Are you a wife or girlfriend of a tugboat captain? Does he leave for a long time?

Princess - posted on 04/28/2013 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Hi, I've been blogging about my life as a tugboat captain's wife for about a year. My hubs goes out to sea for approximately 1/2 the year. If you'd like to connect, ask any questions, need a topic covered in my blog, please let me know.
Enchanted Seashells, Confessions of a Tugboat Captain's Wife
www.enchantedseashells.com

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Christal - posted 1 day ago

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Hello, my fiance is a tugboat engineer and he's gone every other week but right now he's been gone for a total of 3 weeks and won't be home until the 8th. This is the first time he's been gone this long and I haven't heard from him in 2 days. I'm so happy I found a group of tug wives like this:)

Michelle - posted on 09/04/2014

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I've been a tugboat wife for 9 years. I love this life! My man is gone 7 days, then home 7 days. I write a blog about the life we live. It's www.littleyellowtugboat.blogspot.com. I would love to connect with others living this life!

Enchanted Seashells, Confessions Of A Tugboat Captain's Wife - posted on 05/03/2014

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I try to look on the bright side of things; yes, it's sad to think you're living for the time they're back home, but my tugboat man says it makes him happy to think of what's waiting for him back home, so I try to look at it from his point of view too.

Patricia - posted on 05/03/2014

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Shanon you said it perfect- I feel like I live my life for him to come home. So sad

Princess - posted on 01/05/2014

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It's definitely tough. I only had a brother who was 7 years older than me so I was pretty much an only child and learned to play by myself and be happy alone, so it's not that bad for me. My son is older so I really have an empty nest. My advice is to embrace being alone and self sufficient and you'll be happier when he's home. Mine's been home for 2 months now, a really long stretch but he was gone a lot in 2013 so he deserves a long break. It's not ideal, but it really let us know that we are a team and can deal with stuff together, even being apart. Hope this helps a little. PS are you in CA?

Calley - posted on 12/16/2013

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My significant other is just starting his first trek into the Tugboat world tomorrow. They're gone for two weeks at a time, and then in the next half year he will be on the boat for three months at a time. I'm not used to not having him around, and if anyone has any advice what to do with myself in his absence, the comments would be most useful and kind. He comes from a military family and he is used to having to say goodbye to his father for long periods of time; I don't think he sees how much the change is already affecting me, and we've never been apart from each other much since we started living together. And frankly my cats aren't very good company. Please feel free to email me at crazycalley1991@gmail.com.

Shanon - posted on 11/02/2013

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I'm in Pennsylvania he works out of New York .I have searched for groups there isn't much out there .most of my family is on boats so there gone most of the time as well .he's only been on for about 2 years and I'm still not used to it,I miss him and it's so hard to explain to the kids, our youngest is four months old and he's only spent 12 days of her life home .sometimes I feel like my life has just turned into waiting for him to get home .my dad is a boat man so I know what the kids are going thru.

Princess - posted on 11/02/2013

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Hi, I totally understand and I'm not quite sure why there isn't a bigger group of us. It must be even more difficult to be the sole parent for 3 little ones! What part of the country are you in? Maybe we could create a mom's group in your area to share experiences, although in the mariner world, everyone comes from all over, hard to find people close by. Even in my area, SoCal, I don't hang out with other wives, I think everyone's hub leaves at different times on different vessels. I know when my guy is home, we spend all of our time together.

Shanon - posted on 11/02/2013

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Hi my hubby is an engineer on a tug he's gone now for a six week stretch and were halfway thru I'm surprised there is no group chats about this life we lead sometimes it's hard we are having a really hard time his relief has quit so even after this run he will only get a few days until he's back on I'm home with 3 young kids I guess I'm just looking for someone that understands -shanon

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