What would you do if you felt your childs teacher was singling them out all the time and picking on them

Dawn - posted on 01/22/2009 ( 16 moms have responded )

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how would you handle this situation if you have already tried speaking to the teacher and principal of the school and there has been no change

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Shelly - posted on 03/24/2013

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My sons teacher is terrible, he doest like going & he says she is evil. So I had a meeting with the team & told them how I feel. My son has an anxiety disorder & he chews his shirt & anything else. After they were made aware they started punishing him for chewing. I had another meeting. I buy his clothes stop stressing him out. But the key is meet the teacher, principal, social worker!!

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I had an issue with my daughters teacher last year. She is on honor roll and is quiet in class but for some reason her teacher would pick on her. After my conference with her failed I contacted the prinipcal. Thankfully that worked. I told him that if it didnt I would go to the superintendent of the school board. Good thing it did b/c I was serious! Hope you can solve this issue soon!

Amy - posted on 04/16/2009

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Provided your child doesn't have discipline/behavior issues (then it would probably continue to happen with other teachers and needs to be addressed), I would never hesitate to pull my child out of school if need be. There are many other ways to send your child to school including online public school (one is called Connections Academy).

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AMITY - posted on 02/14/2014

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Hi Dawn sorry to hear but we are going thru something similiar...the other day my son was in his resource room there was some xtra time left so he loves art and he drws alot and one of his favorite things to draw are guns so his resource teacher saw what he was drawing and said Ya know I m just gonna throw that out and my son said okay...so then I get a phone call from the VP AND he tells me this is very serious and we have to have a talk with him I said ok my son comes home and says the principal was going to give me O.S.S IM LIKE ARE YOU FRIGGIN kidding me and there hav been other incidences but this is the latest I dont want to be a psycho parent but I think that is the only way to see change BEST OF LUCK TO YOU AND YOUR KIDS!!

Josie - posted on 02/01/2013

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Forgot to add that if you do handle the situation and confront the teacher they will only make it worse on your child. They will pick on them more. That is exactly what my 12 year old daughter told me was happening. The principal didn't care either. She is a bully too. Unfortunately for her she was not going to be bullying me around. I gave it to her nice and loud with a lot of generous F words. In fact I feel wonderful. I didn't bring my beautiful child into the world for some dumb uneducated idiot to abuse her and make her feel not smart. Unfortunately thats what we get with public education. Its all about the state test scores.

Josie - posted on 02/01/2013

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Rip the principal and the teacher a new AHOLE like I did today. Unfortunately, there is an outstanding amount of un intellectual people teaching our children in the classroom without textbooks! Not all children learn the same. There are all different types of intelligence. If your child is not fitting the mold and happens to need extra help or is a slow learner the teacher will enjoy singling them out and abusing them emotionally. They bully your child in front of the other students and humiliating them in the process which in turn makes the child feel inadequate and extremely stressed which also in turns causes long term damage and shuts them off to education. Basically the new way of teaching is through intimidation and humiliation instead of inspiration. Bunch of BS. Oh! And another thing don't bother calling a meeting with the superintendent they won't return your calls. Public edu is a joke

Deanna - posted on 04/19/2009

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That's a tough question. We're lucky enough not to have had to go through that yet.

If it was one of my kids being singled out, I would address it with the teacher, the principal, and if the school failed to take care of it, I would write a formal letter of grievance to the school board or board of education. In all things, there is a chain of command/concern. You should write out the issues/incidences discussed with the teacher and principal and the reactions and solutions or lack there of. If you've had several meetings with them, write that down as well. Basically, in a formal letter of grievance you need to show that you've tried to resolve the issues directly, but the school isn't doing it's part. And if you feel like you should give a conference with the teacher and principal (together) another try, do so, but also let them know that if the situation continues you will write to the school board. If the teacher is singling out your child, he/she won't want their conduct under review. And the principal won't want his superiors asking why he couldn't resolve this issue himself. Another thing you could try, especially since you've already met with the principal about the issue, is to request that he be assigned to another classroom (a slightly more passive approach if you don't want to get the school board involved). I hope this helps. Good luck.

Nicola - posted on 04/16/2009

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I would definatly remove my son from the school if i felt this was happening its hard enough being bullied and picked on by other students let alone the teachers who should be protecting you. I would only send him back after the situation was resollved and if it couldnt be i would find another school after i had given the teacher and principal a piece of my mind and warned any other parents what had happened teacher my children need to know i will defend them no matter what the situation and always stand up for them.
Sorry i feel very stongly about this after having been personally affected by both bullying and negative teacher attention considering i was never a trouble maker at school and worked hard i felt as though i had been let down by every one and it made me a very angry person for a while.

Holly - posted on 01/24/2009

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If you've spoken with the teacher and the principal and nothing seems to have changed, you also should have the right to ask for the school district to have someone from outside your immediate school to come and independently observe the classroom. It will give an unbiased picture of the situation.



I hope it resolves soon!

TheFamily - posted on 01/23/2009

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Dawn, This is a problem we are dealing with right now. We have two daughters who have been in school for two years. Then we moved and ended up in the backwoods where suddenly my daughters are the source of all evil. We have talked to the teachers about thier behavior (when they will inform us of it) and talked to them about thier behavior. So far no solution. Today my 6 year old ended up in the principals office. Most of the time when my daughters do something wrong i find out that it was a substitute that was in the classroom, or that thier teacher has been in and out of the classroom for days. Once my daughter came home and said, "Mom, I think our teacher is confused."

Best of Luck I hope that you are able to work the system for the benifit of you and your child and not the district.

Tiffany - posted on 01/23/2009

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Hi Dawn,
Like Becky, I am also a teacher. It sounds like you are in a frustrating situation. It would help to know what the teacher and principal said. If you have not done so, you should set up a meeting with both the teacher and the principal. If you have exhausted this option it is time to start going up the ladder. Find out who the principal answers to and go to that person. I would advise you to try and present the situation in as balanced a way as possible. I know that can be hard when our kids are involved. If possible, bring to the table specific examples of how the teacher is singling out or picking on your child. Keep a small notebook where you date and site your specific examples. Good luck. I hope you are able to remedy this situation quickly.

Sarah - posted on 01/23/2009

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i had the same problem with my sons teacher, we spoke a few times and in the end we had a blazing row for all to hear, might have been the wrong way to sort it but she couldn't be nicer to him after that

Trudy - posted on 01/22/2009

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Hi, Ive had the same problem and i went to the head if i dont get much joy there i will go to the govoners

Trudy

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That's a tough one. I myself am an elementary school teacher and can't imagine doing that to a child. It sounds like you have taken the right steps. I would arrange another meeting with yourselves, the teacher and principal. Exhaust this route before it goes any further. Good luck!

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