Wives of OTR truck drivers?

Racheal - posted on 11/08/2011 ( 115 moms have responded )

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I am looking for other women who are married to OTR truck drivers. I have been thinking of creating a forum just for Women who are married to truck drivers or visa versa men who might be married to women truck drivers. I want to make a place for women to come together and be able to ask questions or find people with similar intrests. because being married to a truck driver myself there isn't alot of other women who understand what it is like being married to a trucker. I want to know what everyone thinks.

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Beth - posted on 02/25/2014

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Hi thank you for this forum...I will be married 22 years in Sept. When we first met my husband as a truck driver. Not very long after he left truck driving and worked local so he could help raise family. almost 22 years later he lost his job and thankfully always kept up his cdl, so going back into truck driving (otr) was really the only option for us. He needed to start making money right away, and I had gone back to work full time. This was in December. Honestly its been harder then I thought it would be. I miss him. which is a good thing after being married a long time...He is trustworthy always keeps in touch and although I don't see him as much I know he is doing something he loves and is so good at it. I think trust is so important...your partner needs to keep you in the loop. Right now I cant be on the road with him but that is the plan at some point. Our daughter still lives at home so that helps me so much to not feel alone. I do enjoy listening to his stories and how hes trying to figure out (the clock) where his next load his going, will he make it on time the dinners he tries to make in the truck most times. He loves listening to spotify and I always try to find songs for him to enjoy. (its the little things). :) Anyway we have a good story, we love each other, trust each other and really if you think about whats important its those 2 things. I don't give him a hard time because I think his happiness and lower stress ( believe it or not) his last office job was causing him such high blood pressure and depression, that this probably saved his life. He had to pass physical get on blood pressure medicine (that wouldn't of happened otherwise) so Im happy hes alive, doing what he always loved and went to school to do 20 something years ago. It will be a sacrifice, you do struggle with everyday emotions. There are days I don't want to get up but you do what you know is right. **hugs** to all of you out there who love your husbands, boyfriends, that are OTR truck drivers.

Julia - posted on 01/20/2014

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Hi everyone me and my husband have been married for 9 years and he has been a otr driver for 7. I have to say it is nice to see that there is a place to talk to others in the same situation. My husband was in the service when we meet and I was with him for a few deployments overseas. I have to say at times his deployments were easier to handle then him being on the road all the time. Back then I knew he had to be gone and for a good reason. Now it is like he has the choice on when to come home and still it could be a month that he stays out. That can take a toll on a person when you are at home with the kids and taking care of everything by yourself. At times I do question why I stay I mean I take care of everything and the kids while he is out going out to eat or the bar with the guys he drives with. I just feel that he has let me here while he does what he wants to do. There are days when they are waiting for loads and they are just sitting around those are the times he should come home instead of waiting to see if anything will come up. I could understand if he was 500 miles away but not 200 miles away. I guess I am just frustrated and wondered if anyone else was feeling the same.

Amanda - posted on 05/26/2013

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Let me vent my story... March 2011 I accepted a nursing position at a local jail. I met a correctional officer there who I fell madly in love with March 2012 we got married. He adopted my 8 year old daughter, which people actually comment that she is his twin lol.. November 2012 we lost our jail jobs and bought a home within days apart. Luckily the home is next to my parents. January his brother who has his CDL's talked him into getting his CDL's. Feb 2013 he graduated 11 days later we all drove to Springfield Ohio (4hrs one way). My sister in law and I said bye to our husbands as they we're starting their orientation with U.S. Xpress, where my brother in law drove for years before returning home to drive for pepsi. I cried so hard it was as if I cried tears of acid. 12 hrs later Hubby called to tell me I had to pick him up he got kicked out. So I drove back up and got him. Very happy I was. His mother passed away unexpectedly March 2013. He tried a lot of places locally for a driving job but no luck. Brother in law talks me into hubby going back out for 3weeks at a time for 6months an no longer. I give in!! Stupid girl. So last week drove him to Springfield oh again. This time we thought ahead i'll stay till he passes. Thursday morning we said our goodbye's once more. BUT WAIT Friday morning I go back an get him cause they have no trucks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So this past Thursday we had to take him to PA to meet his brother whom is his trainer with a new truck. Say our bye's again!!!! This time I knew he was gone.. Friday morning he calls we are broke down babe in Canton ohio. They will not be moving until Tuesday at the earliest. I have cried, begged, and pleaded please come home I can not live this single parent life again. My heart is broken I feel like my best friend is gone. We faced time last night for a couple hours and I felt like I was dying when we hung up. Our daughter wants him home too!! But he says he needs his experience to get a local job. ANY HELP LADIES!! I pray for all you and your driving love ones!

