What happens to Spirited Kids as they grow older?

Jennifer - posted on 11/07/2010

I discovered recently, based on "Raising the Spirited Child" (LOVE that book!) that I'm spirited too. With the right coping skills (mine were learned along the way) I have done just fine. I'm a little quirky at times, but that is one of the reasons my husband loves me (and me him). Things do mellow out with the practice of using coping skills and embracing the uniqueness that is you. Being equipped with understanding helps a lot. :)

Bri - posted on 01/23/2010

One of the comments made in Raising Your Spirited Child that really resonated with me was that if we identify the "spirit" now (when they are younger) and figure out the coping techniques that work for them, how beneficial it will be to them later in life when they are still perceptive or sensitive or intense but at least they know "hey, I need to be around people right now to re-energize" or "I need to do X in this situation".

Christina - posted on 09/12/2009

I keep telling myself that if we can find a way to channel all of our daughter's boundless "spirit" that she will be quite a woman when she grows up! How we will manage to do this as parents. . . I have no idea. She is so defiant (only 3 1/2) that it is hard for us to guide or teach her in any way, shape, or form. I just continue praying for the patience to stick with it. I'm terrified that if we give up on her she will turn into a total monster!

Heather - posted on 06/18/2009

Excellent question, I often wonder the same thing. I don't know how I am going to mentally survive the teen years. I have to be constantly on the top of my game with my spirited 5 year old. Her curiosity is endless,which at times poses some dangerous situations.



My doctor whose 1st child is spirited, told me very candidly " if you think you are struggling now, wait until she becomes a teenager." Not a good sign, but I am glad he didn't sugar coat it. It is who my child is and I shouldn't expect her to "outgrow" it. I think we just trade one challenge for another.

Heather - posted on 06/18/2009

Excellent question, I often wonder the same thing. I don't know how I am going to mentally survive the teen years. I have to be constantly on the top of my game with my spirited 5 year old. Her curiosity is endless,which at times poses some dangerous situations.



My doctor whose 1st child is spirited, told me very candidly " if you think you are struggling now, wait until she becomes a teenager." Not a good sign, but I am glad he didn't sugar coat it. It is who my child is and I shouldn't expect her to "outgrow" it. I think we just trade one challenge for another.