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Sarah - posted on 10/20/2008 ( 119 moms have responded )

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Introduce yourself! I am excited to meet women whose husbands travel a lot for work. It has been a tough adjustment for me, especially since the kids have come along. I would love to hear about your situation...how often your husband travels in any given week, how many kids you have, and where you're from, and why you joined this community.

My husband is in consulting, and is gone an average of four nights/5 days a week. I have 2 kids and live in Colorado. I started this community to share stories and tips about raising a family with a traveling hubby. I will be posting questions every now and then, and would love your input!

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Jonathan - posted on 10/24/2013

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My husband job requires him to be away two weeks at a time, sometimes three out of the month. Just recently ! My husband moved me 1890 miles away from my two adult children , grandchildren and the rest of my family and friends, to a state to where I knows no one. His excuse for the move , was so I would be closer to where he's now working over eight hours from where we now reside. Now what I have a difficult time understanding is the fact that his company pays for him to travel to and from , and his job is about eight hours away offshore ! Why couldn't I remain around family and friends ! Atleast I woudnt feel so sad and lonely ! No one knows my pain. I often feel myself falling into a stage of depression because I have no one to talk to except my puppy "Sasha" and with me crying so much ! ev en she can sense that something is wrong , I try not to allow her to since that I'm crying because she's now falling into a state of depression as well. I also tried face timing my family over the internet to include calling , but its hard and it only depresses me more. Its now becoming often and heavy on my mind to walk away from my marriage, now I'm confuse because I do love my husband but I hate the fact of being left alone in a strange place all by myself. Help and some advice would help

Paula - posted on 09/27/2012

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It's hard to be alone during the week, I get it. I agree, being supportive and keeping the relationship strong is soooo important. When I find myself putting pressure on my husband and being really negative about our situation we end up arguing and wasting the weekends we have together and on Sunday night I wish I had acted differently. A great book that helped me is "Finding joy" by Kay Warren. It really put some things in perspective for me. It feels encouraging to know others are doing the same thing as me on this site, and not just making it through but enjoying life too.

Jennifer - posted on 10/28/2008

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Hello, my name is Jen, i have one boy, Ayden who is 2 1/2, my bf started welding for a company out of Illinois right after our son was born (we lived in British Columbia at the time, we were in need of a job). He has been with his company since, he loves what he does but hates not being home, his schedule at first was home every second weekend. Now since we moved to Winnipeg, he comes home every thursday and leaves again on Sundays....I don't mind our situation, i find being apart during the week helps us appreciate each other more when we are together...his time home with us is valuable, not taken for granted.

Patricia - posted on 05/28/2013

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Pointing the finger only does harm.Resentment only changes you in a negative way.

Lorie - posted on 10/28/2008

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My name is Lorie. My husband is in consulting too. We live in Bucks County, Pennsylvania. He travels 5 nights a week every week:( He is only home on the weekends. He has been doing it for almost 5 years. I think I am finally getting used to it. I have a 8 year old girl who is in competition cheerleading which keeps me running 3 nights a week and a very active 4year old . Thanks god I have lots of friends and family aroud for support. I hope to get to talk to other moms going through the same thing:)

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Devon - posted on 09/02/2014

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I would love to meet some local women in the same circumstance. My husband travels internationally and is frequently gone 2 weeks at a time often 8 months out of the year. Any ideas on how to find local groups of this nature?

Kind regards.

Jonathan - posted on 10/25/2013

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Hi ! I consider myself sad & lonely to include very freaking depress. My husband is away offshore two weeks out of a month ! and I'm to the point of walking out of the marriage. Truthfully, I wouldn't have given second thoughts of ending my marriage, if my selfish husband wouldnt have trick me in to moving 1800 miles away from my family and friends , importantly my two adult children and grandchildren ! Because he felt that by moving to this new state, would put me closer to where he's now working which is one state over, now please tell me if he's selfish or not ? Especially ! that his company pays for him to fly to and from. Whats really making it hard and difficult ! Is that I don't know anyone here , to include having a difficult time finding my way around the city or state alone without my husband. Please somebody please help me ?. I feel that my husband should have unselfishly ! left me back home with family and friends , atleast they could had been a support system towards me with him being away so much !. Now I'm bitter, sad, angry & lonely to include I feel myself slipping into a stage of depression, please help , I need some advice ! Because I'm on the verge of walking away from my marriage. Sad & lonely !

