Angela - posted on 06/19/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )
I am 25 years old living in Texas. My husband is 28 and lives/works in Vegas and Cali right now. We have a 4 year old son, 2 year old daughter, and I am 9 months pregnant with our 2nd son.
My husband has been in our lives 6 months of the last 19. That's it! This last work stint has been 7 months, in which we have seen him 9 total days. He has basically missed his daughters life thus far.
I understand that he is working away to support us, but sometimes I feel that he could have tried harder to stay at home and work. I think he jumps at chances to travel and go work different places because he is having fun, but is really honestly putting his family 2nd.
He has already told me that he will not be coming for the birth of our son, and that he might make it down the next month. That leaves me in a town with no family (that I followed him to for his job to begin with) caring for 2 toddlers on my own and expecting another any day now. I don't even know who is going to watch my 2 kids while I am delivering. The nearest family is 3 hours so they probably won't make it in time.
What makes me REALLY feel like we are 2nd is the fact that he is in Vegas and goes out with friends on the weekend, travels to California for fun, and is basically doing what he wants, when he knows I am stuck and obviously not able to do anything but care for kids and the house. He even opened his own bank account while there, and the kids and I get a couple hundred dollars allowance each week to live off of. He has completely cut me out of finances and I think it is because he is hiding what he spends money on.
I am truly at a point, where I feel deserted by him, I feel sad for my kids who don't have him around, and I am wondering to myself, "what is the point of being married to an absent person?"