Connie - posted on 03/23/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )
This man, we'll call him Chev, works in the oil fields. He's gone a month to a month and a half at a time n comes home on break for a week after 1-1 1/2 months. We are not married but do have a commitment of only seein one another. We've been together only a lil over a year. He'll text me once er twice through out the day, maybe if im lucky i'll get a 2-3 minute phone call. I wasnt okayy with this long distance relationship from the get go, and in my eyes we were only pose to be a 'one night stand', but he wanted more, so i went with it. Im inlove with this man now, but cant stand the fact that he wont take more time out of his days for me. He gets outta work round 6-7pm, n then goes to the local tavern with his crew and gets drunk, goes to the motel n eats n then passes out. He claims he drinks so much to get me off his mind cuz he misses me so much, but once he is at that damn bar, i get no text, no phone call, NOTHIN!! He ignores my texts n calls! I know hes not cheatin, i do trust him in that way, but i feel that 'bottle' is takin my place!!!! I told him many times what i need outta him, n he either gives up n does nothin or he'll do it for a couple days n stop. I get soo mad when he ignores me, and yess i show it through my texts n calls. He hates conflict n seems to rather give up on us than talk it out. I have tol dhim so many times that i jus cant go through this anymore if he doesnt start showin me that he cares, he says You know i love you n i want only you, but all you wanna do is fight. I say, Well if you would jus give me a lil more of ur time we wouldnt fight. Its a no win situation! He has time to hang with the crew n get drunk, why cant he make time for me? And whenever i try n text him what i need from him, or what is botherin me, if he dont like it, he'll ignore me,,,,,,even for days and think its ok.We could even be havin a good day, but as soon as he gets outta work, if its a night hes gunna meet the crew at the bar, i lost him for the whole night. This starts a fight! I hate when he ignores me! HELP!!! He's drivin me crazeee!!! I need to get through to him before i give up but dont know how.....??????