I noticed of late that she no longer has it or is simply does not appear anymore (she is 14)..

Saying this, I have to admit that my 4 yr old gets on Nick, Jr first thing in the morning with no help from myself or dh. I think she is gonna be our computer whiz!

Kim

Melissa - posted on 06/25/2010

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It depends on how mature and responsible your child is. Make sure that it goes to your e-mail so you can track and monitor. Also make yourself a friend on their account so you can see what his other friends are saying. My 14 year old stepdaughter has a MySpace account and my 11 year old stepson has a Facebook account but they are monitored.

Laura - posted on 06/25/2010

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I think it depends on the maturity level of your daughter, as well as your trust and communication with each other. My 14 year old daughter and two 12 year old sons have accounts, but their daddy and I have full access to them. No one can be added as a friend without our consent, and we have full security on the accounts.
We didn't want to restrict them from the computer. We see it as a social and even educational tool, but we still have limits and safeguards in place.

Tina - posted on 06/25/2010

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i helped my 11 year old set up a facebook about a year ago. All of her school friends have them, so her only friends ont here are them and family. I have her password and I monitor her account. It is set up with an email I created just for this and I have the password for that also so I can keep track.

Kerry - posted on 06/25/2010

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im with facebook and so is my family, my daughter is 7 and shes on my facebook, she just goes on for games! i only let her add people i no and trust and im there when shes on, so i think it depens on the child and the mother if they are going to watch them! faebook is great for us as we live far apart from our family and its away for my daughter to keep in touch with them! and save my phone bill! she has her own msn and chats on webcam with her friends and family, it funny watching her sometimes, shes got a boyfriend from my old place where we used to live and they always stay in contact, it so cute!

Julie - posted on 06/25/2010

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really, if the rule is 13, then have it be 13, there are lots of gaming/social opportunities on line for younger kids designed for younger kids. My 7 and 11 year olds have several sites they play on. When they are 13 they can get an account, when they are 16 they can get a driving license, when they are 18 I'll encourage them to vote, and when they are 21 they can go to a bar.
Thoughts go into minimum ages, they grow up too fast anyway, mine will wait for FB, driving, voting, and drinking.

Maria - posted on 06/25/2010

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My 11 yr old has one, but I block the news feed and let everyone know to post to his wall or send him a message. They have all been respectful to that. Does she have a cell phone? It is harder to monitor those conversations than to keep track of FB interaction. Oh we also altered his name a bit! Then as far as internet, there are lots of privacy settings or you can even buy a privacy program.

Stephani - posted on 06/25/2010

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We set up accounts with out birthdates and nicknames instead of names, and I keep the passwords. We felt that way it was not so much modeling lying as it was an adult's account that we allow the kids to use sometimes. It's a fantastic tool for keeping in touch with older, distant siblings and other family.

We have a good friend who is 13 and had a school fight escalate into horrible online nastiness; girls that age are awful to each other sometimes anyway ( read Ophelia Speaks if you haven't, anyone with a girl!) and Internet can really bring it home... So stay vigilant! Good luck.

Anna - posted on 06/25/2010

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I think it depends on how well you have trained your daughter and how well you know your daughter. Can you trust her enough to not give out personal information (for her own safety & yours)? Do you and your daughter have open communication? I'm guessing that you're asking because she wants one and you're not comfortable with it? I've set up a 2nd facebook account for my 6 year old...BUT she ONLY gets onto it when either my sister or I are there...she doesn't even know how to do it on her own. She just likes some of the games I've played on FB so I created an account for her. I go into the account before calling her over...I preview messages and content she will see and then I allow her to use it for a short period of time, AND I sit right there with her when she's on it. She also has her own email account, which I monitor before she uses. She asked for the accounts, we agreed on these terms, so I did it for her.

Tina - posted on 06/24/2010

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I don't think there is any magic number. I believe it's a very personal choice; but one you must be comfortable with. If you have any reservations about it; say "no" and explain to her why you don't think its a good idea. My personal opinion, for what it's worth is that parents should wait as long as possible. I think the more access kids have to the internet and social networking sites; the more vulnerable they are. Unfortunately, a lot of children are using these sites to bully and victimize other kids without really understanding the far-reaching consequences of their actions. In fact, I teach high-school juniors & seniors and frankly, many of them do not realize the consequences of putting certain types of info/pictures out there. You can't take those things back once they are out there. Good luck with your decision. If you decide to let her; just remember; monitoring is key! Watch like a hawk; these are our babies!

Latasha - posted on 06/23/2010

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My son is 13 and he has a facebook account. He is my friend and I am constantly monitoring his computer and cell phone use. I felt that he was mature enough to handle it. If I see that it gets out of hand I will handle it. I think it is all about your level of comfort as it pertains to things that affect your children.

