I'm new here, wondering if anyone has a husband in pro-sports?

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Hello ladies, I am new to this site. My name I Getta, I am 34 yrs. old, I'm married and have two daughter's from a previous marriage. My husband travels alot due to his career in pro-sports. So 6 mos out of the year we communicate over the phone a lot! During football season he is not able to come home so, we travel to see him in Minnesota and our residence is in Atlanta. Once footbal is over he's abble to come home a little more often. I'm a stay at home mom so I am not able to get out and interact with other women. I send my girls off to school, work-out, run errands, clean house and tend to the girls and dog. It get's hard to cope with some of the issues that go on with girls, school, boys etc. on your own. I don't always want to be calling my husband to help me with the drama or issues pertainng to the house. I know he is very busy in meetings and practice. So that is why I joined facebook. I would like to be able to chat with other women, vent, ask opinions advice etc. I have no family here in Georgia so I'm looking for some friends, women who can relate regardless of what their husbands do!! Sounds silly, I know. Well ladies thank you for hearing me out.

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Amber - posted on 05/11/2009

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Ronda, what team does your brother-in-law play for? I'll bet my hubby knows him. Sorry to hear about the divorce tho. I can relate, and like Getta, there have been times when I would worry and doubt even tho I've had no reason at all to worry. My husband is a great honest Christian man. Its all just part of the whole long distance relationship. And Getta I feel you about wanting to sleep in for just one day! Even just one day a month! Oh and the whole thing about families? ha! I wish they cared more ESPECIALLY because they all know without us, they wouldn't survive! But they honestly don't care. I won't let me hubby play for the Yankees because of that..I don't know how much is actually true to that, but I've heard even in the minor leagues they don't allow family around because of the "distraction". Sigh. Getta I sure hope this "surprise" turns out well lol!
As for WA, thats so neat your BF lives in Everett! I wonder if I know her...? What school did she go to? I went to Mariner High School...I'm sure you've heard of it?
Ok better go get dinner ready! Great to talk to you and have someone relate..

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Hello Ronda, sorry to hear about your brother-n-law. That is scary to think that that is a possibility. At first the thought did worry me tremendously. But I have always trusted my husband and I told my self he has given me no reason to worry. I stopped....I was a mess at first. When your husband is gone so much it does get hard and could be stressful. Especially having to be the decision maker on things you have no clue on. I have adjusted but not used to it. I still miss him and I am so thankful that we are still very close. He does come home and sy things like... Oh, that's new or where did that come from. It's funny. He has 2 more yrs left on his contract. So we shall see what happens next. In the NFL you just never know. I must get going but....It was nice to meet you, Take Care

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Hi Amber, how are you? Life in pro sports is quiet busy. I wish they believed more in family time and holidays. I am just the opposite of you it sounds like. Our girls birthdays are in December and February. And it's difficult trying to meet up during the other holidays depending whether they have an away or home game. It's hard to have them miss those important events. But I have to tell myself it's his career. We are blessed to have what we have and be where we are. Yes, it is still difficult because there is always some adjustment.. You are right, I would like to have him see my new haircut when I walk in the door and it looks great. Or to just be able to sleep in on Saturday. I still love the times when we are together though. We ha ve been married almost 7 yrs. this July. He supposedly was booking our trip to vegas. But changed his mind to a road trip. Then back to vegas. Now he planning to surprise me. That is a scary thought. Well my ex husband still lives in Chelan. My very best friend lives in Everett. I visit her as often as I can. Well sweetie I hope to chat with you later. It was nice to meet you. Take Care

Ronda - posted on 05/11/2009

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My brother in law is a pro baseball player. I hope you get to see your hubby more than his wife saw him. Sadly they are divorcing due to him being gone and his hanging out while he's away. My spouse travels for work but we get to see him every couple of weeks.

Amber - posted on 05/11/2009

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Hi Getta,

My husband plays pro-sports, baseball. I know EXACTLY how you feel! He's gone 6 months of the year. And luckily its during the summer, when there's not tooo many holidays. Although my son and daughter are pretty young, I can relate to not having family where I live now, and hubby not being able to come home so we have to go visit him.

I live in Florida and we have a 5 year old son and a 9 month old daughter. Unfortunately my hubby is not playing this year, so we've been very blessed to have him home but at the same time I'm going thru baseball withdrawls! lol. He has gotten other offers, but nothing quite what we had hoped for. And the hardest part of it all, was we got married during the summer - which is during baseball season, so we've spent a few anniversaries apart, and both of our kids birthdays are in August, so he missed a few of our sons birthday parties too (Since our daughter was just born he hasn't missed anything yet). The life is rough alot. Esp when you don't have family around. It's like what do you do? Or you wish they could be there to see that good hair day, or what the kids are doing now, ya know?