Parvin - posted on 09/08/2013

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My husband's job requires him to be based out of our country of origin for extended periods. When we first got married, we the longest we spent together was 1-2 weeks every two months for the first 6 years. After that he was posted in family locations so we (my son and I) were able to join him though this had me giving up on employment. Over the last 6 years we have lived in two different countries for ban average of 3 years. We got another boy and now have two sons. While being based in foreign countries dealing with different cultures has had it's challenges, the best part for me has been keeping my family together. We finished our last posting this year but unfortunately, my husband has been sent to a on family station. I am now back home alone with two boys and feeling so disoriented. After 6 years, many of the friends I had have moved on. My extended family while supportive, people have their own things to do. I am trying to get back to work but so far once employers see my 6 year gap are reluctant to even interview me. The hardest part for me so far is the kids...the boys were so used to having their dad around, I feel like I am constantly clashing with them. My husband will be coming home every 6 weeks for a week but this feels like forever :-(

A - posted on 06/07/2013

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I am new to this board. My husband has always traveled for work but had him home on weekends. DH will be traveling more frequently and for longer periods on time started next week. The kids are school age so I feel like it will not be too difficult. But I tend to stress eat when lonely. Maybe I will start reading to keep busy. How do all of you stay busy?

Patricia - posted on 05/28/2013

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My hsband and I have been married 8 year's.I have a15 year old.Alnind a 33 year old that is a army medic.My husband could'nt find work and took a took a traveling job.adheart goes out to each one;because each thing said sound's so familiar that I've had to work through lot's of te

Patricia - posted on 05/28/2013

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With the job situation's being tight.We do have to be thankful for them having a job. And love does provide for family. I encourage you to be faith And be the best you can be and don't be ruled by your emotion's.Go to the library;park;change stuff around the house.Write a thankful list.Sitting in a motel by yourself isn't much fun.Eating out get's old.

Patricia - posted on 05/28/2013

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My husband travel's 2 week's out of a month. Coming soon he'll be gone a monthi. I'am not sleeping.And he's home.How can I cope in a better way?

Lynne - posted on 05/22/2013

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I think I lost my post!
Jenny Brown - I am same situation as you. Two small kids, husband away all week, no support structure, feeling very overwhelmed and honestly resentful most of the time.
Would be great to share this with someone - at the very least to know these feelings are normal and I'm not being selfish!

Jenny - posted on 05/20/2013

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Hi all!! Glad to find others in my shoes!! I hope to make some friends. I'll try to keep this short. I'm mom to 3 (12 yo boy, 9yo girl, and our baby girl will be 2 in August. We also have a puppy we (I) am house training. I only work part time during the school year. I have no family within 500 miles so child are would be crazy for 3!! I stay overwhelmed most of the time, although I now take 2 prescriptions for that ;) I feel like I carry the heavier burden. I know he works very hard, and long hours usually at his job. He's a plumber/hvac person. I'm in middle Tn.

Princess - posted on 05/07/2013

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My hubs has to pay for some of his air travel. It depends on a lot of factors but it's something that his union approved. It doesn't happen that often, but it tends to be a lot cos it's always at the last minute.

Laityn - posted on 04/12/2013

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Hey girls! So, I was sitting here alone (my better half is halfway across the country) and decided to search for a blog that I could connect with other girls who's boyfriends and/or husbands travel for their career. I knew I had nothing to lose and was SO happy I came across this gem!

My life is 17 hours away from me in North Carolina. He is gone anywhere from 16-23 days at a time and only comes home for a few short days (five at the max) before he's back on a plane headed for the East Coast. That being said, I'm alone.. A LOT. Like, a lot.

