keeping love alive

Christina - posted on 06/25/2009

Hi Amy,


My husband is gone M-F. On Friday, we spend the evening catching up on what has happened over the week. Saturdays are reserved for discussions about problems and chores (fun ~ right?). I used to be very resentful when my husband would come home on the weekends and let my son do things that he is not allowed to do. I knew he didn't want to be the bad guy. To solve that, we talked about it. Sunday is the day to have fun. We go places or just sit at home and watch movies. I don't worry about the mess. I just clean up right before I go to bed. I try to encourage him to help. It is difficult since he has been spoiled with maid service at the hotels all week.





We have fights. Many fights! We have had to learn through time that most of the anger that I felt was from working so hard during the week and feeling like I never had a break.





My husband takes my son fishing or shopping (anywhere but home) for a few hours on Saturday. That helps a lot!!!!





Remember that you are not alone! We all experience the same feelings that you do. Having my husband tell me that he misses me (even by text) everyday makes me feel good. It is also nice when he comes home and compliments me instead of criticizes. That helps to connect to each other. If you ever need to vent, please email me any time!!!!!!

Sara - posted on 06/24/2009

I find that the first 2-3 days he is home I tend to have a hard time feeling close to him and I have to adjust to him being around. Then the last 2 days he is home I'm standoffish cause i know he is gonna leave and I think I'm trying to protect myself from the hurt but it doesn't work. I try to spend an evening just him and I to reconnect and we go to a marriage conference once a year by ourselves, leaving the kids with my sister. Also, i try to connect with him online and thru phone calls as often as possible. He is an OTR truck driver and can be gone for 4-6 weeks at a time and then only home for 4-5 days before he leaves again. Very hard to feel connected in that short time.

Pamella - posted on 06/17/2009

Hi Amy! I agree with Ronda. I try to keep our home as stress free and nag free as possible so that when my Hubby is around we can just enjoy each others company and our children. It's tough though not to be resentful or sad being the primary child rearer but as women we do what we have to do right?

I also found that movies nights and date nights help too! HTH



Pam

Ronda - posted on 06/07/2009

Hi Amy,



Not really sure, but my hubby has traveled off and on in the 9 years we've been married. When we were dating, I lived in Tennessee, and he lived in Missouri, then I moved to Missouri and he was an over the road truck driver. He came off the road for 5 years and helped me get our freight brokerage started, then he went to welding school last year and now he's gone for a couple of months at a time working for a company that send him on welding jobs. It's hard, and we have our share of arguements, but when it comes down to it, we really miss each other when he's gone for so long. We try to focus on the good things and talk, not yell, thru the bad, irritating, or stressful times. It's really hard on me when he's gone with me running a business, taking care of our teenage daughter, running a horse ranch, yard work and housework, but it all seems to come together in the end. All marriages have issues at one point or another, but just try to listen to him when he's stressed from being gone and let him know you need to be able to talk to him also and tell him what's been going on at home, good or bad. I hope I was a little help to you!! If you ever need to talk just to talk to a woman about things, you can email me anytime!! By the way, your baby sure is a cutie, I miss my daughter being that little!!



Your friend,

Ronda