Bethanie - posted on 03/02/2010 ( 96 moms have responded )
While, I understand not everyones marriage is 100% perfect 100% of the time (believe me, I've been there) but it just seems like every thread is about how unhappy everyone is and how terrible there marriages are because their husbands are never home. Yes, I know that it sucks not having your husband around with you while you're raising your children but I'd just like to hear from some Moms/Wives that were actually on board with their husbands career choice/job, support them and understand that they are making sacrifices, too.
Here is my situation:
My husband just got out of the Army last March. He was a Medevac Pilot up until then and thankfully (because he was undeployable) never was sent overseas. Though, we did spend many months apart, before we had a child. He is very highly qualified but was having trouble finding a job due to the down job market at the time and he didn't have enough flight hours to qualify for some of the jobs. So, he ended up getting a sweet deal of a job as a Civilan Contractor but the catch was that deployments (to any country) were mandatory. He just came back from his first 6 month deployment. He left when our son was 13 months old. I did everything on my own with only one friend (who's now since moved) and my sister (who works 40+ hours a week) for some support, but I was pretty much on my own. I know how awful it was for my husband to be away from us for 6 months, working 12hr shifts, 7 days a week. Did it suck not having him around to witness our sons first steps, first words, well of course but I love and respect my husband and the decision he made for our future financial security. He will be returning overseas come this summer for another 6 months and will miss our sons 2nd birthday, my birthday, halloween and thanksgiving again but at least he'll be home for Christmas this year! :)