husband is airline pilot

Stephanie - posted on 11/09/2008 ( 27 moms have responded )

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Any other women on here with airline pilot husbands? =) I just found this group and have a 3-month-old daughter. This is great!

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Sandra - posted on 06/15/2013

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My husband is a pilot and has been cheating our entire marriage. I never knew until a flight attendant Kim Faires. She was going thru his phone suspecting him of cheating on her. I never knew. Now my daughter who was 14 at the time says she never had a father. I wish I had known.Subsequently got stage 3 breast cancer plus an uncurable STD from my husband. I thought everything was fine until my life basically ended. Why would a woman and married man destroy so many lives without a second thought. Never marry a pilot. This one was supposed to be the true blue ex airforce U@ pilot, above reproach until it turned out he was a snake.

Jane - posted on 08/20/2013

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I have known pilots all my life and I stupidly married one. Most cheat! They consider it a perk of the job and quite normal...or course they don't admit it in "civy street". I thought mine was one of the good ones, I never believed he was the type. It turns out, after I discovered his affair last year (which he denied until I showed him the evidence)... He has been unfaithful for years. We have three kids under 11 :-(. What a jerk (I have known him 30 years!

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Stephanies beef first...I have had people say things like that. I swear I have often thought about writing a book called "Stupid Things That people say to you about being a Pilot" b/c I really could fill a book. In this book would be included when my garbage man told me that he was going to be a pilot too..yes, I am serious. My husband and I avoid what we call "the P word" b/c of the stupid comments or some preconceived notion that they have about you or if you are buying something they will charge you more b/c they think you are rich. I really do not mind if they say it is hard on me but when people imply it being hard on the kids like we are torturing them, that makes me mad. I usually ask them how many days off a month their husbands have, they usually say 4/6/8. At this point I tell them my husband has 16-18. And sadly enough, women say things to other women just to be mean b/c they are jealous for whatever reason.



Now Kimberlys routine comment. We had the same issue & one day I asked my DH "Do I tell you how to fly airplanes?" and he said "no" & I expalined that being a Mom is my job and I do it 24/7 and sometimes I might have figured out a faster or easier way to do it and I need him to respect that & it helped. I also hold my comments when my daughter walks out of the bedroom with him dressed like a lunatic to go the the mall together, I just pray they do not see anyone we know :) I try to give him space to do what he wants with them too. On my wedding day my mom said to me "throw him a bone sometimes and let him win " b/c I do like doing things my way and all my soup labels in the same direction. The other thing that she said to me was "rememebr when he comes home that it is his house too, do not act like it is your house or it will be just your house." 10 years later I know what she means!

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Kk - posted on 03/08/2014

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I've been married 15 years and I cheated on my pilot husband. Worst mistake I ever made. First day, Christmas Day, he went back to work after he found out he cheated with a United Flight Attendant. He says it was once he took a pic of her in his hotel room bed and I found it on his phone. I don't believe that he isn't still cheating but he says he's no. I love him so much and I want to spend the rest of my life making up for the mistakes I made. Do you think couples can recover from both partners cheating? I don't feel like he is telling me everything he gets angry when I ask him about the girl. I've been honest with him and would tell him anything he wanted to know. I wish I could rewind and changes some things. I'm struggling and I have 2 kids to put a smile on my face for.

Abby - posted on 07/11/2013

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HI everyone. My husband just retired from the Navy after 29yrs and is now going to fly with express jet. I have 3 boys all of whom are moving out within 6months of each other, 2 going into the Navy , 1 found a job in another state.
I'm terrified about this life...but I guess if we made it through the Navy we can do this too. I was FLOORED when I found out how little it pays for a few years.
I hope I see him more often than not. It's going to be lonely for sure, I guess I should find some hobbies! I'm an RN as well.

Sandy - posted on 02/26/2013

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I'm married to an airline pilot. We have 2-year old twin boys and another on the way. It's very challenging!

Penny - posted on 02/19/2013

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My husband is an Airline Pilot for AirTran/Southwest ;-) has flown for many others and before commercial corporate before that "the bush" in Alaska! Haha! The life of being a pilots wife can be a challenge,more so a reward! Our life can get pretty adventurous at times when we are at our second home in Alaska... My husband just retired from the Airlines this past valentines day, Feb, 14 2013. A bitter sweet and it wasn't chocolate either! Hahahhaha! Oh, he will will never retire completely! I'm sure he will take a job with the FAA. Contract a few more projects... Maybe!? (RME) fly his citabria to Alaska... Haha...