La Shea - posted on 06/23/2010

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I would like to thank all the moms who answered my question. I did take the time to read each response and soak it what was said. I do trust my daughter and we talk openly about many things, some I'm not quite ready to hear about, lol. After great consideration and reading all the post since Fb policy is 13 I will wait until next year. Plus it seems like a great "Hey you're 13 now, I trust you to make the right choices and have more responsibility." Of course with me having !00% access and monitoring. Once again thank you all for helping me with this question.

Amy - posted on 06/22/2010

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I hate to sound so negative, but I must say absoluetly not! Here is my reasoning: I work for a public school system and this past school year, we had a person from the State Bureau of Investigation come and do a public service announcement regarding children and the use of facebook and myspace. The SBI investigator posted a "fake" persona on the internet claiming that he was a recent graduate from our high school. Within 1 week he had over 150 of our students who befriended him. Question: What if this was a child molestor who did this? Would you feel comfortable with your daughter talking to a possible pediphile? I know that we, as parents, cannot possibly protect our children from everthing, but this is something that I believe we can take control of. If you do allow her, I would monitor her every movement on this sight and watch who she talks to.

Kelley - posted on 06/22/2010

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I think it's up to the parent individually, if your child is mature enough to use the internet without abusing it then fine, if not then it probably isn't wise to have the child on the internet. Also, why would bringing up lying about age be a factor What in god's green earth are you teaching your kids if you tell them it is ok to lie about their ages, where are your morals people, I mean seriously get real!! Maybe you shouldn't be on the internet if lying is even a factor in your book!!!



#4 of Fb rules--Registration and Account Security



Facebook users provide their real names and information, and we need your help to keep it that way. Here are some commitments you make to us relating to registering and maintaining the security of your account:

1.You will not provide any false personal information on Facebook, or create an account for anyone other than yourself without permission.

2.You will not create more than one personal profile.

3.If we disable your account, you will not create another one without our permission.

4.You will not use your personal profile for your own commercial gain (such as selling your status update to an advertiser).

5.You will not use Facebook if you are under 13.

6.You will not use Facebook if you are a convicted sex offender.

7.You will keep your contact information accurate and up-to-date.

8.You will not share your password, (or in the case of developers, your secret key), let anyone else access your account, or do anything else that might jeopardize the security of your account.

9.You will not transfer your account (including any page or application you administer) to anyone without first getting our written permission.

10.If you select a username for your account we reserve the right to remove or reclaim it if we believe appropriate (such as when a trademark owner complains about a username that does not closely relate to a user's actual name).



**it does not say that you have to put schools of any kind in the registration if you are under the age of 18, look at the FB statement of rights and responsibilities, then you will have your answers!!

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Facebook? At least late teens. I'm on FB now and find it takes up a lot of time and there are a lot of unknown people out there.

Having just said late teens, it does depend on the maturity and responsibility of each child. Some might be ready earlier, some later.

Just my spontaneous reaction.

Sherri - posted on 06/19/2010

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NO IT IS 13!!





Facebook’s Age Restriction



Facebook’s terms of service are very clear on this subject. In plain English, the site advises that “this site is intended solely for users who are thirteen (13) years of age or older, and users of the Site under 18 who are currently in secondary school or college. Any registration by, use of or access to the site by anyone under 13, or by anyone who is under 18 and not in secondary school or college, is unauthorized, unlicensed and in violation of (Facebook’s) Terms of Use.”



That’s quite a mouthful. What it says is :



* You must be at least 13 years old to join Facebook

* If you are under 18, you must be enrolled in secondary school (high school) or college



Most people probably don’t realize that this age restriction exists. Also — isn’t it interesting that Facebook won’t accept people under 18 if they’re not in school? Seems like a random restriction to me, but who knows . .



Penalties for Lying About Your Age



Nothing serious is going to happen to an underage person if they register for the site and lie about their age. The worst that can happen is that they’ll be banned from the site. It says in Facebook’s “policies” section that “By using the service or the site, you represent and warrant that you are 13 or older and in secondary school or college, or else that you are 18 or older, and that you agree to and to abide by all of the terms and conditions of this Agreement.”



No, you’re not gonna get arrested if you register for Facebook illicitly, but if the site finds out about it, they will ban you.

Shanika - posted on 06/19/2010

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Well for facebook the age to have an account is 14, although nowadays u can fake your age if u are 12 and want a account sooner. If u want her to have a fb page now, you can monitor her page, fb can help u with that. As for the internet in general, as long as u block the mess that is everywhere, u should be fine.

Nicole - posted on 06/18/2010

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I think they are supposed to be 13 to join facebook, but i allowed my daughter to join at 12. If you do decide to let her, i would suggest setting the privacy settings yourself. There is also a great online parental watch from Norton that is free to use that monitors all of your childs activity on the web. And i also think it depends on where your daughter uses the computer. As long as its not private and your right around the corner she won't even try anything questionable. Good Luck!

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