Kristina - posted on 08/19/2013

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Mine is OTR transport and gone alot. It's a new kind of job and have a new baby...i feel so overwhelmed andand worried

Amanda - posted on 10/09/2013

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My husband is not exactly OTR... sometimes I wish he was. He is regional. He is gone Monday-Fri...sometimes Saturdays. I am alone raising our son. Sometimes..he comes home during the week..maybe 3 week nights out of the month..it is tough...never knowing if he will be home because he gets his delivery at 5pm the day before he does the run. It really sucks. I am left alone with our son all the time ( whom I adore) but sometimes I get stressed out knowing its all me. I struggle because his job allowed me to stay home with our boy...for that I am truly thankful..but I miss Him. This forum is a great idea !

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Christine - posted 1 day ago

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To the lonely wife. I have been married to my husband for almost 6 yrs. I was a divorced single mom prior to my marriage and was alone for 5 yrs. My husband traveled with his first job as a "wildland firefighter". He is a great stepdad to my 2 teen boys and we had a baby 1 1/2 yrs ago then he had a life experience that made him switch jobs and become a truck driver. I understand the feeling alone raising a baby again. My first 2 boys were very young when i divorced and now my husband is gone a lot more with this job than his previous job. I find myself finding comfort is movies and doing interesting things around the house example gardening , walks, making yard art. I am a loner at heart and have had situations happen that has alienated me from friends mainly having a baby and they don't have any. I got on here looking for friends in hope that understanding what they are going through. I will say this the baby girl was a huge curveball for us we did not want anymore kids and she has turned into a huge blessing.

I have worked on telling and showing my husband how much I appreciate him. This helps with the unhappiness. Men want to know they are appreciated and in return they show you or tell you how much they love you. I was ready to start being a looking toward the future of just doing things with my husband when we found out we were going to have a baby. It tore me up for weeks when I found out. john has made a huge point in including me in his travels and taking me and the baby with him on a trip for 3 weeks it was great.

I was not on board at all when my husband decided to become a trucker. I drilled him for weeks before he left for training and we had our disagreements in the past 10 months over. All i can say is there is hope. I tell him how much he is appreciated and I do my best to show him he is appreciated when he comes home. I make sure he can have some down time to I give him massages when he is home and i make new dinners and I make sure the bills are paid so he has no worries. My husband finds comfort in knowing that everything is takiing care of and he shows me he loves me by giving me cheap feels in the kitchen and and holding me at night when he is here. I would try a few different things and just see if they work and watch something that inspires you to think differently the "secret" is a helpful show to watch to help with thoughts. Hope this helps

Laura - posted 2 days ago

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This is a great idea. My husband and I have been married for 5 years and have a 3.5 year old daughter who I can easily say I have raised by myself. After our daughter was born, my husband moved to NYC (where his family lives) to learn how to drive CDL (from his brother) and then began working (in another city). Just this year he began working OTR and I actually see him more as he passes by where we live now! He is also planning on coming back to live with us now that he is working OTR and I am not sure what to expect, but I'm assuming seeing him even once a month is better than seeing him every 3 months as it was before...

