Wondering if anyone has advice on having number 3?

Karla - posted on 01/24/2011

Wow, seriously didn't notice this was a few years old! Never mind my comments!!

Karla - posted on 01/24/2011

I'm the only one so far but we had always said 2 and never thought otherwise. I never had the feeling that we were not complete with 2. I'm already wondering how we will
manage once our daughter is involved in more things since we already seem so busy! It definitely means sacrifice and limits the more there are. I'm not saying that's bad but something to consider at least. Ultimately I think you just know what is right for you!

Kate - posted on 10/28/2008

I just had #4. My boys are 6 and 5. My girls are 3 and 4mos. Honestly for us going from 1-2 was harder than 2-3 and from 3-4 was the easiest yet (probably because of how old the first three are). My first two are 15 mos apart which is why that was such a tough transition. With our latest addition both my hubby and I feel our family is complete. I would say my advice is to make sure you are both 100% on board for having another one. We went back and forth for a while, but eventually decided neither of us felt our family was complete at 2 (and then again at 3).

Marie - posted on 10/28/2008

I have to say that unlike the other moms that have answered, I thought it was a lot harder going from 2-3 than from 1-2. I think going from 3-4 was the easiest, though. I think if you are sure you need to have that one more, you should go for it (if your husband can be convinced.) It took some convincing, but I felt we really should have one more. My husband was happy with 3, but I just knew we had one more coming. I am regretting it a little now that my baby (6 weeks old) is up half the night and my 2 yo is up the other half the night... But, you will adjust. If it feels right for your family, go for it!

HollyJo - posted on 10/27/2008

I have three...6,3,and 11 months. Girl, boy and another girl, all two and a half years apart. Life never slows! Two was really easy for me but three is kicking my butt! I really felt ready for another and the pregnancy was easier then ever but I just don't have enough to give all three like I did at only two kids. The middle child gets left out a lot! And it shows! Really think and pray about it. If you haven't got a lot of energy or time to keep up with the ones you have...think twice. Their all blessings but what kind of blessing can you best be for them?

Kristin - posted on 10/26/2008

I have four boys, and I agree that going from 1 to 2 was much more difficult than adding 3 or 4. The only thing is that you have to be ready for a very busy life. I was realizing with a friend who also has 4 children that we always feel overscheduled, but that is just a function of having 4 kids. I love it though.

I think keeping a positive attitude about things for yourself and your kids goes a long way towards helping having any number of kids be a great experience!

Kerry - posted on 10/26/2008

We have three boys, ages 14, 6 & 4. I was given some advice before our third arrived. A friend with three kids told me it is easier to add the third child in. She's right, once they are past the baby stage. We sat the kids down beforehand and talked to them about the baby's needs and how demanding he or she would be at first. We also spoke to them a lot about how great it would be to have someone smaller they could help teach. By the time the baby arrived, they were excited and my toddler pitched in with great enthusiasm. I realized later my oldest, who already had experienced the arrival of one baby two years prior, became withdrawn and reclusive. My biggest suggestion is to involve everyone and not just in terms of the chores that come with babies. Also, if you can, make time to spend with the kids seperately so they don't feel pushed aside as you prepare for and welcome your new child.

Amy - posted on 10/25/2008

Hey Sarah i just had my third child. It's been awhile since i had kids to but it's great wouldn't change anything at all. I am done now though 3 is enough for my husband and i. If you want another one i say go for it if that is really what you want to do. Hope this helped you some.

Cindy - posted on 10/25/2008

For us #3 was a huge change. We never stop. But, it is wonderful. Love on #2 a little more they tend to get lost.

Amy - posted on 10/25/2008

I HAVE 3 AND ONE ON THE WAY. GOING TO 3 WAS NOTHING. I THINK IT WAS MUCH MORE DIFFICULT GOING TO TWO. ONCE YOU'RE OUTNUMBERED, IT DOESN'T MATTER ANYMORE. MY DAUGHTER WAS 4 AT THE TIME AND SHE DID REGRESS A BIT. WEARING DIAPERS AGAIN, POTTY DURING THE DAYTIME, BUT IT DIDN'T LAST LONG. JUST MAKE SURE TO TRY AND GIVE THEM ALL THEIR OWN SPECIAL TIMES. EVEN IF IT'S FOR 2 MINUTES DURING THE DAY. YOU'LL DO GREAT!!

Rebecca - posted on 10/24/2008

I will say that waiting until the right time to have my third child was one of the best decisions I have ever made. I decided to wait until my older two had started school to be sure that I would have that special time with just me and the baby while they were away. When they get home from school, they are so excited to see there little brother. All they want to do is drop there bags and play with him. They also love "helping" out with little things like "could you get Mommy the wipes?"

I knew that after I had two I would want just one more, now that I have three my heart is full and I dont think we could have this perfect of a schedule with any more .... I think we are done :)

Jennifer - posted on 10/24/2008

As a Mother of 3 girls ages 6, 3 and 18 mths I have to say having a third child was a much easier adjustment then going from 1 to 2. I'm not sure the ages of your other children but we didn't tell my other children I was pregnant until later in the pregnancy we just felt in child time it would be to long for them and make them either anxious, excited or give them to much time to worry....It worked out great enough time for them to adjust and take part in the good things like feeling baby kick and move....Make sure you plan and have all hands on board so your other kids will have special time with Dad, grandma or Aunts and Uncles it makes them feel special and less ignored as well....3 is a great # I myself am one of 3 girls and love it!

Sarah - posted on 10/23/2008

I am not pregnant yet but trying to talk my husband into the third child! I just don't feel I am done yet and want that third one!

Wendy - posted on 10/23/2008

I'm pregnant with #3. My son is 10, and my daughter is 8. We were reluctant to tell them at first in fear of dissappointment of a miscarriage, and I'll be 40 in March. Now that they know, they want to tell the world, and my husband wants to wait til Christmas to break the news to the grandparents and the rest of the family.

Jennifer - posted on 10/23/2008

Are you already pregnant with number three, or asking if you should have a third? For me, it was not that big of a deal. The other two were excited, especially when the boys found out it was a sister for them! We had no jealousy issues, and were not really scared about having our third.