What is wrong with my son?

Kayla - posted on 04/10/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Lately my 2 yr old son has been throwing tantrums over everything. I tell him he should only cry if hes hurt. He stops when I say that but will continue another time. Two days ago was my sisters wedding. I put my son in a tux and he crief. I sent him to his room which he shares with his sis. When he was calm I went to let him out. I found his tux on the ground and him in his sisters dress and bracelets. I guessed he learned this from their dress up games. "Bad boy!" Itold him and he promptly responded, "no mommy i girl." I put him in his tux again and we left. For the past 2 days now he has insisted he is a girl. I do not know what to do! Please help!

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Amy - posted on 04/10/2013

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There is nothing wrong with your son. He's acting like a typical 2 year old that has tantrums. As far as the being a girl the more he sees he gets a reaction from you the more he's going to do it. So if he says he's a girl just say ok. Eventually he'll see it doesn't bother you and he'll find something else to irk you with.

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Ramona - posted on 04/11/2013

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I know it's frustrating when you can't seem to get your child to follow directions. Just remember a few things: He's acting completely "normal" for having tantrums. That's why there's a name for it: "terrible two's". Remember that even though he's still very young, he's still his own person, with his own likes, dislikes, needs, and wants, just like you and me. I'm not suggesting he gets everything he wants and/or likes! But imagine if someone was forcing you to wear something you didn't like, or felt uncomfortable in! You would probably have a similar reaction! That doesn't mean he doesn't have to wear a tux for a relatives wedding, those things are part of life. But he doesn't HAVE to like it. Also, at this age, they will cry and be difficult, just for arguments sake. They are testing their boundaries. At such a young age, I wouldn't really be too concerned with him wanting to dress up like a girl. I agree w/ the previous post that he is probably doing it to irk you. However, maybe you could try not to look at his behaviour as there being something "wrong" with him. Kids pick up on those kinds of feelings and words from their parents and it sticks with them. If they get the label as "bad" or "wrong" or "not normal" and feel you dissaprove of them for being different than what you would like, it could actually really hurt them and make what would have been a healthy, normal kid, someone who acts out and does have problems because they never felt approved of or accepted by their families.Obviously you love him and want whats best or you wouldn't write this. But just hang in there and try to have a sense of humor about everything! And remember they're just little people trying to figure everything out. And they need us to guide and love them more than anything else.

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