Melanie - posted on 02/15/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )
My husband has been traveling overseas for the last year now. He is gone for 2 to 3 weeks at a time and home for about 2 weeks. It gets frustrating because of the time difference (6 hours). Not to mention the different lifystyle they have over there. When I do get some quality time to talk to him he is telling me that he just got back into his room after sitting down with several co-workers and having "several" drinks (aka - he is feeling pretty good). That carries over at home with bringing home either a six pack or a bottle of wine every night and drinking it within a 4 hour period of time. I've told him that it isn't normal to drink that much every night, but he says that it is ok in the Netherlands. He has all of this time to have long dinners just about every night, but when he is home he has his face in his computer from the time he walks in the door to the time I go to bed. Why can't he give his family that same 3 to 4 hour dinner time that he gives when he is away. Not to mention, I am running the household both while he is gone and when he is home. I feel guilty, mostly because of my children (2 and 7) when I leave to just go to the store by myself because he is on the computer and not giving the children the attention they need and my 7 year old daughter becomes the babysitter Also, when he has decided to put the computer up he is on him damn blackberry. He answers every single e-mail he gets immediately and trys to involve me by reading me the e-mails (I really could care less because I am annoyed that he can't break away for just 2 hours). I am very thankful that his job allows me to be able to stay at home, so I'm conflicted with my frustrations and my thankfulness.
Thanks for listening to my rambling. Any guidance will be much appreciated.