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Christine - posted on 06/21/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I am a step mother of two teenage boys, and let me tell ya it has been a challenge of the oldest one who is 18 years old! he has been jealous of Dad's and I relationship from the start. He has tried multiple things to break us up, get me in trouble with Dad. He likes to challenge me all the time, combative when he gets the chance. He has stolen lots of things from us and everyone in the house, it is so bad we had to put locks on our bedroom doors. He will do nothing to help around the house unless you get on his case.
His father works out of twon a lot, so I am left with him and his brother. He will do nothing, I ask him to do things, he will get mouthy, the list goes on and on....anyone else?

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Rhonda - posted on 08/06/2012

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Hi, my name is Rhonda. I have 2 step sons which I call my sons and treat them just like they're my own. I do spoil them, but at the same time, I do also discipline them as well. I am pregnant with my 1st child by their father and I suspect that the boys are a little jealous of the new baby on the way. Their father works out of town almost 6 mos out of the year, and it seems like when he leaves, the boys get out of control. I don't want them to think that I'm a bad step mother, so I always give in and let them get away with a lot. But I'm pregnant, tired and doing so much work on my own because my husband is away working, and I feel like I don't have any control over my sons. Has anyone else gone through this?

Christine - posted on 06/25/2010

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Oh his Dad has, and we have had the many talks about it, and College? no, he is not the most motivated person ever, we cannot even get him looking for work?!
I just come to the point where I do not even deal with him any more, we have had talks, and talks, and talks, and he keeps going back to it, so I just do not deal with him any more.
thanks for the response, much appreciated :)

Ariel - posted on 06/23/2010

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I'm sorry to hear that! That must be rough; I can't imagine having to try to bond with an 18-year-old! Have you tried talking to his dad about everything? Has his father tried talking to him? Maybe he should see a counselor. Is he heading off to college soon? He might possibly just need to "mature" a little more.... wish I could be more help!

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