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Princess - posted on 05/07/2013

My hubs has to pay for some of his air travel. It depends on a lot of factors but it's something that his union approved. It doesn't happen that often, but it tends to be a lot cos it's always at the last minute.

Laityn - posted on 04/12/2013

Hey girls! So, I was sitting here alone (my better half is halfway across the country) and decided to search for a blog that I could connect with other girls who's boyfriends and/or husbands travel for their career. I knew I had nothing to lose and was SO happy I came across this gem!

My life is 17 hours away from me in North Carolina. He is gone anywhere from 16-23 days at a time and only comes home for a few short days (five at the max) before he's back on a plane headed for the East Coast. That being said, I'm alone.. A LOT. Like, a lot.

I've never had to deal with this whole "traveling" thing until he and I met. The first couple times he came home and had to leave me were hard. It's getting easier, sorta (not really). We communicate through Skype, cell phone calls every night, and by sending surprise packages to each other every now and then. (I looove surprises!)

We are trying to get pregnant and it's such a hard task to accomplish when you basically live alone 3+ weeks out of every month. Cycles are crazy. Leave it to the hormones! The thought of having a little one and rarely having a partner to help with care is nerve-wracking to say the least.

I keep telling myself that this is what we need. The money is absolutely amazing. Not seeing each other every single day has made our relationship stronger than I ever thought possible. When he comes home, it's like we're on our first date all over again. (Yes, he still gives me butterflies).

I'll quit rambling on now! I hope to connect with you girls and have a place to come to when the "Life of A Traveling Pipefitter" gets to me. Maybe that'll save me a few calories, too! (I have a weakness for chocolate. Who doesn't?)

Nikki Dawson - posted on 04/09/2013

Serena I am sorry to hear about your situation. It's not fair that he has to pay his travel expenses. Companies who require employees to travel should be paying for the travel themselves. My fiance just started his new job in a different province and they pay for all of his flights.

Nikki Dawson - posted on 04/09/2013

Hello! So nice to meet you all. I don't have any children of my own, however, my fiance is currently in another province for work, in order to save money so we can buy a home and have a baby. :-)

He has just left (2 days ago) for his first time working away from home. Luckily we can communicate through video chat on Skype and we have a good cell phone plan so we can talk a lot.

This is new to me, and I am finding that I am very lonely. I don't currently work outside the home, so it is hard to distract myself, especially when I don't have any work to do for the day (besides general tidy up around my home.) All I can do to keep myself positive is to think of the money he will be making up there, and how it will provide us with a life we really want in the future.

I hope to make some new friends/connections here. :-) Feel free to message me.

Serena - posted on 02/21/2013

Hi my name is Serena. My husband and I have been married for almost 14 years and we have four sons ranging in age from 13 years to 18 months. I have always been a stay at home mom because that is what was best financially for us. My husband has had many hard years of bad jobs and struggling to finish school but 6 months ago he finally found a job he loves and I hate. He travels several days a month, always last minute so planning anything is out of the question. When he is home he always works late and is having to spend weekends emailing and talking to clients. I find myself resenting him while I am at home alone caring for four kids, 2 dogs, and other misc animals, and he is out with coworkers having fancy dinners. My meals are usually limited to something mediocre I slap together in between sports and homework for the boys. We dont have family near by to help me when he's gone and I feel like I am nearing the end of my rope with our marriage. On top of this I begged him not to take a position with travel. I need an outside perspective because my friends just tell me to "suck it up" or "be glad he has a job," yet his salary is mediocre at best and I am usually left at home with no money because he has to pay upfront for his travel expenses. Help!

Marie - posted on 01/22/2013

I'm so happy to find this site my husband just Start a new job right after I had My daughter he doesn't Travel but he does works very long hour and has to get his rest worst off its Grave yard I have felt a lot of resentment Towards him I try not to but we have two kids I often feel like he get the easy end before he started the new job he was alway home he wasn't making much at all but it was nice to have somebody

Amy - posted on 12/13/2012

Hi Stacey! My husband is also a consultant and has the exact same schedule. We just had a baby in October so I am learning how to take care of the baby by myself during the week, but find myself overwhelmed. Any suggestions for making it work?