I've never had to deal with this whole "traveling" thing until he and I met. The first couple times he came home and had to leave me were hard. It's getting easier, sorta (not really). We communicate through Skype, cell phone calls every night, and by sending surprise packages to each other every now and then. (I looove surprises!)

We are trying to get pregnant and it's such a hard task to accomplish when you basically live alone 3+ weeks out of every month. Cycles are crazy. Leave it to the hormones! The thought of having a little one and rarely having a partner to help with care is nerve-wracking to say the least.

I keep telling myself that this is what we need. The money is absolutely amazing. Not seeing each other every single day has made our relationship stronger than I ever thought possible. When he comes home, it's like we're on our first date all over again. (Yes, he still gives me butterflies).

I'll quit rambling on now! I hope to connect with you girls and have a place to come to when the "Life of A Traveling Pipefitter" gets to me. Maybe that'll save me a few calories, too! (I have a weakness for chocolate. Who doesn't?)

Nikki Dawson - posted on 04/09/2013

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Serena I am sorry to hear about your situation. It's not fair that he has to pay his travel expenses. Companies who require employees to travel should be paying for the travel themselves. My fiance just started his new job in a different province and they pay for all of his flights.

Nikki Dawson - posted on 04/09/2013

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Hello! So nice to meet you all. I don't have any children of my own, however, my fiance is currently in another province for work, in order to save money so we can buy a home and have a baby. :-)

He has just left (2 days ago) for his first time working away from home. Luckily we can communicate through video chat on Skype and we have a good cell phone plan so we can talk a lot.

This is new to me, and I am finding that I am very lonely. I don't currently work outside the home, so it is hard to distract myself, especially when I don't have any work to do for the day (besides general tidy up around my home.) All I can do to keep myself positive is to think of the money he will be making up there, and how it will provide us with a life we really want in the future.

I hope to make some new friends/connections here. :-) Feel free to message me.

Serena - posted on 02/21/2013

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Hi my name is Serena. My husband and I have been married for almost 14 years and we have four sons ranging in age from 13 years to 18 months. I have always been a stay at home mom because that is what was best financially for us. My husband has had many hard years of bad jobs and struggling to finish school but 6 months ago he finally found a job he loves and I hate. He travels several days a month, always last minute so planning anything is out of the question. When he is home he always works late and is having to spend weekends emailing and talking to clients. I find myself resenting him while I am at home alone caring for four kids, 2 dogs, and other misc animals, and he is out with coworkers having fancy dinners. My meals are usually limited to something mediocre I slap together in between sports and homework for the boys. We dont have family near by to help me when he's gone and I feel like I am nearing the end of my rope with our marriage. On top of this I begged him not to take a position with travel. I need an outside perspective because my friends just tell me to "suck it up" or "be glad he has a job," yet his salary is mediocre at best and I am usually left at home with no money because he has to pay upfront for his travel expenses. Help!

Marie - posted on 01/22/2013

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I'm so happy to find this site my husband just Start a new job right after I had My daughter he doesn't Travel but he does works very long hour and has to get his rest worst off its Grave yard I have felt a lot of resentment Towards him I try not to but we have two kids I often feel like he get the easy end before he started the new job he was alway home he wasn't making much at all but it was nice to have somebody

Amy - posted on 12/13/2012

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Hi Stacey! My husband is also a consultant and has the exact same schedule. We just had a baby in October so I am learning how to take care of the baby by myself during the week, but find myself overwhelmed. Any suggestions for making it work?

Meghan - posted on 11/29/2012

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Hi group! I see that every reply seems to go to the host of the group which is a little weird. Must be something with this website. Anyway, my husband is traveling again this week. We just moved to a new house - before we were in an apartment. So it's weird not having anyone else in the building when I am home alone with two little ones. I sleep with the light on! Little things are tough when he's not home. Like getting dinner on the table. It takes three times as long! Mostly I try not to get resentful when he IS home. That's been my challenge lately. I feel like he gets all of this down time because he doesn't have to deal with the kids in the evening, but I get that he's working a lot. Sometimes until 10PM. I just sometimes can't help feeling like I am carrying a heavier load. Not a lot of gratitude - I am working on it.

