What should the curfew be for a nine yr old?

Monique - posted on 04/19/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )




I have a "curfew" question. Last night I allowed my almost 9 yr old son play outside until 6:15 p.m. with the kids in the aptmt complex because we are new to the neighborhood. Tonight the kids asked if he could play outside but he had homework to do. By the time homework and dinner was through, it was time for the evening routine. The kids were outside until dark. So my question is, what time do you let your kids get ready for bed? I was raised with a bedtime curfew(7 p.m. & then 8 when I was older). I know kids need to wind down & need a full night sleep. What do you think? Just because I'm a Mom doesn't mean I have all the answers. Am I too strict?

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Maritza - posted on 10/06/2012




At this age" time" is the awnser. what time is he home from school? Some down time after school is healthy. after evaluating his homework,how much time will he need to complete his work? Also having a friend over as a homework buddy is helpful on those days when he is over loaded with work .

Patrice - posted on 04/28/2011




I agree with everyone here. And no you are not strict at all you do what works best for your household. And get your son to understand everyone has different routines.

Donna - posted on 04/28/2011




lol. i let my dughters play outside untill atleast 7. i think its ok to let yur son out till dark. the longer hes out playing that more tired hell be the faster hell fall asleep

Lindsy - posted on 04/28/2011




Yeah dinner time on week nights ,but I let my 8yr old girl stay out till the street lights come on on weekends IF she has all of her chores done.

Deepti - posted on 04/28/2011




i let my son unwind for 1 hour or so after he comes back from school... then i remind him to complete his homework so that he can go to play after that.. till the homework is complete he is not allowed to leave.
however, if H.W. is lengthy, i give him a break for 15-30 min in which he can play with sis at home or may be watch TV
if he finishes early then he is allowed to go till the dinner time.
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Tamara - posted on 04/27/2011




I agree with the other responders so far: Having your son come in at dinner time is appropriate on a school night. There's dinner, homework, family time, etc. to squeeze into the day.
One thing to keep in mind: Be thankful that your son enjoys playing outside and has friends to do that with! Unless you are worried for your son's safety, try not to take those couple of hours of outdoor playtime away from him, and maybe let him have extra outdoor time on the weekends.
My 8 and 10 year old still have fun outdoors, but it takes effort to get my 12 and 14 year old out there anymore. Even with restricted amounts of 'screen' time, they would much rather sit around inside these days. Anyway, help your son enjoy that outdoor time while he will :-)

Cheryl - posted on 04/19/2010




No you are not strict you are the parent i have two girls 6and 9 when they get home from school they have to do there homework when there done i them out for a little while.Then by 7or8 then it is bed time for them even on the weekends sometimes.

Carrie - posted on 04/19/2010




My daughter is almost 9 yrs. old. and I would say homework after school, then play outside till dinner was done, next dinner & bedtime routine. If he doesn't have homework that night then he could go outside after school and come in by dinnertime. It depends on when his bedtime is, what time you have dinner at, if he does or doesn't have homework, his behavior, etc. in order to really determine the most appropriate time imo. Every family is different though and I am sure you will figure out the best time that works for yours. Good luck! :-)

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before i even read your post, i was going to reply with dark. but i think you are right, on a school night, maybe it should be dinner time.... like, let him play after school til dinner time, then when dinner is over, homework, then the bed time routine.... =) i think that is what i would do . lol im not quite there yet... but almost!

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