Meghan - posted on 11/29/2012

Hi group! I see that every reply seems to go to the host of the group which is a little weird. Must be something with this website. Anyway, my husband is traveling again this week. We just moved to a new house - before we were in an apartment. So it's weird not having anyone else in the building when I am home alone with two little ones. I sleep with the light on! Little things are tough when he's not home. Like getting dinner on the table. It takes three times as long! Mostly I try not to get resentful when he IS home. That's been my challenge lately. I feel like he gets all of this down time because he doesn't have to deal with the kids in the evening, but I get that he's working a lot. Sometimes until 10PM. I just sometimes can't help feeling like I am carrying a heavier load. Not a lot of gratitude - I am working on it.

Candace - posted on 11/28/2012

Hello my name is Candace. I am also dealing with having 3 children and a man who works outta town Monday thru Friday and sometimes on Saturdays too. I have been with Jared for 2 and a half years. He's been working outta town for almost 1 and a half years of it and i still can't get used to it. We have 3 beautiful boys Gavin, Adam, and Aiden. I'm hoping this can help me cope better and I can have a stronger relationship with my fiance. We're supposed to be getting married in July of this year and we've just bought a new house this past June. It's scary for me so I hope you lovely ladies can help. Thank you so much for starting this group you may have saved my soon to be marriage. I'm ever so hopeful.

Amy - posted on 11/21/2012

Hi my name is Amy and I just joined this group today. My husband and I have Ben married for 10 years and have 2 amazing boys. Since March my husband travels every week with his job and I am feeling very alone. I feel like a single mom and I need advice on how to stop feeling such resentment towards him. I feel like he could get a job locally but chooses not to. I am not sure how to fix my feelings. When he is home he wants to just chill and I want to go out because I am stuck in the house all week with kids.

Myrna - posted on 10/30/2012

My name is Myrna I live in Riverton, UT. My kids range from 16 to 6. I have 4.. My husband works in Norway currently. He's gone 3 weeks and home for 3 weeks. It's a difficult adjustment.. Any advice?

Ashley - posted on 10/21/2012

Leigh,

That is so sad. I'm sorry to hear that your husband rarely communicates with you now that he's working away from home. Have you asked him about this? I'm sure you have made mention of this concern to him. Why did he choose a job so far from home? Was it the money or were there marital problems already? I know this next part a lot of women don't like to hear, but sometimes it helps the most. Have you considered speaking with a counselor? You've had a lot happening in your life lately and it sounds like your really questioning the strength of your marriage. I haven't been married very long (1year today), but I do know that sometimes when you've been married for a long time, you have to take time to re-kindle the marriage. I wish you the absolute best and will keep you in my prayers. If you need someone to talk to, please don't hesitate to message me or email me @ ashleyhaney295@yahoo.com anytime.

Leigh - posted on 10/19/2012

Hi Im Leigh. my husband works with the gas pipelines in Texas. We have two children together.they are 16 and 13 and the kids and I live in S.C.my husband left in January to work in Corpus and is already on the second job in San Antonio.expected deadline is May.i joined this community for advise and maybe understanding from someone who knows exactly how my children and i feel.we have been together for 18 yrs.at first,every now and then,i enjoyed a evening alone.but thats way behind me.i need advise.he doesnt call,texts sometimes,never skypes...i cry.alot.just not around the children. our shop was broken into and four wheeler stolen a week ago,two days later our jeep then friday our home was broke into.we were not home thank goodnes.

Sheena - posted on 10/19/2012

Thank you!

My husband starting working out of town in April. Although i like when hes not home (sometimes) I get my space and have some "mommy time" But on the other hand i get lonely... no one to talk to, snuggle with etc.

plus the evenings and weekends are the worst... I love taking our son out and doing activies with him.. put i find that i enjoy it more when i have someone with me.. another mom with her kids or a girlfriend. Oddly enough before i had my son i use to love staying home and being a homebody.,.. but now i love being on the go! amazing how kids can change you.

Ashley - posted on 10/14/2012

Dear Poonam, though it's very hard to feel like you are not alone, let me assure you, you are not alone. I understand your husband doesn't want you to work, but have you explained to him how this might help you from feeling so lonely? Maybe you can volunteer some places on an "as needed" basis. The holidays are coming up and I'm sure there are plenty organizations that could use a helping hand and I'm sure it would help you feel better to help someone in need. Another idea, Join a "mommy and me" group for you and your children. It's a nice way for you to interact with other adults while the children all gather to play or do an activity. If you want someone to talk to, you are more than welcome to email me (ashleyhaney295@yahoo.com). This is my personal email, I am happy to help in any way I can.