Candace - posted on 11/28/2012

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Hello my name is Candace. I am also dealing with having 3 children and a man who works outta town Monday thru Friday and sometimes on Saturdays too. I have been with Jared for 2 and a half years. He's been working outta town for almost 1 and a half years of it and i still can't get used to it. We have 3 beautiful boys Gavin, Adam, and Aiden. I'm hoping this can help me cope better and I can have a stronger relationship with my fiance. We're supposed to be getting married in July of this year and we've just bought a new house this past June. It's scary for me so I hope you lovely ladies can help. Thank you so much for starting this group you may have saved my soon to be marriage. I'm ever so hopeful.

Amy - posted on 11/21/2012

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Hi my name is Amy and I just joined this group today. My husband and I have Ben married for 10 years and have 2 amazing boys. Since March my husband travels every week with his job and I am feeling very alone. I feel like a single mom and I need advice on how to stop feeling such resentment towards him. I feel like he could get a job locally but chooses not to. I am not sure how to fix my feelings. When he is home he wants to just chill and I want to go out because I am stuck in the house all week with kids.

Myrna - posted on 10/30/2012

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My name is Myrna I live in Riverton, UT. My kids range from 16 to 6. I have 4.. My husband works in Norway currently. He's gone 3 weeks and home for 3 weeks. It's a difficult adjustment.. Any advice?

Ashley - posted on 10/21/2012

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Leigh,

That is so sad. I'm sorry to hear that your husband rarely communicates with you now that he's working away from home. Have you asked him about this? I'm sure you have made mention of this concern to him. Why did he choose a job so far from home? Was it the money or were there marital problems already? I know this next part a lot of women don't like to hear, but sometimes it helps the most. Have you considered speaking with a counselor? You've had a lot happening in your life lately and it sounds like your really questioning the strength of your marriage. I haven't been married very long (1year today), but I do know that sometimes when you've been married for a long time, you have to take time to re-kindle the marriage. I wish you the absolute best and will keep you in my prayers. If you need someone to talk to, please don't hesitate to message me or email me @ ashleyhaney295@yahoo.com anytime.

Leigh - posted on 10/19/2012

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Hi Im Leigh. my husband works with the gas pipelines in Texas. We have two children together.they are 16 and 13 and the kids and I live in S.C.my husband left in January to work in Corpus and is already on the second job in San Antonio.expected deadline is May.i joined this community for advise and maybe understanding from someone who knows exactly how my children and i feel.we have been together for 18 yrs.at first,every now and then,i enjoyed a evening alone.but thats way behind me.i need advise.he doesnt call,texts sometimes,never skypes...i cry.alot.just not around the children. our shop was broken into and four wheeler stolen a week ago,two days later our jeep then friday our home was broke into.we were not home thank goodnes.

Sheena - posted on 10/19/2012

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Thank you!

My husband starting working out of town in April. Although i like when hes not home (sometimes) I get my space and have some "mommy time" But on the other hand i get lonely... no one to talk to, snuggle with etc.

plus the evenings and weekends are the worst... I love taking our son out and doing activies with him.. put i find that i enjoy it more when i have someone with me.. another mom with her kids or a girlfriend. Oddly enough before i had my son i use to love staying home and being a homebody.,.. but now i love being on the go! amazing how kids can change you.

Ashley - posted on 10/14/2012

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Dear Poonam, though it's very hard to feel like you are not alone, let me assure you, you are not alone. I understand your husband doesn't want you to work, but have you explained to him how this might help you from feeling so lonely? Maybe you can volunteer some places on an "as needed" basis. The holidays are coming up and I'm sure there are plenty organizations that could use a helping hand and I'm sure it would help you feel better to help someone in need. Another idea, Join a "mommy and me" group for you and your children. It's a nice way for you to interact with other adults while the children all gather to play or do an activity. If you want someone to talk to, you are more than welcome to email me (ashleyhaney295@yahoo.com). This is my personal email, I am happy to help in any way I can.

