Truck Driver Husband

Ranelle - posted on 03/27/2013

I am new to all of this I just recently got back together with my ex husband after 3 years and we are trying to start over because we were young when we first had our first child and now being with him he is a truck driver I got to see him this past weekend before he went on the road for 5 weeks and it is like hard not being able to talk to him or see him I am very proud of him doing this because it is something he wanted to do for very long time is just the adjusting part is what is getting to me

Kelly - posted on 10/07/2012

I just got married to my "trucker" three weeks ago. We have been together for five years exactly and have a three and a half yr old son, dean. It's really hard having him away all week, and he is only usually home from early Saturday morning till late Sunday arvo most weeks. It wasn't always like this, he used to be away for weeks on end. It's nice to have him home on weekends, but I too find it sometimes hard to adjust to the "help" with things. Especially in regards to our son. He is a bit more strict with him than me and tends to lose patience a lot quicker. He is an amazing dad, but I think sometimes being a "part time" dad gets to him. I also have trouble adjusting to having someone else in the bed with me, although sometimes I have to kick him out for his "loud snoring"! Lol :)

It's nice to have some ladies to talk to who are going through the same thing. Not everyone understands how hard it really is, but funnily enough it has worked for us for years. I miss him, but the money is good, and sometimes it is worth the sacrifice. Communication is definitely key and thank god for mobile phones and Skype. Doesn't stop us all missing them tho.

Kelly - posted on 09/10/2012

This is a great place to start! Been a truck drivers wife for 6 years now and my father drove all of my life. I have been a kid missing a daddy and now a wife missing a husband. The money is good but he sacrifice is hard, no doubt. It can be done with a lot of understanding and communication.

Taujah - posted on 09/10/2012

Help. I need some support my fiance is going otr and i am trying to cope with the situation we have three children and i guess i neeed some advice someone to talk to. Please help

Carol - posted on 08/02/2012

Hello! My Name is Carol. My Husband has been on the road for the last 3months and he is now coming home for a little while.. I want to throw him a welcome home party and need some ideas..can anyone help??? Much Appreciated if so. :-))

Terri - posted on 07/27/2009

Hi all. My name is Terri i to am a truckers wife. He has been doing this for the past 25 yrs now so i know how all of you feel. Our son has been going with him for the past 9 yrs now. And now our daughters boyfriend is helping every so often to. I guess there's nothing like keeping it in the family. LOL. But all humor aside i do know how frustrating it can be with them gone all the time especially when it come to house hold repairs, he dose not what me to do then and he wont let me hire anyone to do it. He what's to do them himself but when he gets home all he dose is lay on the floor watches TV, eats and sleeps and nothing gets done.I know he has it hard when he's gone, but it wound be nice if he would let me do some home repairs with out blowing a gasket.

Amy - posted on 07/25/2009

Hi everyone. Just wanted to post and say I am a trucker wife, too. I am newly married, but we have been together over ten years with the past 3-4 with him being an over the road driver. He is a trainer and independent contractor with the company so he is gone for at least a month at a time. We welcomed our first child, Nathan, in September of 2008. I work full time and have the hardest time finding energy to keep up with everything around the house. I feel exhausted all of the time. Thanks for having a place that I can chat and meet other women facing the same issues as me.

Tina - posted on 07/21/2009

I am a truck drivers wife and have been for 21 years...I wish he was home on the weekends. Mine is gone for weeks at a time...It is very hard to adjust at first, but we have been at this for 21 yrs..I ahve kept hoping he would come home one day, but now our kids are almost grown, and the money is great....

Lora - posted on 07/17/2009

mine is gone alot. But this month he has been home every weekeng it,s been fun. but right after we had gaige he was here while in the hospital then he had to leave the day after we got home talk about stress..