Poonam - posted on 10/14/2012

hi, i have a husband that travels for 10 to 15 days in a month. i have two kids 1st is boy studying in nursery and 2nd is 2year old daughter. i finish all the house work in 3 - 4 hours and than i have plenty of time in which i just think why i m alone. and feeling very bad and some times i crying and cant sleep till late nights.

what i do? i want to join a job but my husband dont want becouse of children. i totally feel very alone and just crying .

Ashley - posted on 10/13/2012

Hello! My name is Ashley, I live in Missouri. I have an amazing husband and 2 fantastic children ages 5&9, one boy one girl. I joined this community to meet others who have traveling husbands as well. I've offered small advise on other subjects, but mostly I read and take in a lot of advise lol.



My husband is a Welder and is employed with Pittsburg Tank & Tower based in Henderson, Ky. He travels for them and is not home often. He left a month ago and wont be home again until Thanksgiving then again at Christmas. This job keeps him away for a few months at a time.



I hope to get to know some of you better, and if any of you live in Missouri, Feel free to message me. It's nice to have a support team for those times when your just needing to talk to someone who really can relate to your situation.

Ronni - posted on 10/05/2012

Hello, my husband travels a lot for his job 5-6 days at a time (and never the same schedule). We were self employed before this so I was used to him being gone a lot of hours, but he was always home after a shift, so gone for several days at a time was an adjustment. We have 2 girls, 8 and 12 yrs old. I work part time a couple days a week and my girls always have activities going on so it does get really crazy trying to be two places at once most of the time. It can get lonely sometimes doing all the school and family functions with the kids by myself; you really do feel like a single mom. I do have a short adjustment time when he comes home, because I get used to doing everything on my own (and yes, my way). Glad I found this group, nice to know there are other moms going through the same situation.

Paula - posted on 09/27/2012

Sorry to hear you are having such a hard time. Life can be such a struggle at times, but remembering the good that outweighs the bad gets us through. Do you have hobbies that you enjoy? Like to read? Any nice neighbours?

Paula - posted on 09/27/2012

Sorry to hear you are having such a hard time. Life can be such a struggle at times, but remembering the good that outweighs the bad gets us through. Do you have hobbies that you enjoy? Like to read? Any nice neighbours?

Paula - posted on 09/27/2012

It's hard to be alone during the week, I get it. I agree, being supportive and keeping the relationship strong is soooo important. When I find myself putting pressure on my husband and being really negative about our situation we end up arguing and wasting the weekends we have together and on Sunday night I wish I had acted differently. A great book that helped me is "Finding joy" by Kay Warren. It really put some things in perspective for me. It feels encouraging to know others are doing the same thing as me on this site, and not just making it through but enjoying life too.

Kate - posted on 09/25/2012

Hi, I'm a SAHM of three, 8,4 and 1.5. My husband is pretty much gone every Mon through Fri. The part I think that makes this so difficult for me is that I am all alone. We moved from the East Coast to the West for my husbands work and as luck would have it, almost immediatley after having our 3rd and buying a new home my husbands job has transfered him over 6 hours away. All of our family & friends are back East and Im having a hard time making any strong friendships.People are friendly here but I think this economy has created so much stress for many that building new friendships is not exactley a priority So I just try to keep us all busy with sports, playdates, dance, you name it anything to fill the days.........I enjoy listening to Dr Laura and love when she says " be your husbands girlfriend" but often catch myself complaining to him about how difficult my days are. I love my husband and dont want to put any more unwanted stress into the marriage but boy its hard at times! Imagine the stress the single Mom must have! Makes me feel silly complaining........Thanks for reading!

