When you take your little boy into the ladies room does he go in the cubicle with you?

Gretchen - posted on 07/14/2010

i kinda feel like a bad mother now. my son is 7 and i let hime use the bathroom himself now. he started not liking to go into the ladies room. so i stand outside the door and wait for him. if i need to go then he has no choice but to come in with me and stand in front of the stall where i can see his feet. he just felt uncomfortable.

Alison - posted on 07/14/2010

You don't say how old your boy is but I totally still do this! I make him turnaround tho. Or I'm ok if he's in a stall next to me...but my kid is almost 7 & there is no way I'm letting him go to the mens room alone!! Do what you think is right!!

Carla - posted on 07/14/2010

Again went on Christian moms looking for this post; couldn't find it the other day, found it once, but forgot to switch over here, now can't find it again! Sorry, Kelly B.

Nags - posted on 07/14/2010

Well actually, it may be okay for a kid to be taken into the toilet but can be asked to turn around or close his eyes too? I used to do this when i am travelling by train or visiting a public loo.. now he is ten years old and i do feel tense wen he has to go to mens loo alone these days... may be we have to give him some space and ask him to scream if being pried upon...

Carla - posted on 07/14/2010

I'm with Valerie--whether they get snatched or touch the urinal cake, all is bad ;)

Valerie - posted on 07/13/2010

I try and get two stalls next to each other my son (almost 5) knows how to lock and unlock the door and he knows that if he comes out of the stall before Mommys done he will get punished. If there are not 2 stalls together I try to get the larger stall so he can go first then I go he is never allowed outside the door I am to afraid someone will take him. But I do feel like he is getting to old to be in the Ladies room because he does know that I have different parts but he is getting rather curious but i dont know when I should allow him to go in the Mens room by himself I dont think I ever want him to go by himself...... He likes to touch the urinal cakes when he goes in the mens room with his father. But if its just me and him out and about I take him in the ladies room with me

Donna - posted on 07/13/2010

I have a three year old son and a seven year old daughter and we often all three of us go in the big stall together, depending on where we are and how crowded it is. Saves time and keeps them safe. DD does go in on her own now but sometimes it's just easier to pull everyone in together. He won't remember what he's seen at this point. When he gets to around five or so, we'll see. This is one of those things where I feel we all have to make the choice we can deal with. Everyone lives in a different place and travels to different places and there can be no hard and fast rule.

Keisha - posted on 07/12/2010

Absolutely! My youngest is 3 and I get the largest stall available and take him right in there with me and we both go when its just the two of us. My oldest son who is 5 can go into the stall by himself if he has to go and I'll wait at the stall door. He's old enough to know not to run around the bathroom or leave out and he'll either come in or stand at the door if I have to go. I dont see a problem with it at all.

Carla - posted on 07/10/2010

I wonder if they pulled it? I looked through about 4 pages and couldn't find it. Anyway, the overwhelming response was--safety over modesty. Any woman that would complain because you are protecting your son, either isn't a mother or doesn't have the brains God gave a goose! The ones who complain would probably also be the ones who would turn you in to Child Protective Services for leaving him outside while you went!

Jodie - posted on 07/10/2010

I'll bring my son in with me unless one of his older sister's is with me. I think it's safer that way. When they get older, I agree with Shana Skinner, get him to use the single toilet that no one else can go into without you knowing it.

Toni - posted on 07/10/2010

If your comfortable with it, and he is comfortable with it, there is no problem with it!!! He will let you know When he wants to go in to the stall by himself. Till then Its harmless!!!

Emilie - posted on 07/10/2010

I always took my son with me. He always walks in on me at home so what is the difference in him seeing me in public. I also take him because I don't want him to be abducted.

Kelly - posted on 07/10/2010

Thank u for that carla. Couldnt find that posting. where can i find it.

Carla - posted on 07/10/2010

If you go to the Christian moms postings, you will find we have extensively talked about this, and the overwhelming answer is we take them in with us! If you are like me, you are pulling your pants down while starting to squat, so he isn't going to see anything earth shattering! I would rather him see a little 'something' than have him abducted.

God bless, honey!

Shana - posted on 07/10/2010

I actually have 4 boys (aged 10,7,5 and 2) and when my older son where younger I did the same as you and I do the same with my 2yr old (he is only in night nappies now)
My local shopping centre now has parents room, which has 2 toliets (one adult sized and one small sized) - which made it easier for everyone to go at once (plus is avoids that one woman with no kids who complains loudly bout boys in girls toliets LOL)
HOWEVER when my boys started to become uncomfortable about going with mum, I get them to use the disable toliets (which are generally one sperate toliet here in Aust), that way they get the "private time" but I know where they are and can "bust in" if need be!