HUSBAND'S 1ST DEPLOYMENT

Challa - posted on 03/14/2011

My husband will be leaving tomorrow for a four month deploment. its not his first deployment. just the first time he has been deployed since we got together and been married. we have a two month old.

Jennifer - posted on 06/24/2010

I was also in the Army and they decided to send us both over to Iraq at the same time (our son was 2 and a half). I ended up being there for 16 months and he ended up being there 17 months (but away from us for 22 months.) My husband and I were fortunate to see each other for 3 months before I came home. Other than that we were apart. It was definitely hard for our son being apart from us both at the same time. Then when I cam home it was a huge adjustment because he was 4.



I guess we are used to it and we just do it because we have to. I did get out because I believe that since they did it to us once I was terrified of being over there again at the same time.

Lisa-Louise - posted on 06/23/2010

Ok's cool jus checking .. Coz my hubby suggested
putting in for korea coz he said then we have choice on
our nx base - which we both want England so I can
be close to home ! but not sure if wood be worth it
apart again so long since we ave 2 lil girls under 2...
And we both finding it hard jus with deployment
I dnt no how u do it- ure sooooo brave ! Wood h8t
to be put in that situation . hope u ok and hanging in
there : )

Jennifer - posted on 06/22/2010

Every situation is different. If there families do go it turns into a 3 year tour, my husband only has 2 years left on his contract so that made us not able to go. Plus we prefer the one year rather than 3 years anyways.

Lisa-Louise - posted on 06/22/2010

Thankyou. !
I do Ave a question ... Have noticed alot of pple saying about
their husbands being away in Korea .. don't family
get to go too ?? Or do they have to alone ?!

Jennifer - posted on 06/21/2010

My husband and I were both in the Army and both got sent to Iraq at the same time even though we had a 2 and a half year old son. We both sucked it up did our time over there. And then me having 8 years in, I decided to get out and not reenlist. My husband is currently in Korea but expected to come back to the states with the possibility of deploying back over seas. It is very hard, but do not shut people out. Do not be afraid to ask for help. It is a hard life but all of our soldiers need our support. If you ever need anything let me know.

Lisa-Louise - posted on 06/10/2010

ive been luckly to have my huby around whilst both of our girls were born ... they both now 1hlf and 3mnths but now he has left for deployment - which is kinda hard at the mo coz we havent been based at scott for long and im orignally frm england - so havent any family here for support ! dying to get home but gotta do my youngest passport which her S.S only just came thru so gonna be waiting awhile . so really sucks whist a loved one is away for so long !

Honesty - posted on 06/08/2010

were on our 2nd deployment. my husband came home a week after she was born. he was here 2 weeks and thats all. i know exactly what your going through. he left when i was 6 months pregnant. he wasnt home when we found out the sex of the baby cause he was in school in benning. he wasnt here for any of the ultrasounds cause of being in the field. once the baby is here time will fly. if you have a webcam when you talk to him have it on the baby. my daughter has been rolling over for a few weeks now and because i was out of town without my computer near he just saw her do it for the first time. it does get better i promise. seeing how happy your husband is makes it so much easier. it is hard though cause your pretty much a single parent. i have a new found respect for working single mom. im glad i am able to stay home with my daughter. have you tried finding play groups in your area? or meet-ups with some other spouses? it helps if your around people in the same situation that understand what your going through. good luck and i promise it does get better. if you ever want to talk ill lend an ear :)

Bethanie - posted on 06/02/2010

My husband will be leaving for his second 6 month deployment this week. He is a contractor. He used to be a medevac pilot in the Army. It is very hard and we have been discussing eventually having another baby but we have to time it so he's actually home! I have a little bit of support near me but not as much as I would like. I don't have any friends really, so this deployment, I'm going to work on that! I don't know what branch of the Military your husband is in, but most units have a family readiness group that organizes get togethers and keeps the spouses up to date on what's going on with their deployed spouse. It's also a great way to meet other wives and make friends. Has he tried getting his 2 week RNR for around your due date?

Karin - posted on 05/02/2010

My husband isnt deployed but during our first deployment i had our son right after he left. He only saw him for about 2 weeks during the first 15 months of his life. I feel your pain and ultimately all i can say is that it will get better! Try to keep busy and hang out with friends/family whenever you can. Take pictures and videos to send to him. Good luck!

Talia - posted on 05/01/2010

My hubby is a contractor in Af. He's not gone for as long as a military deployment, but I had a baby six weeks ago while he was gone, and we also have an 18 month old. It's definitely been hard - I feel for you. Hopefully you have some kind of support nearby to help you through. Hang in there, I'll pray for you all!!

Shannon - posted on 04/30/2010

No, I'm an Air-Force brat. I can't imagine being pregnant knowing your husband is off fighting. I commend him by the way. Have you looked for a support group in your area yet? Do you live on base? I would think the hospital would have some groups to put you in contact with. I hope you have family around to help as well. Be strong, it will be a tough but you have to remain positive for the health of you and your baby. Good luck