Christi - posted on 07/17/2009

my husband and i are going through another adjustment period. at first it was adjusting to him being gone all the time. now it is adjusting to him being home. we both have gotten used to not someone else in the bed with us so when he is home neither one of us sleep well and like sarah said going from no help to having help. i have a routine while he is gone and he doesnt seem to understand that i need to keep that routine while he is home or things get all out of whack. also since my girls are older and we are having to get to know each other again it is that much harder when he is only home for a few days a week. so many changes at once it so hard to deal with let alone having to deal with them alone.

Imelda - posted on 07/17/2009

Hi Daisy,

I'm new to this site to and I think it's great. My hubby is also a truck driver but his is gone for weeks almost closet to a month. It is very hard on me but more importantly my kids. It is very hard but that goodness for technology. I'm trying to save money so I can get him a laptop so my kids can see him while he is away. But for now the settle for a phone call.



As for me I do alot of praying and organizing but I'm also working so that helps time fly.

If you ever need anyone to talk to you can count on me or any of the moms here at this site.



Oh and Daisy...WELCOME TO OUR CIRCLE!!!

Abbey - posted on 07/16/2009

USA truck anyone? My husband will be leaving the 23rd for his first trip. He will be out with a traqiner for 3-4 weeks. I am so not ready to be away from him. :(

Sarah - posted on 07/15/2009

people don't really understand what it is like. It's kinda like being a single parent, but with financial stability!! lol The majority of our fights are about me having to be in control even when he is home. He doesn't understand how hard it is to make that switch from doing everything to having help. I have to live by a schedule or his job would drive me crazy. I need some kind of normal in my life. I really hope I can make it the next 40 years as a truck drivers wife!!

Wendy - posted on 07/15/2009

Mine too! He's been driving a truck for going on 3 years now. He was in a totally different career field before he started driving .. and was at home. It's been VERY hard for us to adjust to him being away and we've really not done well. He usually comes home sometime Friday evening or Saturday morning and leaves back out on Sunday night.

Sarah - posted on 07/15/2009

Hi all. My name is Sarah and I have 3 kids ( 9, 5 and 2 ) the hubby is a truck driver that does not have a dedicated route, he is on "the extra board" so not only is he gone a lot, but we never know when or if he is leaving or where he will be going or when he will be coming back! lol He moved from a city run to this almost 3 years ago and it has sucked!!! I am really hoping it's all worth it when he finally gets a bid run. Oh and to top it all off I am a stay-at-home mom, I just started going back to school on-line and HE wants a 4th baby!!! AAAAAHHHHH :)

Melanie - posted on 07/14/2009

Hello, I am new to this, but I am married to a truck driver. We have been married for 9 years now and he has been driving for eight. We have two kids together, a 4 year old and a 1 year old. We are in the process of starting our own company so that he can maybe be home more often. I am now a stay at home mom and I feel lonlier now because I no longer have people to see at work. I love my girls, but I hate being a stay at home single mom while he's on the road. I hope to talk to some like minded moms who understand the life of a trucker's wife. From the posts I've read, I've found the right place. :)

Christi - posted on 07/13/2009

he made it home this weekend and we didnt argue at all. but before he left on monday am he got into it with our oldest dau. Something about how the house looked and that he could not be expected to everything! i would like to know what everything is when the only thing he does when he comes home is sleep!.... I am sorry I know i am new here and venting about personal issues so soon but i figured if any one would understand it would someone here! thanks for listening.

Kylie - posted on 07/12/2009

OMG, it is such a relief to know that there is a group of other mum's whose husband's are also truck driver's, like my husband-to-be. He's home for less than 48 hours a week. He arrives home early hours of the morning and then heads off to work again late that night or early next morning. The kid's hardly get to see him. They're both starting to act out and I think I'm going crazy. I want him home more but he says that driving trucks is all he knows how to do. I know the money's good. But, what about what it's doing to his family? I've almost upped and left twice now. If not for feeling the way I do about him, I'd have stayed gone, for good. When he is home now, we seem to fight alot. Between us gal's, I think we're drifting and I'm starting to not know the man he is now. I don't want to leave him. He makes me feel complete. I miss him and so do the kid's but how do I get him to understand that?

