What is a good time for 9 year olds to go to sleep on school nights and on the weekends?

Amy - posted on 09/05/2010 ( 29 moms have responded )

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I was just wondering what an appropriate time for bed would be for my nine year old. I have no trouble getting her up in the mornings and ready for school, but i do know that when she gets home she's exhausted and wants to nap. Is that ok? Should she be going to bed within four hours of getting home?

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Sherri - posted on 09/15/2010

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LOL I have to chuckle at the bedtimes I just this year started letting my 13 1/2yr old stay up till 9 on school nights. It will not be increasing anytime soon either. Till 3rd grade it was 7:30pm and then it was 8pm until 7th grade and finally this year just raised it to 9pm.

Casandra - posted on 02/18/2013

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I am a mother a 8 year old who will be 9 in May I have for some time set a bed time on school nights it's time to relax and settle around 8PM then between 8:30-9 is generally bed time now as for weekend I usually don't let him stay up past 11PM unless were doing a sleep over which is something different entirely, but generally my child is in bed by 9-10 on weekends. Hope you find a solution best of luck

Barbara - posted on 11/16/2012

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I think a 9 year old needs at least 9 hours of sleep at night in order to get by for their school days. I did not select 9 because of the age. If they could get 10 that is even better. My son is so much better with 9 to 10 hours of sleep. His concentration is so much better. I myself need at least 8 hours I do not always get it but when I do it feels better.

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Erin - posted on 04/16/2014

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I will try that really good advice mines a bit like susan with my 9 year old and my 6 year old!!

Nicole - posted on 12/09/2013

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My 9 yr old is n bed at 9 lights out 930. She doesn't nap when she gets home. On weekends there isn't a set bedtime but she usually goes down around 11 on her own.

Cat - posted on 12/06/2013

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What time do you want to have YOUR relaxation time? As long as the kid's homework and school clothes are ready to go for the next school day, then it's up to you when you want to relax. My kids are in the rooms by 9pm and lights out by 9:15 or 9:30 (9pm is my tv time so it depends on the commercial when I tell them lights out).

Janice - posted on 02/18/2013

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8:30 pm. with 30 minutes of reading time. 9:00 if reading time is forfeited.

Alberta - posted on 02/15/2013

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9 pm! for my 12 year old. 6:30pm for the 6 year old and 7:00 pm for the 3 year old (she still needs tobe snuggled before sleep so I get the 6 yo to bed with reading a book, prayers and calm time and then can snuggle the "baby" of the family.

Melinda - posted on 02/04/2013

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my 8 Year old is in bed by 8 PM on school nights. 8:30 9 on weekends. i would try giving her an earlier bedtime, and if she does well with that then maybe you could up her bedtime as a reward for getting up and dressed on time. It works with my 8 year old.. shes up by 6:30 7 am dressed breakfast hairbrushed out the door by 8 am

Kellie - posted on 02/02/2013

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First of all do not let your child have a nap it messes up their sleep patten and can lead to loss of sleep and secconedly a good school night bed time is 8:30 and 9:00 on weekends

Vickie - posted on 11/19/2012

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My 8yo used to go to bed at 8:00, but he was having trouble getting up at 6:30 so I moved it back to 7:30 and that's working out great.

Dove - posted on 11/06/2012

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And apparently you are unsupervised on the computer way too much......

Tammy - posted on 11/06/2012

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I'm a nine year old & I go to bed at 9-9:30pm on school nights & on weekends I can go to bed at anytime I want if it's before 11pm. Hope that helps!

Tania - posted on 09/15/2010

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I like Tracy's reply! My routine for my son Reece (9 years old) is very similar. If I try to get him to bed earlier than 9, he can't fall asleep. So I use the time between 8.30 and 9.00 for settling down and getting ready for bed. Lately I use that half hour either for him to read to me or to chat about what's going on 'in his world' (which I thoroughly enjoy!). You can tell if your child is not getting enough sleep ... Weekends are free time (depending on what activities we have planned) and I don't really set bedtime boundaries for him (to a limit of course).

Susan - posted on 09/12/2010

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I have a 9 year old daughter and she goes to bed at 9 o'clock. This is same time she goes to bed on the weekends. I find that she has a harder time going to bed on Sunday night if I let her stay up on Fri and Sat. Besides that gives me about an hour to unwind myself before I fall asleep.

Flo - posted on 09/08/2010

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My son comes home from school and needs to take a break or else he has a meltdown... Kids need a good amount of sleep and I think 8:00 is a good time for them to go to bed... It has been proven over and over again they need about 10 hrs of sleep for thier growing brains and bodies...

