Christina - posted on 11/12/2008 ( 1 mom has responded )
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Hi ladies! I need some help! My husband just recently got promoted and is now out of town 6 night a week. I am having a really hard time with this. Not only am I overwhelmed at home with the kids, but I worry about our marriage. Anyone have a tips for me on how to survive this?
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Sarah - posted on 11/12/2008
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It is hard, but communication becomes the biggest key. Not only about how things are going but when he comes home and you feel like you need to say something. Say it. There we times I called Jon at 4 in the morning b/c our daughter was up and I hadn't been able to sleep in our bed for over a month. (our baby was little and I was on my own after my c-section was healed at 3 weeks) We let things between Jon and I get so bad we were on the brink of separating. He wouldn't talk to me and as a last ditch effort I told him he could keep not talking as I walked away. But like I said that was the worst. If you are worried let him know and really talk it out. Don't wait till he is home but also remind him you are not trying to guilt trip him.
We talk many times during the day. If I need-need him to call at lunch I'll text him. At night when its play time between dinner and bath we will video chat and he gets to see how our daughter is trying to crawl. When he comes home, work gets put to the side. Neither of us are allowed to work since he is only home for 2.5 days every 3 weeks. I always look forward to when he is coming home. We talk about what we are going to do even if its hang out in bed for the morning with our baby girl giggling.
I love calling Jon just to leave him a v/m telling him we love him. He keeps all of them until his v/m is full. Be intimate while he is a way. really talk to each other. (maybe even be a little naughty on the phone)
I feel like I am rambling. Jon has worked on the road the whole time I have known him. The only time he wasn't out of town was when he was home for the weekends or while he was laid off. When you feel like its all over whelming, remember to breathe and talk! Talk to any one! Take a drive in the car by yourself and talk to yourself... Or yell.
Good Luck Christina
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