Pam - posted on 03/31/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )
I am new to Circle of Mom's and am trying to figure it all out. My husband travels 2-3 weeks of each month staying gone during the week and is home on weekends.
We have two sons still at home and when he comes home on the weekends like super dad I am just left in the dust. He seems to order everyone around the way he sees fit even though the house didn't fall apart while he was away. We are then doing everything he wants when he wants and there isn't time for me to get any "solo" time. He is very active in the boys activities, on the weekends, so it is usually the fun stuff.
I guess I get jealous of the boys at times because they "get" time with dad and I know they should have this time with him but sometimes I want time with him too and there just isn't enough left. I have to stay home during the day because our oldest son is rapid cycle bi-polar and a handful. Sometimes I think I get jealous that my husband is away and doesn't have to deal with all of the doctor appt.'s and school meetings that are involved. Then I feel guilty for being jealous. It is a vicious never ending cycle.
Does anyone else ever feel that way? I just want a happy balance and feel like this is what my life is going to be until the boys leave home and then what? Are we going to have anything in common anymore? I don't know I am starting to resent the time he is away. How do you all get through it?