Crystal - posted on 09/07/2010

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My 9 year old gets her bath and brushes her teeth starting at 7pm. Then once she is finished she has the rest of the time til 8p to watch TV or read a book. At 8p she goes to bed. Kids this age need more sleep than people may think. Some parents want to give their kids later bed times as they get older when really they should have the same. A short 10-20 min nap is probably ok, but I don't think any longer than that should happen. Once she gets into her REM sleep she will feel more tired. But like everyone else said...all kids/familes are different. Do what is good for you and your family!! Good luck!

Amy - posted on 09/07/2010

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Thank you everyone so much for the info.. i have been tryin nine, and it seems to be the case for everyone else..lol so we will stick with it. and be ready for it by eight..

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You know i have an 8 year old and a 6 year old. I still have them lay down on their beds. I dont tell them to go to sleep I just say hey its chill out time. I think everyone even us as grown ups need to take a chill out time. I put them to bed at 8:30 I think that is a good time for my kids because the are still growing and they will need all the rest for school in the morn. The thing is that my kids still go to sleep even if they do take a nap. Half the time I just want them to chill for a min during the day. They will start to get mean and Sean he will start to cry. Thats how i know they need naps

Tammy - posted on 09/06/2010

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My 14 year old stays up until 10 on school nights. I try to get my 12 and 9 year olds in bed at 9. Sometimes my 12 year old will go to bed early because she tends to need more sleep than the others. ( She sends herself to bed!)

Kelli - posted on 09/05/2010

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mine r seven six three and seventen months i have my kids take a bath or shower at seven than get pjs on than they get one hour to watch tv than bed sometimes my six year old fights going to sleep than she learns the next night that she should settle down because she is tried from a long day with less sleep after school i let my kids go outside when it is nice so they get some fresh air and that seems to work for them

Allisha - posted on 09/05/2010

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I HAVE A SON 13 1/2 , DAUGHTER 10 1/2 , DAUGHTER 8 AND SON 7 ♥ ....I LET MY OLDEST SON STAYS UP UNTIL 10PM... MY 3 YOUNGEST STAY UP UNTIL 9PM..DURING SCHOOL NITES. THEY ALL GET UP N SHOWER N DO THEIR DAILY ROUTINE W/ NO FUSS MOST OF THE TIME.ON THE WEEKENDS I LET THEM STAY UP TIL THEY FALL ASLEEP ,,WHICH IS USUALLY AN HOUR LATER THAN THEIR NORMAL TIME. ON SCHOOL DAYS MY OLDEST SON GETS UP AT 6AM AND THE OTHER 3 GET UP AT 7AM AND THEY STILL HAVE ENOUGH SLEEP 4 SCHOOL!!!! THERES TIMES MY OLDEST WILL COME HOME N NAP, BUT HES AN ATHLETE SO THATS EXPECTED..IT HELPS SOMETIMES WITH HIS CRANKINESS FROM DEALING W/ HIS PRACTICES N GAMES. MY 3 YOUNGEST , I DONT THINK UNLESS THEY R FEELING ILL , EVER TAKE NAPS,,WHEW I WISH THEY WOULD THOUGH..LOL

Erin - posted on 09/05/2010

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I agree, veg out time is better than nap time. My dd is usually a bit cranky after school too, but a bit of time to unwind does her well. She's only 7, so we send her to bed at 8:30, and an hour or so later on the weekends. I'd say just experiment with a couple different times to see what works for you. All kids are different. Just be consistent with it.

Tracy - posted on 09/05/2010

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i personally don't like naps for my kid. everyone is different, but if my daughter naps, she can't get to sleep at night and then it becomes a vicious cycle.

my daughter also has a hard time going to bed at a decent hour on school nights (she's 8 1/2). i've found that in bed at 9 and asleep by 9:30 works for us.
i like her to be winding down at 8 or 8:30...gearing up for actually getting into the bed.

but that's the way she is. she needs a lot of "getting ready" time and winding down to get into the mindset of where she needs to be.

weekends - i give her an hour longer, but sometimes (like last night) she didn't get to sleep until midnight!

i try not to be too strict about it, but if she has a hard time getting up in the morning, i know she needs to get in bed earlier.

also, after school when she is cranky and tired, i encourage her to have rest time for about an hour. this is usually vegging in front of the t.v. and eating snacks. she's fine after that to go the rest of the night!

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