My Grown Son Ignores me!

Vanessa - posted on 06/04/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Thank God my son doesn't have any children or a steady girlfriend, so what's his excuse for not calling me or even returning my calls? I am grateful that he financially contributes to my well being faithfully. Lord knows, I'm struggling. But should money be a substitute for your time? I live in a different state so visiting is not an easy option. Never thought I'd see the day when I'd ask him to come back home to live! LOL Guess it depends on what lenses you're viewing your particular circumstances and where you spiritually stand?



I guess what goes around, comes around. I can remember being newly married and being so involved in my marriage, kids and job. Nothing else seemed to matter beyond that. I also remember my Grandmother, who raised me, being very resentful that her grandchildren didn't spend time with her. She told me upon her death bed "Loneliness is a bitter pill to swallow and you too shall drink from that cup. To assume otherwise is the arrogance of youth speaking!



Also, I can't forget (LOL) that NEED MO IS A MUG! I'm working real hard on re-developing my support groups and polishing/fine tuning the many gifts God gave me.



Just needed to vent!

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Janet - posted on 04/12/2012

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I think your Grandmother's words are turning out to be right when it comes to my sons. I have a son who is 29, he lives with his father and I, I feel like he is starting to lash out at me. I also have a son who is 23, married, with a child on the way. I've found as they grow older it feels like they turn away from me and look toward their Dad. I find myself being hurt by what I consider to be disrespectful. I guess things change and I have to accept that, still I won't tolerate anger being taken out on me.

Carol - posted on 04/21/2012

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As for me my dear, my son this Mama's back/heart enough. That honestly through the Grace of God it will remain as a distant slight ache, I am believing I am not to carry any more Guilt which has left me crawling over glass, sharp small stones, and worst the why's were strangling me to death. He has used me for the last time and I have continued to be his door mat. Well no more, cause I know I'm a Child of God, Loved and cared for my son, and he rather be with pricks, booze and pot and he's free to choose that as well as I too am allowed to ignore him if that's how he wants it to me. But the money csm machine has been dumped at the dump yard and Mama don't live here anymore. Wait til he comes around again, Lord this time, let's both follow thru. He's manipulative and self serving, and that is not the son you Blessed me with now that he's 21 and a man. His words not my own. Not sad or bold, just Peace for the first time. All is Well! Amen

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Gina - posted on 08/26/2013

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I am also going through this with my 20 year old son. He only seems to come around when he wants something. We pay his phone and insurance. He won't respond to my texts or his dad's. So, we are getting fed up with feeling like a doormat and an ATM. We have told him that we will no longer be paying his bills. I feel horrible about doing this to him as he doesn't make much money, but I am tired/hurt/angry about how he is treating us! I never thought my son would behave like this! However, he knows where he can find me when he finally decides to get over whatever it is he is going through. My husband says we need to just leave him alone and let him decide when to be in touch with us. It is hard to do because I do miss him, but I have no choice as this appears to be what my son wants.

Carol - posted on 03/08/2012

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I would love to know, as I too am a Mom of an adult son, what changed, what created such a change in personality, from "togetherness" to utter "distance". No more tollerance of respect of a caring loving mother, but in turned developed anger, entilement and worst to estrange me. Giving another the sir name of "Mom" and calling me by my first name.



I'm left on my knees, crying out to God, because it's a lonilness for which I can't bear. Missing my son, his closeness, kindness, his love for God all went up like POOF. i'M LEFT WITH THE WHY'S??? Mama C

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