when should brother and sister stop taking baths together?

Hope - posted on 07/04/2010 ( 52 moms have responded )

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Kind of stopped 6 monthes, But with summer here almost easier to do together. They are son 7 daughter 5.

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Lindsay "Lindy" - posted on 10/05/2011

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To me it is up to the children and their parents to decide, My 4 year old son and 2 year old daughter both take showers with me everyday.

Mary - posted on 09/30/2011

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we have a daughter 12 and son 11
they still shower togather
we told them it up them if they every want to shower by them self.
they have no problem with showering togather

SALLYANN - posted on 07/12/2010

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I think that if your children are curious about the opposite sex and ask questions you should answer them honestly and at a level they understand. Why make it a taboo to see or ask about the differences between male and female bodies. It's all perfectly natural and got nothing to do with sex. I do not understand this having to seperate syndrome once they start noticing I found that very surprising. Why make an issue of it, they should feel comfortable with their bodies. I have four children age 9 yrs boy, 8 yrs girl, 6 yrs girl and 3 yrs girl. They have all bathed together at some point and although my son now prefers his own bath mainly because he likes his space they do not hide from each other and honestly do not take any notice of each other naked. It's just natural and they are well aware of the differences because they learn't it at a young age it's not now an issue to them. I would say don't seperate at such a young age and let them choose when they would like a bit more privacy. I'm guessing that will come as they grow older. After all we all have bodies and they are not something to be ashamed of.

Cassie - posted on 10/26/2012

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I have a four year old son and three daughters, twin girls who are one and a two year old girl who will be three in February. my son pitches a fit if he can't take a bath with his sisters because he sees it as play time. my oldest daughter and him both know the difference between each other and have for a while because of potty training and I've been a single mom while their dad is working in different states. so Ron guy, shut up. we aren't perverts, we are moms. if our children felt uncomfortable they would let us know. you aren't a mother so stay off our website.

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Chet - posted on 07/05/2014

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I think it's okay as long as everyone in comfortable. Our 8.5 year old daughter often asks to get in the tub with her brothers.

Apple - posted on 07/02/2014

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There nothing wrong in them see each other. They can take bath and shower way up in their teenagers years. The best place for them to learn about boys and girls is right there where it safe. Where they understand each other and respected each other.

Norma - posted on 06/23/2014

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I am a young single mom of several ,to 13 yrs,we all bathe togater a lot of time in our own springs,,,what you are talking about is just natural curiosity that all kids have, As you know ,their are myraids of families that are nude around each other at ALL ages,,very healthy and clean minded

Norma - posted on 06/23/2014

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GOOD FOR YOU JAIMIE ~~~ same here,we all many times bathe togather on our hot-springs,am a sinlgle mom of several to 13 yrs..they also like to play outside in the buff,,,vrey natural!

Norma - posted on 06/23/2014

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CASSIE,GOOD FOR YOU MOM ! we don't need dirty minds with their negative vibrations !

Norma - posted on 06/23/2014

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,I am a single mom with several kids up to 11 yrs...we all bathe to-gather in our own hot-springs...and they also play outside nude,,,..I am from Switzerland,and I can see that IN England and USA most parents believe that the nude body must never be seen by another family member..but we do not see " certain body parts as bad and nasty,and I raised my children to NEVER be ashamed ,or to feel guilt....that the body is beautiful ,healthy and acceptable .What do you moms feel?

Dove - posted on 10/21/2012

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Eh.... my brother and I bathed together at 3 and 6 some 30+ years ago... neither of us were scarred by it.



Aren't you a man, Ron? Get the heck off a MOM'S site.... seems to me you are the one that's the pervert.

Taylor - posted on 07/21/2012

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When they feel uncomfortable they will let you know, and then it is time to stop. Eventually all kids get to a point where they want things like potty time and bathtime to become private. In the end you can't have one set rule for every family since every families views on modesty affects kids different. I have known kids wanting to stop at 3 and i grew up with a grew who at 12 still bathed with her 6 year old brother. To them nudity was no big deal and she liked to have someone to chat with in the tub. But like i said let your kids lead you with this.

Destiny - posted on 07/19/2012

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My daughter will be 5 in a few month and my son is 31/2 and they still take baths together...but i was thinking of stopping that soon because my daughter was told were not allowed to see her....(even though she was told this in past) she is now bringing it up every time she goes to get into the bath with her brother. So i thought it was time. Id prolly have let it go another 6months to a year from now if they were not bringing it up or talking about it. I personal feel that they would be ok for brother and sister at 7 and 5 for a few more months as long as you knew there wasn't anything but innocent play time and bath time and there hasn't been allot of questions or pointing things out. But i wouldn't do it much longer.. i really don't see the harm it would cause unless they were completely unsupervised and can be very sneaky together. Most brothers and sisters tell on each other...so that's the good part of that.