Paula - posted on 09/06/2012

Hi,

It's been about 6 months now that my husband has been working 2 hours away, running his own factory. 4 hours of commuting would be far too much so he works longer hours Monday to Thursday and then works from home Fridays. So for the foreseeable future will be apart Monday- Thursday. I don't know anyone else who lives half the week away from their spouse and have found it really hard. Our son just turned 2 and I was on medication for post partum anxiety after he was born. It worked quickly and well thank goodness. I went off of it at the same time this transition happened and 5 months later I felt it all come back and am on meds again. I thank God that again, it has worked and I am back to feeling like myself again. Meds, praying my heart out and counseling have helped a lot. I still catch myself thinking and wishing my husband was home every night. We miss him so much, but I am trying to follow the advice of a blogger I read. She said she would rather have a husband that comes home happy a few nights than a husband that is home every night and miserable. I keep hoping there is a purpose other than finances that is keeping us apart, I think it's a time to grow in my faith, mature as a person, and reach out to others. It was so good to read these posts. Thanks ladies!

Erin - posted on 09/01/2012

all in a nutshell...me and my husband live in wisconsin got married march 2011 almost a year and a half and he just started this cross country job where hes gone for 2 weeks home for 48 hrs and im home with our almost 6 yr old daughter whose starting kindergarten next week....i cant drive and we live in the boonies so its been really hard on me....i cry quite often thinking about him and how much i love and miss him...i feel like my hearts being taken outta my chest half the time....I knew this was gunna be hard but...its way harder than i could imagine :(

Sarah - posted on 08/24/2012

Hey, my husband lives and works in AL and the kids and I live in FL. He works 6 days a week so he never gets to come home. We spend most of the summer with him in AL and all 3 day weekends, holidays, or other extended breaks from school. We actually own a house there and could provide our children with a wonderful life there but my ex husband won't allow me to move out of Fl with our mutual child even though that would put her 6 hours closer to where he moved and afford us a life he could never dream providing her. My family isn't always around and I've really not got any friends here.





We live in ormond by the sea fl and I have a 7 year old girl, 2 year old boy, and 1 year old daughter.

Meghan - posted on 08/20/2012

Hi group. So my husband recently started traveling for work and something I wasn't quite prepared for was the need to adjust once he came home! Anyone else have the uneasy feeling that your husband is crashing back into the house after being gone for a stretch? I get a little weird that he's back rearranging things or watching his shows (we have one TV and live in a rental 2 bedroom). I guess I was just anticipating being thrilled to have him back, and now I feel like a big grouch.

Tara - posted on 08/18/2012

Hi! I'm the mother of three children - oldest and youngest are both boys (ages 12 and 6) and my middle child is our only daughter who is 9. My husband lives in another state to work, and we've been doing this for two months now. We have done this in the past, twice before, and it never had to last more than 6 months before he got to return home. We own our own distributorship, and as our territory expands, he has to leave to work a new area until he can hire the right people. Once he returns home, he travels to oversee all his areas. I run his business in his original territory, run the 46 acre farm, the house, the children, etc. I'm glad to find this group, and I hope it will help relieve some of the emotions one goes through living alone!

Kristen - posted on 08/16/2012

Hi My name is Kristen i live in Ohio and i am a SAHM with a 2 yr old and 3 month old girls and my husband is a conductor for Norfolk Southern railroad and is gone for two days at a time and his only home for 8 to 10 hours before getting called out again. It has been tough, I feel like a single mom have of the time because when he is home he is sleeping. I joined this community looking for other moms that understand how i feel and i do not have any friends that have this life style.

Jessica - posted on 08/16/2012

Hey! I'm Jessica, and my husband is an airline pilot for Delta. He is usually gone for 3-4 days a week. We have 2 small children in a very small community in central Georgia. I'm glad to have this as a way to talk to other women who can understand what its like to have a husband that doesn't come home every night. Very refreshing!!

Meghan - posted on 08/13/2012

Hi Sarah~ I am so sorry you are experiencing so many trials right now! I can't imagine how difficult it must be to have had to go through all the medical fears with your littlest one, without having your husband right there with you. Especially having to move a lot. I am new to this situation of a traveling husband - brand new. Tonight is his first night on the road, in fact. And I am already sensing how crazy it can get. I had to ask the Lord to please help me deal with my 19 month old today - and it was the 3 year old that almost put me over the edge! All I know is - I don't know much. But I can relate to your frustrations and challenges and will be praying for you! (Hope that's ok to say here).

