When your almost 7 yr old boy starts figuring out what his penis can do, what do you say to him?

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Claudine - posted on 07/08/2012

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You are welcome! Good Luck! I know this is a hard topic for many parents and I can't imagine all the challenges you face as a single mom. You have to play the part of both parents. I think it is okay to tell your son that this is "new territory" for you as you do not have any experience being a little boy. But you do know what it was like to be a kid, to be curious, etc. Just opening a dialogue with him is healthy. He needs to know that he can approach you and that you will do your best to give him the information he needs as he is growing up.
I have a lot of opinions on this topic, but I do not want to preach to you. I would just encourage you to be open and approachable. (I have two teen boys and I know boys don't open up easily and often don't know what to say.) Moms often need to help provide the words for feelings that boys have trouble expressing. I tell my kids that if they ever need to talk and they are too nervous, they can always leave a note on my pillow. Then I can go to them instead of them having to come to me. Your son is lucky to have you as a mom, lucky that you are willing to ask for encouragement from other moms when you need it. You may be a single mom, but you don't have to parent alone!

User - posted on 07/08/2012

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Thank you so much, I knew I needed to talk to him but wasn't sure how to start. When I was young my mother drew pictures of the male and female and we talked for a long time it was wonderful of my mom. Now that I have a son I just wasn't sure how to approach this. Thank you, Thank you

Claudine - posted on 07/08/2012

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Talk to him! If you are the only adult in his life that is responsible for all of his needs, you need to get brave and start talking. The most important thing to establish right now is that you are willing to talk to him about everything (even tough stuff) and that if he has questions, he should come to you (not friends, internet, etc.) In today's world, even young boys are bombarded with sexual imagery. It is normal to be curious, but boys need direction regarding what is acceptable. And boys need accurate information from adults willing to talk to them. Generations ago, parents may have had the luxury of waiting to talk to their children about this type of thing. Now days, if you do not talk to him, he will hear things from friends, older siblings of friends, TV, etc. You cannot filter out all the sources of sexual information, so you need to make sure he has at least one source of what is accurate. So many kids his age are being inadvertently exposed to pornography. Check out this blog for encouragement and help on ways to talk to him (and why you need to.) www.pornoculation.com

Dena - posted on 07/08/2012

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Ok, the reason I ask, is because I'm a single mother with really no men around. I am not sure with little boys, I know what to do with a girl not sure about a boy.

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