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Help please?

Jenn - posted on 05/27/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Being in my house these days is like WW3!! I have 2 DS's & 2 SS's and they're always at each others throats. Here's a bit of info:

SS #1 - 11 years old, rude, disrespectful, extremely violent to SS #2, yells & screams at both of my DS's, cries to his BM when he gets in trouble (she lets him off the hook 24/7).

SS #2 - 9 years old, rude, disrespectful, very rough with DS #1, talks back, ignores requests, is rough with all 3 animals.

DS #1 - 4 years old, a little rude, acts like SS #2 a lot, rough with DS #2, throws tantrums, refuses to listen.

DS #2 - 2 years old, throws fits, likes to hit, doesn't listen well.

All these kids are very "hands on" with each other and don't listen when told to keep their hands to themselves. We have tried the time out method, the stand in the corner method, the removal of precious items (DS, Gameboy, Tv, ect) but nothing seems to work. I am so tired of having kids talk back to me when they're asked to either do something or to stop doing something. Any ideas on how to get them to show more respect to each other and to us parents? I feel like I'm living in a zoo 24/7.

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Jenn - posted on 05/28/2012

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Well, the only other issue is that both SS's live with their BM Mon-Thurs and are with us Fri-Sun and sadly, there's not much time in the weekend to try and get them to behave along with their sports and activities. You'd figure with all they had to do, they'd be much more tired rather than having all this energy to beat each other to death. I am going to try the "banning them" thing you suggested, but the only other issue is they share a room, in which they have all their games and such (which I don't approve of at all but my DH seems to think a TV in their room is alright), as do my DS's (they're too young to have games/Tv in their room). Our place really doesn't have all that much room on weekends. I'm just on my last string with them and all this violent behavior. I hate that my little ones are adopting this bad behavior and it was suggested by his teacher that my 4 year old should stay home if he was going to act that way. I can't stand it, my kids have never behaved this way before and I hate to blame it all on my SS's but that's the only place they see it.

Louise - posted on 05/28/2012

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Yes I used to ban my son from the lounge for three nights when he was rude or disrespectful. He had his tv removed so he had to do something by himself. This gave him plenty of time to think about his behaviour. You cant go on shouting at all of them, just remove them from the situation. If they all have there own room this is ok and will work for you. Three nights is a long time. My son is now 21 and he says that he found that the worst punishment and that in that time he did homework and sorted things out in his room in sheer boredom. I never had to do this very often because the threat was enough!

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