Sarah - posted on 08/11/2012

I didn't know such groups existed but I'm glad I found this. My husband works out of a union hall, for about 2.5 years now. At first, I thought it would be easy.... I was wrong. He has 18 months left in his apprenticeship, and then who knows how long before he can quit. ( were 25)
We have 3 girls, I worry about the way this effects them. My oldest asked me if we were divorced not too long ago. She's beginning to understand that her dad is around only now and then. He's home every other weekend right now. We went a year where he was home Sunday morning at 5 and left Monday after noon at 1. He's always traveled around the state with the boilermakers since he started.
Last year our 3rd daughter was born with severe medical problems. She has seen many specialists, had open heart surgery at 5 months, was hospitalized 3 times for RSV alone.... And our process isnt completely done. Because he had to work to keep insurance and make money, he wasn't around to help me or watch our girls. Alone I was told twice that my daughter wouldn't make it. Thankfully they were wrong. Alone I potty trained one girl while caring for two others. Alone I take care of my family, thinking I will get a break when he's home.... But then he's tired too. And he understandably wants to spend time with our girls and me. I can't remember the last time I went out with friends bc we moved to a new place every year for tree years. Madison, Milwaukee, Chicago.
How do you veteran moms deal with this? I feel like I'm trying to juggle my hubby, my kids, myself, and my sanity all at once. (it's not going well) I don't want my children to suffer, or be hurt. Their dad missed their birthday party this year, not to mention mine and our anniversary. My youngest turns one in two months and he may not be around for that. He always makes up for it (which is good), but my oldest girls don't even ask anymore why he's not there. Our family is very loving, and I know it kills him to be gone. He hates leaving and always has a hard time ripping himself away from "his girls." how can we make it better? How do we reduce stress and craziness? What can I do to hold it together?

Kay - posted on 08/10/2012

I am so glad to find this posting! I am struggling a lot with our new situation. I have always been very career oriented but recently realized I was spending too much time and energy with my work. I decided to take a part time position in the same field(pharma). I have a 3 year old and 6 month old, both girls. 5 years ago my husband started a company with his best friend. We are Blessed to have seen success with this company. Recently they opened a new branch 8 hours away from home. Unlike when they started the company, they know have over 50 employess relying on them to make the company continue to see success and a lot is riding on this new branch. My husband and I have always cared for the kids 50/50. Now he is gone weeks at a time and this will continue for a while and eventually we pray he will only be gone a week or 2 a month. Im just having a hard time adjusting to the pressure of caring for my girls and working even though Im now only working part time. I dont want to stress and the girls see it but I am just overwhelmed! I look forward to reading tips on how other moms juggle it all! Also, Im looking for tips to help my 3 year old through it. She is Daddy's little girl and she always did fine with my business travel but they have never been apart and she misses him terribly and acts out when he is gone :(

Meghan - posted on 08/05/2012

Thanks, Kristi~
I can imagine it gets frustrating flying solo at school events. But I am with you in being grateful for his opportunities. Because of this promotion, I will be able to cut down my hours at work. And if we are blessed with another child (still praying for that one - we'll see) I'll be able to stay home full time. I will definitely implement some of your ideas to stay close to my husband while he's on the road. It's so important and I really don't want to build up resentments while he's gone. He's doing what's best for our family and I will need to step up, too. I appreciate the encouragement!!

Kristi - posted on 08/04/2012

Hello! My husband travels basically every Mon-Thurs. Sometimes he's gone longer, but typically home on weekends. What I find helps is that he sends me little text messages a few times per day letting me know he's thinking about me. He also always calls me right before bedtime so we can talk when the kids are sleeping. This keeps us very connected. The hardest part is when the kids or myself have school activities or special events and he seems to miss out. It makes us sad. Sometimes I take it personally when I really want him to be somewhere and he can't change his schedule. Sometimes I think the other parents at school think I am a single mom since I show up alone to sports and school activities. It makes me lonely, but I know there isn't any other option. I am in school full-time and so thankful that I can pursue my goals since he is able to take care of us financially.

The positive note is that we NEVER take eachother for granted. I love this man so much and when we are together we are extremely close and loving. AND I get the remote on the nights he is away! Ha :-) It's quality, not quantity.

Meghan - posted on 08/04/2012

Hello! My hubby was just promoted (YAY!!) which comes with required travel two to three weeks per month (tough). We have two girls under the age of 4 and I work part to full time depending on the workload. I joined this group to get ideas on how to handle the most challenging hours between coming home and bed time, as well as how to adjust to him being gone so much. I know I will miss him! Looking forward to joining the conversation...