Jodie - posted on 09/13/2012

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Well my husband isn't the airline pilot, I am. I'm about to start with a regional airline and I amd devistated to be away from my daughter and husband. I put this off for years thinking it would get easier. Now my daughter is almost 12 and it seems even harder. Any advice?

Julie - posted on 09/06/2012

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Hi There...nice to find this group....I am married to an airline pilot..for about 3 months..it is soooo hard. I am not happy...he was in the navy for 20 yrs and then he retired and work for a regional airline..they make NO money and I have two children and I work...so I do everything around the house and bring the kids everywhere and we don't have help...anyway, its nice to meet other moms that are in the same or similar situations...thanks..I am trying to hang in there..and hope it gets better...right now he is NEVER home..for more than two days at a time...

Shannon - posted on 11/22/2008

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Me! My husband works for Chautauqua Airlines. We have a 1 year old daughter and I am pregnant with our second. This group is great!

Brandy - posted on 11/22/2008

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My husband flies for JetBlue & I'm an RN. We have no family to help with childcare. We rely on great neighbors to help out before & after school, if needed. Our girls our 7 and 6yrs old. It's kind of funny, but we (the girls & I) have a routine for when Daddy is gone. Then, when he comes home, the routine changes a little bit.

Annie - posted on 11/20/2008

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Kathleen, about your comments regarding silly things people say if you are a pilot (or married to one) try being a pilot who is a muslim by faith! Horrendous things we have heard people say to us and about us. But that hasn't stopped my husband from doing what he loves doing and that's flying airplanes :)

Kara - posted on 11/16/2008

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My husband is a fractional pilot in Minneapolis and has an 8 on 6 off schedule. His flying schedule ofen changes at the last minute and then he does not come home when we originally thought. Our daughter is 2 1/2 and doesn't understand why when daddy says he'll be home tomorrow it doesn't always happen. Any suggestions for helping her understand that we don't always know when daddy will be home.

Stephanie - posted on 11/12/2008

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Jodi - this one is for you. Thanks so much for joining - and wow, I can't even imagine what you've been through dealing with your husband's cancer scare. I'm so glad to hear he's in remission and thriving! Good for you all! =) To answer your question, I definitely get envious at times when my husband Bob calls from another city (or even goes to the hotel bar for a couple of beers)! I say to myself, "must be nice!" And on the nights he gets a FULL night of sleep (and doesn't have to fly the next day till noon or later...), wow, do I envy that, too! haha But... there are so many times he is emotional leaving home and leaving me and Callie, I realize in the end, I could never do what he is doing. And I look at it like he actually envies my time spent at home with our daughter. So I guess the grass is always greener, depending on which one of you it is.

Stephanie - posted on 11/12/2008

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Ha! That is funny that people think you're rich, Kathleen, just because you're married to a pilot! Granted, they make good money once they move up the ranks, but until then.... what a joke their salary can be! I also use the same line as you do about how many days off they get per month, because when you factor that in, it's incredible how much quality time you actually get to spend with them for sometimes huge chunks at a time. For instance, my husband is home for 13 days straight this month! Can't complain! So yeah, the bad definitely outweighs the good. In fact, by the end of this 13-day period, I know I'll be ready for him to go back to work so we can have our space for a couple of days (I mean that in a completely good way of course!). I think the time away strengthens our relationship even more and makes us appreciate each other and our marriage so much more than those married couples who see each other day in and day out.

And did anyone mention the travel benefits??? I love that our growing family can see the world at such a low price (especially in today's economy!). Callie will grow up very fortunate (I never traveled as a kid... so it's ironic that I married a pilot!).

Jodi - posted on 11/12/2008

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Hello Ladies! It is so nice to find a group like this. I have been married 8 years to a prior Navy pilot and now he flies for Delta. I have always been use to his going away but it was definitely a change when we had our son, Jake, in 2005. But with the airlines having been the way the have been since Sept. 11, my husband was doing active reserves with the Navy for a few years. It actually kept him home more! Then, when our son was just a year old, my husband was diagnosed with cancer. So he spent two years home with us getting well. Thankfully he is in remission and back to living life! Anyways it was quite the adjustment again when he started flying back with Delta. Our little guy had spent so much time with him during the last two years. He was the stay at home dad and I went back to work as a Realtor. Now that he is working again my job has taken a back seat, since I am really not rolling in the big bucks yet! HA. I am curious to know if any of you feel a little envious when they call and have a nice day off to themselves in some other city without the kids?

