Lisa - posted on 11/10/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )
I'm new to this site and am hoping I can get some advice. My significant other took a job about 4 months ago where he travels all week long. We are not married...yet... we live together. We are talking marriage so that is coming soon. He has two girls from his first marriage, ages 10 and 12. They are at our house Sunday until Wednesday morning and some Saturday's. He flys out early Monday monring and returns home either late Thursday or Friday afternoon. I have his girls here while he is gone as we didn't want to change the already established schedule, plus the ex would not switch at all. So I find myself raising his kids, doing all the chores around the house, and otherwise making sure the house is still standing. I'm frsutrated that he is never her, and mad that he took a job that causes this. I feel unappreciated and am not getting the help I need around the house. I don't want him to come home for a few days and spend it cleaning. He does most of the cooking when he is here and does clean up from time to time. But I miss him terribly when he's gone. We only have about 1 day together alone. I feel sad for his kids because I know they miss him too. We got into a huge fight last night (via the phone of course) about me not liking the job, him not being here, not feeling appreciated, etc. I need some advice on how to handle all these new responsibilites thrust onto me and how to not resent him and his job.