Poonam - posted on 10/14/2012

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hi, i have a husband that travels for 10 to 15 days in a month. i have two kids 1st is boy studying in nursery and 2nd is 2year old daughter. i finish all the house work in 3 - 4 hours and than i have plenty of time in which i just think why i m alone. and feeling very bad and some times i crying and cant sleep till late nights.

what i do? i want to join a job but my husband dont want becouse of children. i totally feel very alone and just crying .

Ashley - posted on 10/13/2012

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Hello! My name is Ashley, I live in Missouri. I have an amazing husband and 2 fantastic children ages 5&9, one boy one girl. I joined this community to meet others who have traveling husbands as well. I've offered small advise on other subjects, but mostly I read and take in a lot of advise lol.



My husband is a Welder and is employed with Pittsburg Tank & Tower based in Henderson, Ky. He travels for them and is not home often. He left a month ago and wont be home again until Thanksgiving then again at Christmas. This job keeps him away for a few months at a time.



I hope to get to know some of you better, and if any of you live in Missouri, Feel free to message me. It's nice to have a support team for those times when your just needing to talk to someone who really can relate to your situation.

Ronni - posted on 10/05/2012

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Hello, my husband travels a lot for his job 5-6 days at a time (and never the same schedule). We were self employed before this so I was used to him being gone a lot of hours, but he was always home after a shift, so gone for several days at a time was an adjustment. We have 2 girls, 8 and 12 yrs old. I work part time a couple days a week and my girls always have activities going on so it does get really crazy trying to be two places at once most of the time. It can get lonely sometimes doing all the school and family functions with the kids by myself; you really do feel like a single mom. I do have a short adjustment time when he comes home, because I get used to doing everything on my own (and yes, my way). Glad I found this group, nice to know there are other moms going through the same situation.

Paula - posted on 09/27/2012

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Sorry to hear you are having such a hard time. Life can be such a struggle at times, but remembering the good that outweighs the bad gets us through. Do you have hobbies that you enjoy? Like to read? Any nice neighbours?

Paula - posted on 09/27/2012

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Sorry to hear you are having such a hard time. Life can be such a struggle at times, but remembering the good that outweighs the bad gets us through. Do you have hobbies that you enjoy? Like to read? Any nice neighbours?

Kate - posted on 09/25/2012

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Hi, I'm a SAHM of three, 8,4 and 1.5. My husband is pretty much gone every Mon through Fri. The part I think that makes this so difficult for me is that I am all alone. We moved from the East Coast to the West for my husbands work and as luck would have it, almost immediatley after having our 3rd and buying a new home my husbands job has transfered him over 6 hours away. All of our family & friends are back East and Im having a hard time making any strong friendships.People are friendly here but I think this economy has created so much stress for many that building new friendships is not exactley a priority So I just try to keep us all busy with sports, playdates, dance, you name it anything to fill the days.........I enjoy listening to Dr Laura and love when she says " be your husbands girlfriend" but often catch myself complaining to him about how difficult my days are. I love my husband and dont want to put any more unwanted stress into the marriage but boy its hard at times! Imagine the stress the single Mom must have! Makes me feel silly complaining........Thanks for reading!

Paula - posted on 09/06/2012

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Hi,

It's been about 6 months now that my husband has been working 2 hours away, running his own factory. 4 hours of commuting would be far too much so he works longer hours Monday to Thursday and then works from home Fridays. So for the foreseeable future will be apart Monday- Thursday. I don't know anyone else who lives half the week away from their spouse and have found it really hard. Our son just turned 2 and I was on medication for post partum anxiety after he was born. It worked quickly and well thank goodness. I went off of it at the same time this transition happened and 5 months later I felt it all come back and am on meds again. I thank God that again, it has worked and I am back to feeling like myself again. Meds, praying my heart out and counseling have helped a lot. I still catch myself thinking and wishing my husband was home every night. We miss him so much, but I am trying to follow the advice of a blogger I read. She said she would rather have a husband that comes home happy a few nights than a husband that is home every night and miserable. I keep hoping there is a purpose other than finances that is keeping us apart, I think it's a time to grow in my faith, mature as a person, and reach out to others. It was so good to read these posts. Thanks ladies!