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Hi Kimberly always nice to meet another pilot!!

HA! Not that Attractive? I would have bite his ear off. I weighed about 110lbs when I got preggo w/ my 1st and gained 75lbs!! Hello! I saw pure terror in my Dh's eyes. I am laughing now just thinking about it. He would always say it was not a big deal or blow it off in a voice that was 5 octaves about his normal voice. I am bigger now after two and my hips have not really gone back w/ #2 but am almost back to my old weight :) Arbonne weight loss tea! That is all I have to say. I will write more later , I got lots' of good advice from my mom 4 kids and married to a pilot, my dad, and still happily married. He flew intl' for awhile and was X Air force as well, ie- gone longer stints w/ 4 kids!

Kimberly - posted on 11/10/2008

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Hello! I to am an x-airline pilot. I quit flying when I got preggo with my son Andrew. My husband still flies for the same airline I flew for.... being home with him gone has added a whole different dynamic to our relationship.. Kathleen... that is SO FUNNY and so TRUE what you say about missing "being with all the men and dropping F-bombs." That's actually why I joined Facebook was to keep up with all of my old friends. I guess the hardest thing for me is I just get into a routine of doing everything alone and then when Joe comes home it sort of throws everything off. Andrew is 7 months old. And then Joe told me the other day when I said that I changed my mind and I DO want more kids (b4 I said that one was enough!) he said that he didnt' find me that attractive when I was preggo... I mean how do you bounce back from that? Thoughts?

Michelle - posted on 11/10/2008

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My husband works for Southwest Airlines, and was an Air Force Pilot prior to that for about 12 years. The commercial life is much easier because at least there's always some choice, even if it's not your 1st choice, in when he'll be gone. My kids are 7 and 10 so it's great when he has his days off and can volunteer at their school:)

Stephanie - posted on 11/10/2008

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This is great seeing that there are other strong women out there who have pilot husbands AND kids! It's definitely got its perks, yet it's hard (and lonely at times). It's nice meeting you women on here! I'll write more when I get time! In the meantime, glad to know I'm not alone. Just out of curiosity, do you ever get the line (from various people, including friends): "Oh, that must be SO HARD being married to a pilot!" (like it's the worst thing in the world and our marriage is doomed!). That is a pet peeve of mine...

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The SHM vs the working mom is such a big issue and with a pilot as a husband I have to hand it to you guys. It would make me feel better if we did have two incomes in this economy too. I personally feel like I am going loopy from time to time from being a SHM, I love it but sometime suffer from the grass is always greener syndrome. It was a huge change for me too!

Debi - posted on 11/10/2008

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My husband works for Continental and our son will be 3 in February. I went from the fast paced life of an x-ray tech to a stay at home mom (HUGE change for me). It was hard with him being gone but I learned when someone offers to watch your child (even if it's for an hour), accept the offer!!! You need time for yourself-and make sure you make time for the hubby when he gets home too!

Kris - posted on 11/10/2008

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Yeah, My husband is an airline pilot. We have a 14 month old and trying for another little one. I also work, but would love to be a stay at home mom. I knew what I was signing up for, but I guess actually living the life is much harder. But I love him and wouldn't want to hold him back from doing what he loves to do and good at - it just gets lonely sometimes.

Robyn - posted on 11/09/2008

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My husband is a pilot for Southwest....before that ExpressJet (aka Continental Express) for 8 years. We have a 10 month old son. I am currently staying home, but I go back to work in January. I am a middle school science teacher.

Stephanie - posted on 11/09/2008

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Oh yes, I definitely realized what I was signing up for. We've been together 6 years, married 2 and although we're new parents, I don't know our relationship otherwise. But it's definitely challenging, although luckily for us, while he works, I watch our daughter and vice versa (so we can avoid daycare!). He especially has a hard time leaving her! He works for Pinnacle Airlines (Northwest regional carrier). Who did you work for? I was telling him I couldn't imagine being a female pilot and trying to carry on being a mom. Kudos to you for quitting and following your heart!

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Yes, I am an X-Airline pilot myself and am now a stay @ home Mom. We have two kids 4 and 8 months and have been married 10 years, together 12. Did you realize wht you were signing up for? Who does he fly for?

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