Jamie575 - posted on 07/02/2012

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let them decide when they want to stop. as long they are fine with it. there should not be age to stop. i bath with my older brother to he was 16 i was 15. we stop since there was not room for both of us in shower

Juanita - posted on 06/24/2012

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My kids are (son) 7yrs and (daughter) 3yrs.

They have bathed together up until this year and have been "aware" of their differences. Just because they became aware of their differences, it didn't mean (for us anyway) that it was time to seperate them! It was a fantastic opportunity to make them understand the differences between boys and girls (within reason of course..). This year, our son just got sick of bathing with his sister, mainly because she was a pain, and he liked the bath much hotter than she, so now she has a quick bath/wash and then he gets in and adds hot hot hot water to her tub and thats just how it's done in our household now.

Dori - posted on 06/21/2012

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my son is 4 and girl 3 in august i just stopped bathing together more so as its getting to be a tight fit as they ar e both so tall but every once in a while my 12 yr old girl will have a bath with my little girl they turn it into a mini spa party :)

Natasha - posted on 06/20/2012

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My son is 5, daughter is 4 and they were curious about each other's part a long time ago and I thought nothing of it, it gave me a chance to explain what we all have and I explained inappropriate touching. That was maybe 6-8 months ago and they continued to bathe together. Yesterday was the 1st time my son said he wanted to bathe alone, I'll let him do this as long as he wants to. Seems like the right time to separate them but I would've given it another year or 2.

Lisa - posted on 06/17/2012

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Jill i am a nudist and still have a hard time believing anyone's husband will be fine with their wife showering regularly with another man.

Lisa - posted on 06/17/2012

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It all varies on the kids and how they feel. But usually if left alone kids will want to stop around 9-11 or whenever they start middle school. But it really depends as some kids stop earlier and some kids will shower or take baths together into early teens. I think eventually either modesty takes over, or simply people like the shower to be a time of relaxation which another person ruins lol.

Carla - posted on 02/26/2012

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We have 4 and 6 y/o grandchildren, boy and girl. They started getting 'curious' about six months ago. My daughter started separating them then. I would rather spend a little more in water than open a Pandora's Box that can't be shut ;)



God bless, all

Nelly - posted on 02/19/2012

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I have 4 children 3 sons ages16,12, and10 yrs old.my daughter's 14 years old. my daghter bathes with 10yr old brother

Shannon - posted on 10/02/2011

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what i have always used as a guide is when they get to school age. {That is also the point when siblings of different sex shouldn't share a room (according to CAS i guess).} But it was at about 4yrs my kids were to big to share the tub comfortably. They never had any issues with it, and knew that my son washed his "boy bits" and my daughter washed her own "girl bits". What we do now that they are bigger and they have a little sister (6,5, 1yr) we fill the tub once and put all 3 through the water (dirtiest last). The big two wash themselves and it saves water.

Sabrina - posted on 07/11/2010

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I have 12, 8 and 3 year old girls and a 7 year old boy, my 12 year old takes baths by herself or sometimes with her sisters, but not my son for many reasons. But my son still takes a bath with my 8 year old or my 3 year old every once in a while. Those 3 haven't made it an issue about discomfort yet, my oldest did once she started "developing" at about 10 years old. I think it really when the kids start to feel uncomfortable or when you feel they are old enough to be to darn curious about body parts.

Kim - posted on 07/10/2010

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We stopped when they were about 6 1/2 & 2 1/2. Mostly because my husband was uncomfortable, but my son (older) decided he wanted to take showers.

Michelle - posted on 07/10/2010

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my daughter is almost 5 and my son is almost 4 and they still take a bath together but body parts havent came up yet. once it does i will stop giving them a bath together

Carla - posted on 07/10/2010

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This is a delicate issue, and one that only you can decide. It is important that each gender be made aware of the differences. However, if they start getting overt in their actions (touching the other), then separate baths are in order.

Shana - posted on 07/10/2010

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I agree with "when they stop being comfortable" I only have boys (4 boys aged 10,7,5 and 2). For a long while it was musical baths - one would hop in the rest would follow. Now my 10yr old wont shower with anyone and my 7yr old will only shower with my 2 yr old and my 5yr is disappointed no-one will hop in with him. So I say go with what the kiddies want!

Jennipher - posted on 07/10/2010

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When they get uncomfortable then its tym and yes they will get to that point. However before then its good for them to know they are different and it demystifies the whole issue of their different sex. when they get curious i think its best to answer them truthfully. When ma oldest son was 6 i had a newborn(gal) and as i was bathing her he asked whether her pee pee had been cut off!!! so i said no because its a gal she looks like that. Then i realised that he had no idea that gals were different except 4 wearing dresses, so i think its good to satisfy their innocent curiosity earlier on than letting them figure it out. Coz they will eventually and we may not like how they do it.