Jessica - posted on 06/29/2014

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Was online...one of the things I do when i am thinking of my husband to prevent from calling him. And I came across this site. I hope to be able to meet and create some wonderful friendships here. Im 31 and have been married going on 2years. My husband started driving trucks in March of this year and i have seen him on 2 occasions to date and it has been tough. My family is in a different city and i guess you can say that I keep myself busy with shopping andcaring for our son....This is sooo hard for and I know it is for him. I try not to keep the way I feel to myself cause I know he is providing for the family.

Bridget - posted on 06/17/2014

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My soon to be husband has decided to become a truck driver to help support the family. I am on disability and he was in school for auto mechanics and still had a year left but with this opportunity he can have his cdl's in 3 weeks. We have a 4 year old daughter that is not biologically his but he treats her like his own. I am a wreck!! We have tried explaining to her that daddy is leaving but will be coming back and she seems to understand, I just don't want her to feel abandoned like she had felt before when my ex left me. What do I do?

Lonley - posted on 06/08/2014

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My husband and I are about to celebrate our 20th anniversary. He has been an OTR driver for the better part of 15 years and has had his CDL for almost 18 years. I have raised two children mostly by myself (they are now 22 and 19), and then we had a surprise baby 9 years ago that I am raising basically alone again. I was supposed to ride with him, before the surprise baby...life and it's curveballs. Each time he has come off the road has been short lived and then he is back on the road. I sometimes feel like I am drowning. It is hard to be a single mother, I can understand what they go through. I know I am still married, but just like single mothers I receive money from him, he calls and tells our youngest goodnight and talks to her on the phone, and once every few weeks he visits. This is just about as close to a similar situation that single mothers go through you can get without the divorce. My family and friends are all amazed I can survive with this type of situation, but I simply say "what is my alternative?" I love his man with all my heart...we dated in high school and got back together when I was 19 and he was 21, and have been together ever since.

I feel like I am waiting...waiting to live again. Like as a wife I am always on pause. It is hard loving from afar. We try to put so much into just a couple of days. Most of the drivers he knows have been divorced at least once...if not multiple times. Truck driving gets into their veins and nothing else satisfies that desire...I can see it when he tries to work out of the truck. It's like watching a wild animal in a cage...you know they are miserable. He has tried this for me, but I cave because I can't watch him unhappy. I figure if we are both unhappy because he is unhappy, but I might as well be unhappy and allow him to be happy. Each time we say this time is only temporary until we have a better solution, but each time the light at the end of the OTR tunnel gets dimmer and fades. The worst for us was two years ago, he was gone for six weeks, home for three days, and gone for six weeks again. We had problems that finally came to a head and that summer is the closest we have come to ending our marriage. He came out of the truck and worked for 10 months in the office for the company he works for...and he was damn good at what he was doing there too. The only problem was the direct person above him. He was condescending and my husband did most of his job as well as his own...so of course that's crazy! He then worked local in a truck before they asked him to come back into the office...he tried it once again, but same things began to happen again after only a month or so and he gave up after 5 months. So, back to the truck...same company though. His company is the best one he's worked at driving, and as you will find, there is no such thing as a perfect company for OTR.

This time is different. I'm tired. I feel mostly lost this time. I don't know why. I have done this for years and it is not really different. It is better for my little one than it was for the older kids. We have face-time so she can talk to him and see him every day. The older kids rarely talked to him. All we had was a pager, and then when he could get to a payphone and get a phone card. For awhile I had an 800 number, that helped too...but still required stopping somewhere with a payphone. By time he would come home, the kids would question if they had to listen to him...they were so used to mom making and enforcing all the rules. At least with cell phones he is reachable most of the time. But, for me...I don't know, the cell just doesn't seem enough. I have been waiting for so long to feel married. He started driving when I was 25 and had two small kids...I'm almost 40 and just am getting numb to the world of trucking. My bed is empty. I have a hard time switching between just mom to being a wife when he's home. And then the painful separation of him leaving again after he just got here.