How long have you been married, if you dont mind me asking? I know I could say it gets easier, but it really doesn't :o(

I hope things get better, because you DO learn to live with him being gone, but theres always an adjustment period that you have to go thru, when they leave and when they get back home.

Oh, and I have to ask...where does their dad live in WA? I'm originally from Everett, WA!

Terri - posted on 04/25/2009

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Ha ha!! Sometimes it sure feels like a train! Sometimes my husband is gone for 3-4 weeks. When we first got married (16yrs ago) he would be gone for months. It's so important to find something that lets you be you. Not mom, wife, helper, but Getta! It took me a decade to figure that out. Staying connected to your hubby is key as well. If that isn't his priority and yours, it can get really rough...been there. I will invite you as my friend so we can chat as often as you like. Hang in there, girl!

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Terri,



Thank You for your reply, It is tough and my husband always say's Hold the Fort Down!! I have to laugh, when I think back to the times we got our puppy, crate and potty training was a mess. He is gone for long periods of time. Sounds like your hubby definately is. And you are right keeping the kids grounded is hard. Because you wan t them to have that normal steady environment and it can be a challenge at times.

It's funny you say "fairy tale" I tell my girls that. It's when you are tired and ready for bed when it gets to you the most. Things still need to get done. And at times it's hard to not feel like a single parent. We all will make it, i'm sure of it. There is a light at the end of the tunnel....I just hope it's not a train. LOL Talk to you soon. Take Care

Terri - posted on 04/25/2009

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Getta,

My husband isn't in pro sports, but he is a professional comedian/actor who travels every week. For two years of our marriage he lived in L.A. filming a television show and we lived in Oklahoma. I understand how difficult it is to be a "single mom". The challenges we face each day are some of the hardest. We have three sons and are also raising my niece. The biggest challenge for me is keeping the kids grounded and "normal" in spite of their father and his job. He is a great man, husband, father and provider. It has always been so important to me to have a steady life for my kids and keep them out of the "fairy tale" as I call it. It sometimes feels as if you're living so that your husband can have his dream. Don't ever forget that you are his source. If it weren't for you holding the fort down, he couldn't do what he does. I look forward to talking with you!! Take care!

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Hello, anything counts! That is funny. I can understand with your husband being a pilot. Because if the owners decide last minute to take a trip, pick up a player etc. Your husband has to be ready. This time of year it gets pretty busy. The draft is this weekend so my husband along with the owners has been flying a lot.



It is very hard. I often feel that I am not doing things right. The dog runs off, girls are at the age where they argue constantly. Then with my teen you begin to factor in boys. It's a mess. But I still try. You are right not alot of women can relate. And it becomes difficult to speak to someone who has not been through these situations. Thank You for replying and it's a pleasure to meet you!!

Beverly - posted on 04/18/2009

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Hi. My husband is a pilot for an owner of a couple of pro-sports teams here in Texas, does that count? :o) He's gone a lot period but especially during spring training. I'm a sahm to 3 kids, 2 dogs and 1 cat. :o)



It can be really hard. Its also hard for other women to relate to our situation. Sometimes I think I should be able to handle it all better than I do but so many women I know tell me they could never do what we do and I realize that maybe I'm too hard on myself.



Its nice to meet you!

Michelle - posted on 04/18/2009

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I'm down past Lawrenceville. We're right in Gwinnett County too - right near the Walton Cnty border. This area offers so much. Sometimes we head over to Athens for some adventure. We love hiking in the state parks here too. We want to go camping but our youngest is 3 and we are not sure he's ready.

Enjoy your road trip this summer. Love the time with your hubby!

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Hi Michelle, I was just gettimg ready to head out to the gym. It's great to hear from someone in GA. We try to. My daughter's have to spend half their summer in Washington State with their Father. But I am hoping to get a chance to take the girls to the Aquarium once summer begins. It's funny mention your trip uo the east coast. We are as well. Once the girls leave to Washington I have about 2 weeks to myself. Don't know what I'm going to do yet. I am however flying to MN mid June. My husband and I are driving back to ATL. Taking the scenic route. He starts his vaca june 19th. Should be fun. I am currently living in Buford. Where are you?? If you don't mind my asking.

Michelle - posted on 04/18/2009

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I live in GA too - my hubby isn't in pro sports but also travels a lot. I'm glad you get to travel up to MN to see your husband but I know it just isn't the same as having him at home. Do y'all get to take family trips in the summer? I try to get my husband to spend more time with the kids when they're on summer break. I think this summer we're going to try to get to the Children's Museum, the Aquarium and the CNN Center down in ATL. My friend works at the CNN Cntr so I thought that'd be fun for the kiddos.

We're taking an easy trip this summer - driving up the East Coast - check out Williamsburg and visit family up in NJ.

Enjoy your off season! Let me know what y'all do this summer!

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