Christi - posted on 07/10/2009

my husband is a truck driver also. he has only driven for about a year. sometimes he gets home on the weekends and sometimes he doesnt. my kids are older 20 and17 but it is still very difficult doing everything plus working a full time job outside of the home. he gets so cranky when gets home and complains about all the things that he thinks i should have gotten done while he was gone. it almost seems like he has forgotten what all goes on around the house on a daily basis. i am not sure how to deal with it.

Rachel - posted on 07/10/2009

my partner is exactly the same he drives away 5-6 days a week, it can be very lonely but would love to keep in contact with ppl in the same situation, just for a chat its nice to have ppl to talk to who really know how i feel.

Faith - posted on 07/08/2009

Quoting Mary:

Rough day for both of us today. Our son was admitted to the hospital again and dad is on the road. Dad feels bad he's not here, even though we need that money and the insurance and I feel like i need a break. We both hang tough and know that this is one more of lifes lemons that we need to turn in to something. Not sure what that something will be yet, but we'll figure it out. A young friend of my husband once said he thought he might like to start driving, my husband said only if you want to miss the good and the bad parts of life with your family. This year has been a true test and so far i think we are passing but we are both questioning this life style we live.

UNDERSTAND THIS OUR LITTLE GIRL ROBIN HAS BEEN IN THE HOSPITAL FOR 2 WEEKS WITH REJECTING HER LIVER ,SHE HAS HAD 2 LIVER TRANSPLANTS, AND ITS BEEN A GOD SEND MY HUSBAND HAS BEEN HOME THIS TIME, AS WHEN ROBIN WAS IN THE HOSPITAL IN DEC. HUSBAND WASNT HERE HE WAS ON THE ROAD, I KNOW ITS HARD FOR HIM TO BE GONE

Faith - posted on 07/08/2009

Quoting Kristi:

Monica. . . I know what you mean about talking on the phone. I really don't know how wives did this before cell phones. There are times when we are on the phone together (he and I both use bluetooth headsets) and we aren't really talking. He is just listening to what is going on here. It helps him feel a little more apart of what is going on at home. He talks to the girls at least once a day. Don't know what I would do without that cell phone.

DIDDO ON THE CELL PHONES THEY ARE OUR LIFE LINES, WE TALK ALOT DURING THE DAY AND NIGHT AND HE TALKS TO OUR 2 KIDS AT HOME AT LEAST ONCE OR TWICE A DAY.

Faith - posted on 07/08/2009

My husband is a Over The Road Trucker Driver also, he is gone between 4 to 8 weeks at a time, then he comes home for 2 to 3 days before he heads out again. Every once in a while he gets to be home for a week or 2 , which is great . It was hard at first but now we are getting use to it. The time he is home is so special with the family.

Crystal - posted on 07/07/2009

Mine too! Sometimes he's not home for 48 hours.

Amber - posted on 07/01/2009

I wish I had all night to read everyones replys, because it sounds oh so familiar. I became a "single mom" lol at the age of 19, to the point where i drove my daughter and myself home from the hospitle cause hubby was at work. We have been married for 17 years and about all up 4 of those have been spent together. We are in Australia and he relocates houses all over Queensland. I think the most important thing is to make sure that dads spend quality time with the kids or else when they get older they wont know them. Sadly this is what has happened with my kids as they have gotten older (16,14 and 12).

Kim - posted on 06/23/2009

My husband is also a truck driver. hes normally gone most of the week and home on weekends. but has hardly went out this year due to delivering gm parts. but he normally goes down to Texas

Pam - posted on 06/22/2009

My husband is on the road sometime 90 days at a time & home for a week then back!! we are almost crazy from this, we are looking for something that will get him home more, even once a month would be nice for us,

Pam - posted on 06/22/2009

My husband is on the road sometime 90 days at a time & home for a week then back!! we are almost crazy from this, we are looking for something that will get him home more, even once a month would be nice for us,

Mary - posted on 06/20/2009

Rough day for both of us today. Our son was admitted to the hospital again and dad is on the road. Dad feels bad he's not here, even though we need that money and the insurance and I feel like i need a break. We both hang tough and know that this is one more of lifes lemons that we need to turn in to something. Not sure what that something will be yet, but we'll figure it out. A young friend of my husband once said he thought he might like to start driving, my husband said only if you want to miss the good and the bad parts of life with your family. This year has been a true test and so far i think we are passing but we are both questioning this life style we live.