I know, I'm just ranting and complaining, and I know he is working hard...but there is only so long you can bottle the frustration. I was not really onboard with him becoming a truck driver 15 years ago, but didn't have a better solution...so sometimes you get hauled along for the ride even if you don't want to.

I will continue to hold on, though the hope of an end dwindles with each year.

Ann - posted on 05/27/2014

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Thank you for this community. I agree with you that you need to keep busy and pray a lot.

Nathalie - posted on 05/17/2014

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Thank you for having this forum. I look forward to talking with all of you. Thank you!

Kim - posted on 04/12/2014

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I have dated and married an otr driver now 3 years after being a professional in human resources 25 years. It has been very hard for me to adjust and I do not know if I will ever fully embrace the lifestyle. I hope with time I can become better support than I am now as a newlywed. Quite frankly I would prefer to eat Jalapeños raw than be away from my husband. No kids involved thankfully....just me and our 3 dogs. So I have lots of growing to do...pick up hobbies to pass time...and hope we keep in touch more while he is gone. Oh...he also trains new students weeks on end...that is very cool and I am so very proud of that.

Elissha - posted on 03/19/2014

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Ive been married since October and my husband just got a job otr he leaves out next Friday to Utah. I'm not really sure how to feel right now I'm numb sad and I feel like Ive been shot in the stomach. We have a 13 yr old and we've never been apart from him. I know this journey won't be easy but I'm scared:(

Elisabeth - posted on 03/14/2014

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Hello all, I am new to this site and to the truckers wife thing. Hubby started OTR 6 months ago...I stay home with our 3 kids. We have been married for almost 16 years. We have been through better and worse, sickness and health and now being away from each other for 4-6 weeks at a time. :( It is really hard at times but he really loves driving. And I want him to do something that he loves. All I can say is keep the home fires burning, and pray a lot! That's what I do! ;)

Sasha - posted on 03/05/2014

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Hi everyone. My name is Sasha and I am a recruiter at U.S. Xpress. I am just putting myself out here in the "technology world" to get my name out there. If you have any curiosity about the company and what I may have to offer in your area. Please call me at (800) 251-6291 ext 4457

Roxie - posted on 02/06/2014

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My husband started driving truck about a year after we married and we had to be apart for almost two months. It was the hardiest thing we ever did. He quit for almost for years then went back. We found out we were pregenant so he quit again to be with me during the whole journey but the after our daughter was a few months old he had to go back to truck driving cause the money he was making localy wasn't enouf. He droe for almost six years then found a job locally so he could be home with our kids. Then we started struggling again and he left on Monday to go train in NC. It is the hardest thing to do when you have kids. We have been married for almost 15years and I know he loves us very much and doesn't want to leave us but he is doing whats best for us. We started dating when I was 15 and he was 20 and if it weren't for him I wouldn't be hear today. He is a wonderful man but doesn't always realize how wonderful he is. I try not to worry about the money flowing in or complain about the things his parents says. They don't think he should be leaving me with four kids ones 8 then we have a 1,2,3 year old. My three year old is depressed a little cause she is Daddies girl litteraly cause he held her the most when she was a baby until she was one. I just need someone to talk to who knows what its like to be in a loving relationship and being apart wit kids. I just want know how others get threw there days when the men we love are away. I get very emotional when he leaves and I try not to let it show so he doesn't get upset cause I don't want him to worry about me being depressed. My husband and my kids are all the family I have and with out them I have nothing.

Bev - posted on 01/27/2014

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My hubby is and OTR driver, was when we met 13 years ago. We dated for a year, lived in the truck for 9 months of that year. I loved it and learned a lot about what he does out there.

Now when he comes home, I scan and mail his paperwork to the company, so they can bill the customers sooner. No pay, but between that and having the logging info to view his electronic logs, I don't feel useless to him, even though I am home tending a small farm and he is out there working on yet another million safe miles.

We talk on the phone several times a day, he always lets me know where he is, if he breaks down, the gossip from other dirvers or the boss, etc... And what a fabulous company he works for.