Jennifer - posted on 07/13/2012

Hi my name is Jenn im currently a stay at home mom of 3 kid ages 7, 9, 11. Tomorrow my husband leaves for training he will be gone for atleast 3 weeks maybe longer. He has his cdl and is getting proper training and then will be an otr driver. Im from south texas and i joined this group looking to get ideals on how to deal with him being gone so much and maybe meet others in my situation and area.

Rosa - posted on 07/11/2012

My husband retired from the Army six years ago...we were accustome to a certain lifestyle back in NY. Unfortunately, although he has a good paying job now it was still a pay cut, forcing us to relocate to another state that the cost of living was cheaper. So we ended up in NC, we so love the state between the schools and cost of living we are happy to call this new place our home! However, such move came with a price, there is a job freeze here in NC and because of it my husband is forced to stay in NY in order to support us until something in NC comes along.

My husband and I practice good communication skills, and we believe that when the time comes he will land a job and he'll be home with us permanately. Oh did i mentioned we only see him on weekends. We have two daughters and despite how happy they are in their new home, their hearts shed tears becasue they miss daddy sooo much. As a family we continue to stay strong, keep the faith, and pray....it is indeed the only thing that keeps us focused.

Karina - posted on 06/27/2012

my husband works in the fracking business n hes gone for two weeks n stays home for three days its been almost two years still not used to it .Trying to figure out with some trusting issues right now .... hope by talking about it helps.

Kathy - posted on 06/22/2012

Hi !
I live in Winnipeg, Manitoba and have 2 children ( 7 & 4 ).
My husband is a long haul trucker and is in town for about 6 days a month.
This is fairly new to us as he was a welder up until about a year and a half ago.
I work full time from home as a manager of a fairly large apartment block.
My eldest has ADHD and my youngest seems to challenge my every move....sigh!
I feel like a single parent and am at my wits end!
Thanks for letting me vent :)

Kathy - posted on 06/21/2012

Hi Holly,
I have it easy compared to you!! I hope you can get a local group of people to support you! You are justified in being stressed that is a lot for anyone to take!! I am lucky to have older kids who do help take the stress off of me. I hope you can find people to help you out. Are your parents close? his parents? I would say if nothing else it would be worth it to find someone to watch your kids for even a couple hours a week to give yourself a break. Please keep posting and let us know how you are doing.
Kathy

Holly - posted on 06/21/2012

Hi! I am a young 23 year old mother of 5. I have a 7 year old, 5 year old, 4 year old, 2 year old and 1 year old. I am from Ohio. I joined this community because i have absolutely no one to talk to about my situation. No one really understands. Not even my husband. I thought what better way to vent then to talk to other mothers in the similar situation. My husband works for CSX and he is gone 9 days at a time then home for 5 days. right now he is in Atlanta for two weeks straight. I stay at home because if I were to work I would essentially just be paying for a baby sitter and it is not worth it. My kids are constantly fighting with each other and with me. It is a battle that I am losing and I would just love to know what other moms in my situation do to take control. my kids walk all over me no matter how hard I try to take control of the situation. When my husband is home I still feel like I am doing this on my own. I have to do everything for them. He doesn't just jump right in and help out like I wish he would. I am at a point where my stress level is beyond what i can stand.I don't know what more I can do. I was just hoping for some advice to help me be a better mom and try not to keep the resentment I have built up towards him.

Kathryn - posted on 06/07/2012

Hello to all you brave mamas!! A quick intro. I have been a SAHM since 2006. I basically graduated college, very much pregnant and have been home since! I have loved every minute of it and now we have THREE beautiful boys, ages 5, 3, and 1. Recently, January of this year, my husband took a job for a firm that he always wanted to work for..since he was 18. This new job requires him to travel Sunday-Thursday. About a month ago, we moved to a much bigger house, outside of the city into a wonderful, but un known community. I know that the dust needs to settle so I am reaching out to other moms who are willing to help support me on this new journey! I can't wait to interact with all of you!!!

