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what to do with an unruly 16 year old girl

Tina - posted on 01/15/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Amanda - posted on 01/15/2009

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The more you take away the more I think she will resent you. I think you need to make her sit with the family EVERY night for one hour and don't let her go to her room. Every time she gets mouthy or gives you trouble add 10 minutes. It truly helped with our 15 year old. Now we're not such uncool parents because she sees what we do for her. She now will sit with her little brother and sister and read or play games with them. She is realizing how important we are and that we won't give up on her even if she doesn't want to be with us.I hope this is helpful.

Phyllis - posted on 01/15/2009

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I am not sure just how unruly your 16 year old is - I have a 16 year old daughter also - what I have found most effective is to take away their privilages when they are not following the rules.  Cell phones, car, going out with friends - my daughter loves her cell phone and computer privileges - when she is not doing as she is asked those are the first to go - and you have to stick to it and not give in.  On the other hand I have rewarded her when she does well in school or if she keeps up her chores without having to be fussed at I will throw in a reward from time to time.  Teenagers have to learn there are consequences for their inappropriate actions.   

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