The first year with them, they sent him a load assignment that read "Pick Up: [our home address] Pieces: 1 Wife. Deliver: Company Picnic at company terminal.

Now that terminal is 1100 miles form our home. Yes I was the cargo and, he was paid simply to bring me to the company picnic and, take me back home.

Sometimes the office people call me just to cut up and chat and, we email back and forth at least daily.

Not to mention the great pay and benefits my husband gets. I know there are a lot of envious drivers and wives out there and, I do wish you could all have what my husband and I have with this company. Sure they ask a lot, sometimes they ask the impossible of him (need 14 hours to do it, have 11.) but, he does it and, the return is worth it. We are both treated like family by the company.

Julia - posted on 01/21/2014

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This site has helped me to realize that I am not alone in how I feel and it is wonderful.

Rachel - posted on 01/21/2014

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Thank you for the outlet. I am married to an OTR driver-who happens to be bi-polar- and I have little to no other person who understands what I go through on a day-to-day basis. It helped to read the other ladies' perspectives. I do not feel so alone.

Alicia - posted on 01/08/2014

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My husband just came to terms with the fact he will have to leave to go OTR for experience. We have been married almost 5 years with a 3.5 year old who has autism and an almost 3 month old. I can't stop crying since I know he will be gone before Valentines Day and most companies told him it will be around 8 weeks before he sees us again. I'm heartbroken and have nowhere to turn. We've never been apart for this long. And while its only 2 years, im scared somethings going to happen between now and then

Joannlabrie - posted on 12/17/2013

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I hear you. if he can't be there for me physically then at least be there emotionally for me and they don't know how to do that

Sara - posted on 12/05/2013

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Hello Ladies,

My name is Sara Edwards and I am a single mother of two small children, so I can relate to what a lot of what you are feeling. While I do not have a significant other who is a driver, I am employed at great trucking company called Combined Transport and we hire experienced Flat Bed OTR drivers from all over the country. Our managers and dispatchers understand how hard it is for drivers to be gone for long periods, so we work with our drivers to try to get them as much home time as possible. We also try to assign them routes near their home so that they can spend time with their family as they pass through.

Check out our site and give the recruiters a call to see if there are any routes for your husbands closer to home. www.combinedtransport.com/apply_online_

Mack - posted on 10/22/2013

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I am trying to locate a OTR Driver who stopped to give assistance to me and my girlfriend when we had an accident on I-75 south bound just south of I-575 near Marietta GA about 11:30 AM on Sunday 10/13/13. We had a rear tire blow out at speed on a motorcycle. This good Samaritan kept other heavy traffic off of us as we went down and ended up in the middle of five lanes of south bound traffic. He came to the side of both of us as we lay waiting for the ambulances to arrive. The truck was a white conventional cab with a white trailer with no marking. He was probably mid 40's, slim build with dark hair and a Fu Manchu mustache. I would like to send him at least a personal note to let him know that I am so grateful for his actions on that day. We both had no lethal injuries and will recover, but I'm not so sure we would have survived had it not been for his paying attention and quick actions on our behalf. I had hoped the accident report would give me a name, but there were no witnesses listed. If you think you might know this man or can help me locate him I would be very grateful. Thanks. I will check back here for a response.

Mary - posted on 09/20/2013

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I love your idea for this forum. My husband is about to start truck driving school and I am worried,scared and sad that he will be gone a lot. We have been married a long time and have been able to be with each other 95 percent of the time. I have grown kids with two of them still at home and that I am thankful for. Not sure i could do this is they were not here. I have been reading a lot of the post on here and it has helped knowing there are other women out there with the same fears. Kudos to the women with little children at home as I am sure it is a lot harder to handle.

Brandie - posted on 09/09/2013

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I think this forum is a great idea. My husband has been a driver for over 15 years and sometimes local and more recently back to otr. We have 4 kids and at times it gets to be too much. He has been gone 4 1/2 weeks and it looks like another week at least. I normally am ok with it but we just moved to a new city and he has not even been to the new place yet. He is doing the best he can, I just needed to put it out there to people who will understand what it is like. It just has gotten to me this time and I don't want to burden the kids with it, I need to be there for them when they miss him. Sometimes it just sucks being a truckers wife.