Nld7ef - posted on 06/06/2012

Hi! I'm a stay at home mom of two kids who's husband travels mon- thurs. We live in Missouri and He works out of state. Every week at the same place. We've been doing this for over a year and are trying to think things through in a new light. The question we are throwing around is: What is best for our family? To have dady gone, but have mom and kids stable in one place. Or do we move our family all together but possibley end up moving the family around more often? Do we make the home and schools and community a constant for the kids? Or do we make our family the constant, and our kids might have to be changing schools and what not every couple years or so? Any thoughts you might have would be welcomed. Thanks!

Tina - posted on 05/29/2012

Hi, My name is Tina. My husband has been a truck driver for about 4 years now. He's home every weekend since he changed companies last November. I had lost yet another job due to having to spend so much time attending to medical care for our daughter, and had the opportunity with this new company to do his dispatching. We have a 16 yr old girl with Hurler's Syndrome (mucopolysacharidosis), and a 14 yr old boy. Being able to dispatch him has really changed my feelings about him being gone all week. I now understand why he can't be home for all the million different reasons we want him here. We have a running joke that if he makes me mad, he won't get to come home for a month! "If momma ain't happy, ain't NOBODY happy!" I know I'm pretty lucky that he's home every weekend, but I still miss him when he's gone. And it doesn't make all the crap that a truck drivers wife has to do any easier. I was so happy to find this group!

Mary - posted on 04/28/2012

Hi! My husband is out of town working five days a week and comes home to spend the weekend with us, I have three kids ages 14,12, and 10. We live in North Carolina.

Jessika - posted on 04/28/2012

My name is jessika. I am a single mom. I dont get alot of support from the dad for the kids. so i have to do basically alot on my own.

I work alot. I am in committee for Minnesota Alliance Against Violence.

I am in trianing to be domestic/ Sexual violence advocate.


plus dealing with my kids day to day basis...

Maranda - posted on 04/22/2012

Hi ! My name is Maranda. I am 28 & a stay at home mom of 4 kids ages 9,7,6 & 3. My husband works 4 hours away. So the crew he is on rents a house where they work. He leaves Sunday night and comes back home Thursday afternoon ! I find myself feeling like an outsider b/c none of my friends go through or do what i do. Did i mention that during hurricane season he could be gone for months ? So when i saw this community i was like moms who understand me !

JENNIFER - posted on 04/08/2012

Hi my name is Jennifer I live in Iowa. My husband works in animal healthcare industry. He has been traveling for over 12 years. His travel is not consistent. Some weeks he might not be gone more than a day. Other weeks it might be more like 5 days. I would say he is out about 6 months a year. We have 3 kids and the oldest is 15 and the youngest is 8. All three of my kids are in a lot of activities. I am usually running kids every night and every weekend. I also work a part time job. We live on 8 acres and have 4 dogs, 4 horses, 4 cats, a d a lizard. I never have any time for my self and I am looking forward to hear from others in the similar situation.

Danielle - posted on 03/30/2012

Hi I'm also a stay at home mom living with my in laws till sometime this summer. My husband and I have been married for 12 years & have 3 great kids; 7 year old boy, 5 year old girl, and 9 month baby. I am managing my 3rd round of PPD. I have always had an anxiety disorder, however it is especially bad during PPD. My husband has waited to take an offshore position until he was confident that I am emotionally and mentally stable. I am medicated and I feel good. He leaves for his first 3 weeks on 3 weeks off hitch in the gulf of Mexico in less than a month. This is going to be a huge change for us as we have been together for 17 years and rarely apart. He is my true helpmate in every way. He is a very active and involved father. My biggest fears are that the established routine I strive to keep will go out the window the moment he gets home, making life unstable while he is home. I also fear that he and I won't spend enough alone time together as currently our life is all about our children. Other worries include learning to grocery shop and cook as that has always been his passion and so not mine! Any and all advise anyone has to help me through this is very much appreciated!

Amy - posted on 03/28/2012

Hi, everyone! I am a SAHM and my husband is in sales. He only travels a few days a month but his hours are so long on the days that he is home that there is very little time together. I have two children and he has two children and we share custody with their other parents 50/50. We also have a 6 month old daughter. I guess the hardest part for me feeling so left out when he travels. He has nice dinners, he goes out with friends, and I just never do any of that without him. I do get a little overwhelmed once in a while taking care of the kids and the house by myself but I feel like that is my job since he is working so much. Basically I just need some friends who are in similar situations as I am. I don't really have anyone I can relate to.