Shari - posted on 06/18/2009

Hello,

My hubby's a truck driver, too. He is home for 3 days approximately every 6 weeks. We have a 5 yr old girl and a 1 yr old boy. It's been this way for almost a year now. We're hoping that when he gets more OTR experience he can switch to a job that will allow him to be home on weekends.

Sandra - posted on 06/17/2009

I am new to this site, but not brand new to being a truckers wife! I saw a t-shirt once that said "The only thing tougher than a Trucker is a Trucker's Wife". While they are gone we are; both Mom and Dad, the cook, the maid, tutor, nurse, teacher, coach, cheerleader, room mom, church volenteer, school bus driver, let's not forget accountant and that is just the normal everyday stuff. As if that were not enough to keep us more than busy there is still the unexpected. We find ourselves doing things we didn't know we could do such as mechanic, handy man, therapist, ambulance driver, I could go on and on. We do all this with confidence, grace and a smile on our face, most of the time, well sometimes. Friends will ask why, why do you live this way, he is never home. They don't understand that he is my whole world. He is hardly ever home, but he is always here.

The most important job I have is his prayer warrior. Everytime I hand him that thermos of coffee. Give him that last long hug and kiss. Tell him I love him so much. Step off his truck onto our driveway. I hold our 5 year old daughter as we watch him pull out on to the street. We watch till we can't see him anymore, then we hear two short blast from his air horn. One last I Love you! I say a prayer asking the Lord to keep 18 angels watch of him (Psalms91:11), bring him back home to us safe.

I am Sandy my husband is Terry. He hauls Hazardous materials. Every Sunday he leaves Dallas headed for New Jersey, then drops down to Port Authur, Texas and back to Dallas by Friday. He works hard, I don't know how he does it. We have 7 children, his(3), hers(3) and ours(1). One in Louisianna, one in SanAntonio, One in Ft Worth, One in Mesquite, and 3 in the house. They are 28,20,18,17,14,12 and 5. 4 boys 3 girls and 1 Grand baby and looks like 2 Grand babies on the way.

Life is Good Today

Rebecca - posted on 06/15/2009

My partner fixes them! he works away for 28 days and is home for 10, usually it works out to be 6 weeks away though. When he did live at home he worked long hours 10 and 12 hours days.

Trina - posted on 06/12/2009

Dayna, I've been married 4 almost 4 yrs been 2gether 4 5yrs. I still cry everytime he leaves. Don't know some it might b cuz I never know when he'll b home agian. It was lil ezer when he worked 4 the other company & was home every wk or every 2 wks but now he has been home 6 days out of 3 1/2 months. My son is starting 2 cry 4 daddy now @ night is real bad. So as far as me it never has gotta any ezer 2 say good bye.

Dayna - posted on 06/09/2009

Hi my Name is Dayna I live in southern California and I have a 5 mo old daughter, My husband left 3 months ago to find his new found passion of truck driving. we talk every day as we are gettigcloser to him finally coming home for only about four days he is a team driver based out of the mid west though they tend to stay to the eastern part of the country as his partners family is in missouri. Im excited to see him but also afraid because we have only been married for 1 year and Im still tarribly attached. Does it get harder or easier each time they leave?

Christine - posted on 06/03/2009

I hear you my husband comes home on the weekend and then work in the garage or is helping someone else. when do they have time for us

Jennifer (Jenni) - posted on 05/27/2009

I guess you can call me the one with a lot of experiance at this, my husband has been driving in Canada and the US since 1968 so I have had years of practice even now when my grown chrildren call home they usually ask for Mom!!