Carissa - posted on 07/08/2010

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I only have one child like a few others as well, but I remember taking a bath with my cousins and siblings when I visited them when we were kids...saving water and such, but we started taking separate baths when we were getting old enough to ask questions about our "differences". I'd say around 3-4 is the right time to separate the boys from the girls.

Paula - posted on 07/08/2010

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My kids are 5,6 and 8 and sometimes they want to have a bath on their own and sometimes they all pile in together. I have 2 boys and a girl. I would not stress yourself about it. I can run a bath at midnight and find I still have to share. If the children are happy enough to share then I would leave them be. They are obviously comfortable with their own bodies and each other so why make them have separate baths emphasizing their differences and maybe make them shy of each other. They will let you know when they want their own privacy. So for now I would let them keep their childhood and innocence, coz they grow up too fast these days as it is. Time enough for closed doors when they are a little older.

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We stopped once they started noticing differences respectively when they were three or four years old. At age seven and five, I assume that's already happened. Once they start noticing differences it's a good idea to teach them modesty between the genders. It might be easier, but the only time I allow my opposite gendered children in the tub together now is if they have on bathing suits and it's generally just for fun.

Nadia - posted on 07/08/2010

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reading the other replies I decided to add something: my oldest first saw a naked boy at about 2 years of age. Naturally she was interested, so his daddy (who was helping his 1 y.o. to go pee-pee at a tree) explained that's how boys do it. Well she tried going pee-pee above her potty, you can imagine the results :) and wasn't interested anymore. Granted she didn't bathe with him daily...
when my son came along, they had an interest towards each other's body at times and I felt it's natural and didn't stop bathing them together because of it, I decided not to make it an issue, so it never was one! I think it's an advantage when kids curiosity about opposite sex gets satisfied way before puberty so if your kids are still small, don't worry about it whether it's showers or dressing in front of each other! On the other hand, teach them to respect each other and not do silly things and whenever one of them doesn't feel comfortable to shower together anymore, take your hint and stop.

Nadia - posted on 07/08/2010

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I have a 9 y.o. son who used to take showers with my 5 y.o. and 4 y.o. girls until about half a year ago. He decided to take his showers alone by himself, so I figured it's time to. My 11 y.o. daughter decided the same at about 9-10 as well (well, she had her sister, not brother, with her before that)

Jeannie - posted on 07/07/2010

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I think once they r curious and familiar with there own bodies that u shouldn't bath them together.....son 7 and daughter 5? I definitely wouldn't......good luck

Heather - posted on 07/07/2010

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I have a son 5 and daughter 4 and have stopped bathing them together just recently. I guess it just depends on what you are comfortable with.

Jessica - posted on 07/07/2010

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I actually just thought about this question the other day. My son is 4 and my daughter is 3 and I was giving them a bath the other day and my daughter was asking about her brothers pee pee and that's when I decided that was old enough to stop giving them baths together.

Melanie - posted on 07/07/2010

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I only have one so this isn't an issue I have come across. However I am eight years older than my brother and I used to have a bath with him and wash him until I was twelve (he four). Puberty hit and he started asking questions, I wasn't comfortable so I started bathing on my own.

Kirsty - posted on 07/06/2010

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My kids are 8(boy) and 3 1/2(girl)...Although they still bathe together occasionally, i think it is about time to stop...Only because when they are in together they fight and make a huge mess in the bathroom that i have to clean up.
Like other people have said it depends on each child...Either way it's your family's choice..

Angela Lynette - posted on 07/05/2010

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MY SON AT 6 DECIDED HE WANTS BATHS WITHOUT HIS BABY SISTER AGE 1 AND AHALF I THINK IT DEPENDS HOW CURIOUS THEY ARE EACH CHILD IS DIFFERNT

Angie - posted on 07/05/2010

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Stop when one of the is uncomfortable or when you get a gut feeling that it shouldn't happen anymore. That is about the age that my daughters decided they didn't want to bathe together anymore.

Sylvia - posted on 07/05/2010

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When one or both of them decides they're no longer comfortable with it.

I only have one kid, so the issue hasn't arisen, but I know my little brother and I were still taking baths together when I was 8 and he was 4 (there was a drought -- had to save water!).

Adrienne - posted on 07/05/2010

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I wish more people would answer this question because my children R 11(girl) & 5(boy) & my daughter gives my son his baths & often just jump in the tub with him so I don't know...

Cynthia - posted on 07/04/2010

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I stopped when my kids were 4 and 3. They were already getting very curious about each other's body parts.

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