Ashley - posted on 08/09/2013

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My soon to be husband is in Springfield, MO for otr truck driving school. Didn't really want him to go do it but he was unemployed for a year. He couldn't find a find job any where. So he is gone now for about a month or two. We have been together for 7 years inspecabale so now that he gone i dont knoe what to do with my self we have a 5 year daughter together

Elisabeth - posted on 08/03/2013

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I'm up for any kind of support at this point! I feel so weak and alone! My husband rides with a trucker so he is gone just as much but with at least a third of the pay and neither one of us can seem to figure out how to put it all together or make the little pieces some kind of life - we love each other so very much but we are so far away from the couple we should be! Feel free to email me with any groups our just to TALK! I cant seem to vent to him cause he just wants to enjoy home not deal with home - thedemersfam@yahoo.com

Leslie - posted on 07/27/2013

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Hello everyone, it is so nice to see all the current comments and some new wives of or drivers. My husband left March 2013 and has been driving since, he loves it! We have been married for 4 years this September, we have two boys (12 & 11) from my previous marriage but no kids together. He gets to come home maybe once a month sometimes every other it varies. It has defiantly be hard on us, we have been inseparable since we met in 2007. The biggest challenge for us is that I have a full time job, I can't always take time off when he is home. I try to get off early the day he comes home and leave half days when he is here but many times that is not possible. So I feel I am missing a lot of time with me. We try to get him home on Wednesday and he leaves 8pm Sunday night. So I at least get one full day with him, sometimes its not enough. My working has also made it difficult for us to communicate especially when we are in different time zones. I know he loves what he is doing and hearing him talk has opened my eyes about what otr drivers do and how important they are. I am looking for a place to communicate with other wives of truck drivers and get support for being the one left behind.

Susan - posted on 06/25/2013

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Hello! My husband just started CDL school and we haven't decided on a company to work for yet. He has several offers so we are comparing the pros and cons but it's really hard. He just retired from the Army so I am definitely not new to him being gone for long periods of time and never being home for anything. I'm hoping it won't be too much but I am prepared for the worst as I always was before. I would love to find a support system though to ask questions and advice on things that come up. Can anyone tell me if there are any companies they know of out there that are bad to work for? He is really excited to do this but I don't want him to be treated badly or to end up hating his job.TIA

Sarah - posted on 06/24/2013

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A trucker's wife forum would be awesome! My DH got his CDL in February. Since then our 2 year old and I get to see him 3 days a month. New truck wives, don't let people tell you otherwise, we are the closest thing there is to actually being a single parent.
I'm having some serious frustrations right now & it would totally be nice to have people to talk to who understood. His rig just went in for a B-service on Friday. That afternoon he finds out it has to go to the dealership shop. This AM (Monday) he called to check on it, still not in the shop. Did I mention that this was 6 hours away from our house, after a check with next to no miles so we don't have the $ to go see him, & there was no reason he couldn't have had this done at his home yard!
GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!

Tamika - posted on 05/23/2013

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Let me begin by saying that I'm so glad I found this forum. My husband is brand spanking new to the trucking industry and he just left on Sunday for his new otr job with Swift. He had 3 days of orientation and today he's heading out with his mentor for I don't know how long( it could be up to 6 wks). We have 4 children together, ages 13,12,7 and 3. I'm feeling overwhelmed by his absence at times. I just don't know what to do with myself. I excercise and take care of the house and kids but I can't stop thinking about him being gone. Anybody have any advice? I don't have many friends or family so I feel unsupported overall. Help!