Kristi - posted on 05/14/2009

We got some news (not sure if it is good or bad yet) today. The dedicated route that my husband has been on is being cancelled so he had to make the choice between a totally different dedicated route or go back to the 11 western. If he takes the dedicated he will be home every weekend but the miles are set and he would probably end up being home on the days that I have to work. With the 11 western there is less chance that he will be able to drop by for a night but he will get his three days home every month. At least then we know when he will be home. It seems to be easier on the girls when they have a specific date to look forward to. The worst part of the whole thing is that he will be loosing his drive manager. This guy was great. He was good at getting Travis home and he was always ready to go to bat for him if a customer was taking too long to load/unload. We have had so many problems in the past with DMs so the idea of getting a new one is pretty scary. I think he is going to go with the 11 western if they dont come up with anything different in the dedicated side. I guess I will just cross my fingers and hope everything works out ok. I don't think anything is going to be that different but I hate the unknown. I should know better than to get too comfortable with a routine in this business. Hope everyone is having a good day. Trina, hope today is better than yesterday.

Tara - posted on 05/13/2009

I've been married for about 4 mos to my second husband. Until 2 mos ago he was home every weekend but now he's driving for Anderson trucking and he is only home for about 2 days out of the month. Or sometimes for a night if he has a load to drop in MI and home is on the way. We have a 7 mo old girl together and he has a 4 y/o girl with his ex and I have 2 boys that live with their dad. It's tough but it could be worse I was in the Air Force for 8 years and I see how the spouses are gone for up to 2 yrs with deployments.

Trina - posted on 05/13/2009

My hubby just left out again for who knows how long this time. Sometimes I hate his job!! I miss him so bad when he's gone. It wasn't that bad when he was only gone for a wk or 2 but now it is 5 or more wks @ a time. My lil boy was a sleep when daddy left so when he gets up he is gonna b so hurt when he can relizes daddy's gone. He had a blast w/ his daddy this time. When did alot 2gether & got along great the whole time he was home. 2day bites!!!!!!!!!!

Trina - posted on 05/12/2009

I know how u both feel. I always joke around about r cell phones r our relationship....lol DJ will grab my cell & try 2 call daddy. I couldn't do it w/out. We went 4 months w/out em & man that was the hardest time. Will never do that agian!!

Kristi - posted on 05/11/2009

Monica. . . I know what you mean about talking on the phone. I really don't know how wives did this before cell phones. There are times when we are on the phone together (he and I both use bluetooth headsets) and we aren't really talking. He is just listening to what is going on here. It helps him feel a little more apart of what is going on at home. He talks to the girls at least once a day. Don't know what I would do without that cell phone.

Monica - posted on 05/11/2009

hi i now just how you feel......i have 2 daughters ages 13 and 3 and a half......i miss my husband when he is gone but i know he gotta do what needs 2 be done 2 support us ......i talk 2 my hubby numerous times a day thats what keep the kids and i gooing troughout the week!!!

Trina - posted on 05/10/2009

Sorry 4got 2 tell ya, the kidz & I went w/ him n the truck Saturday 4 about 6 hrs, had a blast. I miss being n the truck w/ him. Hopeing 2 get 2 go the summer 4 a couple of wks w/ r 3 yr old. It's been great having him home, went 2 church 2day get 2 go 2 a grad/going away party 4 a foering exchange student n r church 2morrow. It's so nice 2 go 2 things as a family w/ my husband not just the kidz & me.

Trina - posted on 05/10/2009

My husband made it home 4 mother's day after being out 4 6wks. YAY!! R 3 yr old son was so happy. Now he's leaving Tuesday 4 how long this time, who knows? Bummer!

Kristi - posted on 05/10/2009

Happy Mother's Day to all of you outstanding women!!!!!

