when spanking for discipline do you put over your knee or how and bare bottom or not?
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Ellen - posted on 07/08/2013
I spank over-the-knee with my hand on the bare bottom. My daughter hasn't needed to go there yet, but my son has had two sessions on the side of my bed. I think it makes perfect sense to spank on the bare. Why would I not wish to actually see what I was doing?
In both cases, I gave a dozen smacks (age X 2) from cheek to cheek, finishing with three down low where the bottom and legs come together. The spanking stings and reddens the bum, and the tears are real. But my son knew why I was spanking him, and the spankings he got taught him a lesson. If that isn't the object of the exercise, I don't know what is.
Anna - posted on 11/15/2012
I'm a firm believer of spanking. That is what's wrong with kids now they don't get them anymore. My daughter will be 10 soon and I use a paddle like they have in schools, but not bare bottomed. I make her grab her ankles. She's too big to put over my knee. After a few of those, you won't have to use it any more just the threat of it works.
Shelly - posted on 11/25/2012
I've spanked my kids, but not very often. I saved it for those moments of outright defiance, not every infraction. Over the knee works with younger kids; I guess it's a matter of figuring out the logistics of it... I never did the bare bottom - that always seemed to me to bring a sexual element into it, as well as humiliation, which is definitely not what I want. Bare hand for me, clothes on for the kids. And afterwards I always cuddled with my kids to let them know that I still loved them. I also found it be effective only up to about school age. After that there are other forms of discipline that probably work better. And of course, it always depends on the individual child. What works for one may not work on the next. Spanking is already a contentious issue, but done correctly I believe it can be effective. I think the key is to never do so if you are angry, otherwise you will be letting it out on the child.
Fay - posted on 11/20/2012
All very well saying "take things away", my children dont have things to take away, no laptops, no mobiles, no gameboys or ds's or whatever, we have a family computer and tv, that's it. And some people say "time out", but how does that work if you're trying to get a child ready for school? What's the point in letting them sit in a corner for 5 minutes, when you only have 10 minutes left? To answer the question, yes, I spanked my children, yes I put them over my knee, and yes I did it bare bummed! After a few times of doing it, they knew I would carry out the threat, and then all I had to do was threaten it. I was spanked as a child, given "six of the best" as my dad put it, but i was also given the love that was necessary to reassure me. It's about balance, and finding what works for the individual.
Sophia - posted on 11/19/2012
Frist thing frist.. hitting is not real discipline. I take things away .. cell phones, lap top, tv, games, no friends over, no no no no no. I say. you want to really make a child get what you are saying put away all his toys. and explain why.
Barbara - posted on 11/15/2012
I do not approve spanking a child for discipline because this is a violent task and is not teaching a child right from wrong. As a child, I was spanked by my dad as well as my siblings and we all thought that nothing was truly learned only hurt. A child needs to be discipline from time to time but I think it is better to talk it out with your child and have consequences rather than spanking.
Anastasia - posted on 11/13/2012
not sure on the over the knee or not but bare bottom just causes embaressment and humiliation it will not correct the behavior im not really agianst spanking though i do not practice it myself as a child i was regularly spanked though until i was around 12 and thus i only have my own experiance to draw from.
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