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I'm new here my name is Alicia 😊, I've been with my "husband" for nearly 10 years (we're not married yet lol) anyways I have a son from a previous relationship and my hubby has raised him since he was 5, he will be 15 in July. And together we have a 2 yr old and 1 yr old. My husband has gone back to being an OTR driver, and its so hard to watch him leave. I try not to cry because the kids cry and then he cries 😞, but when he's able to come home I feel resentment towards him because he has no idea what's its like to raise these boys alone. It's like I need a vacation and I want him to see what it's like to be a single parent (because basically that's what it's like) I know he has stress out on the road, and he busts his tail to provide for our family. I don't have any friends who know what it's like to be the wife of an OTR driver, all there husbands and boyfriends are home every night. I guess I just needed to vent a little lol 😕. I'm glad I found this site

Phillys - posted on 05/17/2013

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I have been a trucker's wife for almost 12 years now...I've seen all the ends and outs...we have lived well and we have lived poor (never rich) Let me tell you my story so you can get aquainted with me...I was a mother of a 3 year old and a 18 month old girl, step mom to 12 year old twin boys (one with cerebral palsy) We had full custody of the boys with no child support coming in...the plant my hubby worked at went bankrupt (Pillowtex) and our options were slim...so he packed up and went to truck driving school in Arkansas (we live in VA)... school was 2 months and otr training was 6 weeks...so that was 3 1/2 months he was gone...we didn't have phones or internet so it was hit and miss for communication. when he finally came home and got a job working for a smaller company he went though a very selfish phase that just about cost us our marriage. He would advance almost all of his earnings out on the road and leave me and the kids with very little (>$100 per week) to pay bills and get food for the family. I couldn't get welfare because his gross wages showed so much more. To this day his story remains the same "I don't know where the money went!" (yes, I am still bitter about this even after 10 years.) After realizing he was going to lose his family, He quit driving for that company and later started working for a very small business owner that turned out to be a scam. During this time I was pregnant with our last child (he was never able to attend any of the doctor visits) when it came time for the birth his "boss" wouldn't "let" him come to the hospital with the truck even though he was only about 40 miles away...So I had a family friend go pick him up...he got to the hospital 6 hours after the birth (my middle child, 2 1/2 yrs old, was in the room for the birth because I didn't have a babysitter) He sat with us for about 2 hours and had to go back to the truck...he didn't see her again until she was over a month old....It got so bad the boys chose to go back and live with their mom, and I was left alone with the three girls. Later things got good for us for about 5 good years because my hubby finally found a good job with a good boss and he came home every weekend. We were able to buy our own home and life was good, one of the boys actually came back to live with me to help out with his sisters (such a sweet child). Then someone threw a proverbial wrench in our life...Promising more money...and my husband, chasing the all high mighty dollar, against everyone's pleading to stay with the current company... what a pack of lies the other company turned out to be!!! Then the recession hit and my hubby got laid off ...short story...we lost the house! (yes, I am still bitter about that one too) My family and I, for the next 2 1/2 years lived with family (13 of us in one house-stressful!!). Then Hubby got the bright idea of owner operator....results...not all it was cracked up to be...and my kids and I wound up literally living in a tent for months...(still bitter) Now he is finally back at that good company that he left for that high mighty dollar and things are starting to look up again...not holding my breath...what I do know is ...I must love this guy for some reason to put up with all of this crap...He doesn't do drugs, doesn't drink, and has never hit me...and he has never been arrested or in jail...so why do I feel so abused? Ive been married to him for 18 years (married when I was 15 and he was 18)and I believe in my marriage vows (I am Christian)..."though better or worse"...but I find myself so bitter and I cant seem to let it go because it seems as if he cant quit making bad decisions for the family and sometimes that little selfish streak he went though so many years ago shows its ugly little head (rarely but it hurts real bad when it does happen) It is a very difficult world to be married to a trucker...it definitely takes patience and GOD! I don't like feeling bitter and when I try to discuss this with him...all of my built up pain comes out and I cant control my emotions and he clams up or says..."theres nothing much I can say in my defense"...or "im sorry"...I hate "IM SORRY" absolutely loathe it! "Im sorry" doesn't fix the hurt, pain or the problem...and you cant truly be sorry for something if you keep repeating it the action! This is the short version of my 12 years of being a trucker's wife!?!