Trina - posted on 05/07/2009

Anna,

I 2 know that feeling. Mine was home 4 the summer last yr, was trying 2 come off the rd. Drove us crazy. We almost didn't make through it. He'll never do that again. No1 understands y him being gone works 4 us. I don't like the 5 to 6 wks @ a time thing but hopefully his boss is gonna get that figured out. They don't mean 2 throw everything off when they r @ home but they sure do. TTYL

Anna - posted on 05/07/2009

Mine too. He is home about 48 hours too. I have 4 kids and run an animal rescue. He was injured on the job and was home for a month. I almost had a breakdown. He totally messed with our schedule and was under my feet. he was injured but not enough to slow him down any. I think our marriage works better when he is gone. It gives us time to miss each other. I am very type A so having him home and asking questions about everything or trying to help but not doing it when or how I wanted makes it very hard. Luckily he is back now.

Trina - posted on 05/04/2009

Quoting Kristi:

Trina, Just yesterday my hubby took me out to breakfast since he figures that he wont be home for Mother's day. I'm not too worried about days that are for me but the days (birthdays, special events, etc.) for the girls are the hardest if he cant make it. My oldest had a choir concert earlier this year but it was the week after her little sisters birthday. Well the birthday won out and her dad had to miss the concert. It kills me to see the dissappointment in their faces. I just hold on to the fact that someday they will be old enough to understand and appreciate the sacrifices their dad made for them. At least I hope they will. My dad worked away from home when I was young and as I got older I understood. Talk to you later Trina.

I know the whole important days. We had r award cerimony @ church yesterday & the girls where being honored & I was their teacher so I had 2 speak so it was a big deal 4 all of us & he couldn't b there. We haven't had him n chuch w/ us n 2 1/2 months. He hasn't been able 2 b @ any special thing this whole school yr. Almost missed my oldest daughter's wedding, wasn't there for r youngest grandson's birth. It's been tough lately, never home @ all anymore. R 3 yr old wants/needs his daddy bad!!! He's suppose 2 came home Wednesday so we'll c. It's 2 the point now where I won't tell r son til he's n the driveway that he's coming home. I sure hope he does this time.

Kristi - posted on 05/04/2009

Trina, Just yesterday my hubby took me out to breakfast since he figures that he wont be home for Mother's day. I'm not too worried about days that are for me but the days (birthdays, special events, etc.) for the girls are the hardest if he cant make it. My oldest had a choir concert earlier this year but it was the week after her little sisters birthday. Well the birthday won out and her dad had to miss the concert. It kills me to see the dissappointment in their faces. I just hold on to the fact that someday they will be old enough to understand and appreciate the sacrifices their dad made for them. At least I hope they will. My dad worked away from home when I was young and as I got older I understood. Talk to you later Trina.

Trina - posted on 05/03/2009

Quoting Mary:

Today was one of those days that make me hate the fact that my husband is never home. I had to put our cat to sleep as he was very ill, then I had to find someone to help me dig a hole and then deal with not only my own overwhelming emotions but that of our kids as well and I had to do it all alone. It would have been so nice to have someone there to help with the kids and someone to hold my hand while I let go of my best friend. I know my husband feels awful that he couldn't be there, but part of me feels resentful. I'm just glad that I can come here and vent my fustration and not put it away for another day or take it out on my husband. Thanks for allowing me to vent.

Mary,

       First of all sorry about ur cat. I had 2 put my 3 yr old son's puppy 2 sleep after he attacked him n his face, almost got his eye. It was so hard, I 2 had 2 find someone 2 burry him. I was so emotional  & shock up I had 2 call r minister 2 make sure it was ok 2 take 1 of God's creations. My husband was suppotive over the phone but it's not the same. My older girls helped but it's hard cuz my son keeps looking for him now. We went & got him a new puppy but he still wants "scobby" 2 see his new puppy. Life is alot different when ur husband drives a truck. I was a singal mom 4 several yrs after I got divorced from my first husband but that was different, no dad, no husband just us. But now this is suppose to be a dad & husband. Hope things get e-zer 4 u. Trina