Erin - posted on 09/01/2012

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all in a nutshell...me and my husband live in wisconsin got married march 2011 almost a year and a half and he just started this cross country job where hes gone for 2 weeks home for 48 hrs and im home with our almost 6 yr old daughter whose starting kindergarten next week....i cant drive and we live in the boonies so its been really hard on me....i cry quite often thinking about him and how much i love and miss him...i feel like my hearts being taken outta my chest half the time....I knew this was gunna be hard but...its way harder than i could imagine :(

Sarah - posted on 08/24/2012

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Hey, my husband lives and works in AL and the kids and I live in FL. He works 6 days a week so he never gets to come home. We spend most of the summer with him in AL and all 3 day weekends, holidays, or other extended breaks from school. We actually own a house there and could provide our children with a wonderful life there but my ex husband won't allow me to move out of Fl with our mutual child even though that would put her 6 hours closer to where he moved and afford us a life he could never dream providing her. My family isn't always around and I've really not got any friends here.





We live in ormond by the sea fl and I have a 7 year old girl, 2 year old boy, and 1 year old daughter.

Meghan - posted on 08/20/2012

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Hi group. So my husband recently started traveling for work and something I wasn't quite prepared for was the need to adjust once he came home! Anyone else have the uneasy feeling that your husband is crashing back into the house after being gone for a stretch? I get a little weird that he's back rearranging things or watching his shows (we have one TV and live in a rental 2 bedroom). I guess I was just anticipating being thrilled to have him back, and now I feel like a big grouch.

Tara - posted on 08/18/2012

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Hi! I'm the mother of three children - oldest and youngest are both boys (ages 12 and 6) and my middle child is our only daughter who is 9. My husband lives in another state to work, and we've been doing this for two months now. We have done this in the past, twice before, and it never had to last more than 6 months before he got to return home. We own our own distributorship, and as our territory expands, he has to leave to work a new area until he can hire the right people. Once he returns home, he travels to oversee all his areas. I run his business in his original territory, run the 46 acre farm, the house, the children, etc. I'm glad to find this group, and I hope it will help relieve some of the emotions one goes through living alone!

Kristen - posted on 08/16/2012

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Hi My name is Kristen i live in Ohio and i am a SAHM with a 2 yr old and 3 month old girls and my husband is a conductor for Norfolk Southern railroad and is gone for two days at a time and his only home for 8 to 10 hours before getting called out again. It has been tough, I feel like a single mom have of the time because when he is home he is sleeping. I joined this community looking for other moms that understand how i feel and i do not have any friends that have this life style.

Jessica - posted on 08/16/2012

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Hey! I'm Jessica, and my husband is an airline pilot for Delta. He is usually gone for 3-4 days a week. We have 2 small children in a very small community in central Georgia. I'm glad to have this as a way to talk to other women who can understand what its like to have a husband that doesn't come home every night. Very refreshing!!

Meghan - posted on 08/13/2012

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Hi Sarah~ I am so sorry you are experiencing so many trials right now! I can't imagine how difficult it must be to have had to go through all the medical fears with your littlest one, without having your husband right there with you. Especially having to move a lot. I am new to this situation of a traveling husband - brand new. Tonight is his first night on the road, in fact. And I am already sensing how crazy it can get. I had to ask the Lord to please help me deal with my 19 month old today - and it was the 3 year old that almost put me over the edge! All I know is - I don't know much. But I can relate to your frustrations and challenges and will be praying for you! (Hope that's ok to say here).

