User - posted on 01/12/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )
hi there. :) I have just found this circle of moms thing a few minutes ago, so I haven't filled anything out yet, but my name is Sara and I have a 2 yr old and a 5 yr old, and a husband who travels around 4 days a week, sometimes up to 2 weeks at a time, we never ever know until the day he leaves so it is very unprediactable. I'm sure I'll find people to relate to me, and people I can relate to, because it is such a weird place to be in - married but sort of single!
We deal with the problem of him being gone, coming home but too tired to be useful or interesting so he just sleeps.
Or him feeling depressed about being away and taking it out on me.
Or him missing important things, very important things, or even all the little things like school events that you are always by yourself for.
Or him complaining about getting a abd nights sleep and you just want to reach through teh phone and strangle him because if you are in a quiet hotel room IT DOESN"T COUNT as bad sleep because you are the one at home waking up in the middle of the night tending to actual children people.
Or not being able to plan anything in advance.
But! It is nice to accrue frequent flyer miles. :) And hotel poitns! And of course I've grown used to "me" time, so it is nice having him away at least a little bit. He's a great dad and adores our two kids, and makes a real effort to be hands on with them - they don't seeem to suffer for the arrangement at all, it is just he & I really!
The plan is for me to get a job in a few eyars once the boys are older, so he can quit his and take a much lower paying one. But we'll see. I think part of him would miss the adventure of it all!
Anyway... babble babble. Just popped in to say hell o really. :D