Sarah - posted on 08/11/2012

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I didn't know such groups existed but I'm glad I found this. My husband works out of a union hall, for about 2.5 years now. At first, I thought it would be easy.... I was wrong. He has 18 months left in his apprenticeship, and then who knows how long before he can quit. ( were 25)
We have 3 girls, I worry about the way this effects them. My oldest asked me if we were divorced not too long ago. She's beginning to understand that her dad is around only now and then. He's home every other weekend right now. We went a year where he was home Sunday morning at 5 and left Monday after noon at 1. He's always traveled around the state with the boilermakers since he started.
Last year our 3rd daughter was born with severe medical problems. She has seen many specialists, had open heart surgery at 5 months, was hospitalized 3 times for RSV alone.... And our process isnt completely done. Because he had to work to keep insurance and make money, he wasn't around to help me or watch our girls. Alone I was told twice that my daughter wouldn't make it. Thankfully they were wrong. Alone I potty trained one girl while caring for two others. Alone I take care of my family, thinking I will get a break when he's home.... But then he's tired too. And he understandably wants to spend time with our girls and me. I can't remember the last time I went out with friends bc we moved to a new place every year for tree years. Madison, Milwaukee, Chicago.
How do you veteran moms deal with this? I feel like I'm trying to juggle my hubby, my kids, myself, and my sanity all at once. (it's not going well) I don't want my children to suffer, or be hurt. Their dad missed their birthday party this year, not to mention mine and our anniversary. My youngest turns one in two months and he may not be around for that. He always makes up for it (which is good), but my oldest girls don't even ask anymore why he's not there. Our family is very loving, and I know it kills him to be gone. He hates leaving and always has a hard time ripping himself away from "his girls." how can we make it better? How do we reduce stress and craziness? What can I do to hold it together?

Kay - posted on 08/10/2012

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I am so glad to find this posting! I am struggling a lot with our new situation. I have always been very career oriented but recently realized I was spending too much time and energy with my work. I decided to take a part time position in the same field(pharma). I have a 3 year old and 6 month old, both girls. 5 years ago my husband started a company with his best friend. We are Blessed to have seen success with this company. Recently they opened a new branch 8 hours away from home. Unlike when they started the company, they know have over 50 employess relying on them to make the company continue to see success and a lot is riding on this new branch. My husband and I have always cared for the kids 50/50. Now he is gone weeks at a time and this will continue for a while and eventually we pray he will only be gone a week or 2 a month. Im just having a hard time adjusting to the pressure of caring for my girls and working even though Im now only working part time. I dont want to stress and the girls see it but I am just overwhelmed! I look forward to reading tips on how other moms juggle it all! Also, Im looking for tips to help my 3 year old through it. She is Daddy's little girl and she always did fine with my business travel but they have never been apart and she misses him terribly and acts out when he is gone :(

Meghan - posted on 08/05/2012

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Thanks, Kristi~
I can imagine it gets frustrating flying solo at school events. But I am with you in being grateful for his opportunities. Because of this promotion, I will be able to cut down my hours at work. And if we are blessed with another child (still praying for that one - we'll see) I'll be able to stay home full time. I will definitely implement some of your ideas to stay close to my husband while he's on the road. It's so important and I really don't want to build up resentments while he's gone. He's doing what's best for our family and I will need to step up, too. I appreciate the encouragement!!

Kristi - posted on 08/04/2012

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Hello! My husband travels basically every Mon-Thurs. Sometimes he's gone longer, but typically home on weekends. What I find helps is that he sends me little text messages a few times per day letting me know he's thinking about me. He also always calls me right before bedtime so we can talk when the kids are sleeping. This keeps us very connected. The hardest part is when the kids or myself have school activities or special events and he seems to miss out. It makes us sad. Sometimes I take it personally when I really want him to be somewhere and he can't change his schedule. Sometimes I think the other parents at school think I am a single mom since I show up alone to sports and school activities. It makes me lonely, but I know there isn't any other option. I am in school full-time and so thankful that I can pursue my goals since he is able to take care of us financially.

The positive note is that we NEVER take eachother for granted. I love this man so much and when we are together we are extremely close and loving. AND I get the remote on the nights he is away! Ha :-) It's quality, not quantity.

Meghan - posted on 08/04/2012

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Hello! My hubby was just promoted (YAY!!) which comes with required travel two to three weeks per month (tough). We have two girls under the age of 4 and I work part to full time depending on the workload. I joined this group to get ideas on how to handle the most challenging hours between coming home and bed time, as well as how to adjust to him being gone so much. I know I will miss him! Looking forward to joining the conversation...

Jennifer - posted on 07/13/2012

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Hi my name is Jenn im currently a stay at home mom of 3 kid ages 7, 9, 11. Tomorrow my husband leaves for training he will be gone for atleast 3 weeks maybe longer. He has his cdl and is getting proper training and then will be an otr driver. Im from south texas and i joined this group looking to get ideals on how to deal with him being gone so much and maybe meet others in my situation and area.

Rosa - posted on 07/11/2012

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My husband retired from the Army six years ago...we were accustome to a certain lifestyle back in NY. Unfortunately, although he has a good paying job now it was still a pay cut, forcing us to relocate to another state that the cost of living was cheaper. So we ended up in NC, we so love the state between the schools and cost of living we are happy to call this new place our home! However, such move came with a price, there is a job freeze here in NC and because of it my husband is forced to stay in NY in order to support us until something in NC comes along.

My husband and I practice good communication skills, and we believe that when the time comes he will land a job and he'll be home with us permanately. Oh did i mentioned we only see him on weekends. We have two daughters and despite how happy they are in their new home, their hearts shed tears becasue they miss daddy sooo much. As a family we continue to stay strong, keep the faith, and pray....it is indeed the only thing that keeps us focused.

Karina - posted on 06/27/2012

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my husband works in the fracking business n hes gone for two weeks n stays home for three days its been almost two years still not used to it .Trying to figure out with some trusting issues right now .... hope by talking about it helps.

Kathy - posted on 06/22/2012

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Hi !
I live in Winnipeg, Manitoba and have 2 children ( 7 & 4 ).
My husband is a long haul trucker and is in town for about 6 days a month.
This is fairly new to us as he was a welder up until about a year and a half ago.
I work full time from home as a manager of a fairly large apartment block.
My eldest has ADHD and my youngest seems to challenge my every move....sigh!
I feel like a single parent and am at my wits end!
Thanks for letting me vent :)

Kathy - posted on 06/21/2012

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Hi Holly,
I have it easy compared to you!! I hope you can get a local group of people to support you! You are justified in being stressed that is a lot for anyone to take!! I am lucky to have older kids who do help take the stress off of me. I hope you can find people to help you out. Are your parents close? his parents? I would say if nothing else it would be worth it to find someone to watch your kids for even a couple hours a week to give yourself a break. Please keep posting and let us know how you are doing.
Kathy

Holly - posted on 06/21/2012

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Hi! I am a young 23 year old mother of 5. I have a 7 year old, 5 year old, 4 year old, 2 year old and 1 year old. I am from Ohio. I joined this community because i have absolutely no one to talk to about my situation. No one really understands. Not even my husband. I thought what better way to vent then to talk to other mothers in the similar situation. My husband works for CSX and he is gone 9 days at a time then home for 5 days. right now he is in Atlanta for two weeks straight. I stay at home because if I were to work I would essentially just be paying for a baby sitter and it is not worth it. My kids are constantly fighting with each other and with me. It is a battle that I am losing and I would just love to know what other moms in my situation do to take control. my kids walk all over me no matter how hard I try to take control of the situation. When my husband is home I still feel like I am doing this on my own. I have to do everything for them. He doesn't just jump right in and help out like I wish he would. I am at a point where my stress level is beyond what i can stand.I don't know what more I can do. I was just hoping for some advice to help me be a better mom and try not to keep the resentment I have built up towards him.

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