Kiley - posted on 04/21/2013

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I Am A Wife Of A Otr Driver And I Have It Admit ItS Hard At Times And I Feel LiKe Throwing In The Towel! But we Have BeeN Together For 13 Years And Have Been Married For 6 And We Have 2 GrEat Kids! Wish I Could Say That It Gets Easier And SoMe Times It Feels LiKe We Have It Fugured Out But Then Something Happens Here At Home And We need Him Here And Then I Start Thinking Is It Really Worth Him Being GoNe! He Is Agreat Dad And HusBand When He Is Here But That Is Not Much MostOf The Time I Feel Like A Signal Parent! So I Am Here To Talk When And if Y'alL Need To! My Email addrEss Is Ropemansmom@Yahoo.Com! Hugs And Peace To You All!

Nicole - posted on 04/16/2013

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Has any support chat been formed yet? I'm already a member of a truckers wife. witHout I'm looking to chat with woman who can understand what it's like to be with a man on the road. My fiance just finished his three weeks schooling in Fontana, can and got hired on with CrSt. He's been on the road now for 10 days. He was told that he would be on the road for 28 days at a time. And every week that he's gone he will earn one day at home. So at the end of his first 28 days he will get to come home for three or four days. Is it just me or do other woman think this is just ridiculous? And I could never imagine him gone from home for months at a time like I've read on some of these post. I give u women major props. I'm frustrated. Feel like a single mom, and beginning to resent all this support I offered in the beginning when he told me trucking is what he wanted to do. I'm super proud don't get me wrong and I know he's a wonderful truck driver. I just need to be able to connect with other women if there are still women who desire someone who understands. My email.. nicolstagg@aol.com but I barely ever check it. I'll start in hopes that some women will respond. Thanks.

Roxanne - posted on 04/13/2013

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My husband is in OTR truck driver. He is gone for weeks at a time, but you eventually get used to it. It is a rough life as I was with him on the road for 6 months and boy, do I have a whole new respect for their profession...it is not easy at all!

Oneika - posted on 04/03/2013

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@ Kathleen my husband started school when I was five months pregnant and now are son is four months old and I may be expecting again. We have a ten year old I am home schooling and i just got hired for a Customer service job I can do at home. My husband comes home every other week for about four days at a time so I totally feel your pain and can relate to your story.

Oneika - posted on 04/03/2013

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Ladies it couldn't hurt to voice your thoughts to your husbands if you feel uncomfortable. With my husband I can usually tell when he lies and to be honest I love him and trust him but I don't put anything past people particularly when sex is involved. I pray he doesn't cheat and I pray if he cheats that he uses protection.

Oneika - posted on 04/03/2013

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Imagine a crack head and that is what those women look like. I don't think those kind are a threat to us. But at the end of the day you just have to have faith in him. But less be honest whether the women looks like Heidi Klume or Cruella Devil you don't want your husband cheating.

Veda - posted on 04/03/2013

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Im so sad.. :-(... My husband has been otr for about a month now. We though he would come home easter weekend but that didn't happen. Now he says that he will be out for another 2 months...Not to mention out wedding anniversary is April 9th... We seem to argue on the phone now more than anything. Even though I know he's doing this for our family, i feel so resentful. HELP !!!!

Oneika - posted on 04/03/2013

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I feel the same way and resent my husband quite a bit and have even thought about leaving because why bother. I feel like he put money before our relationship. His response is that he is doing it to better our future but he is a educated man and can get another high paying job that is local ie Coke,Pepsi,Red Bull. So I understand your frustration. My son is four months and I may be expecting so I am not going to make any decisions right now but I totally get your frustration.

Oneika - posted on 04/03/2013

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I to feel like a single Mother. I had to finally explain to my husband that him paying bills matters but if the baby runs a fever in the middle of the night I cant just grab a stack of money and throw it at him he requires physical care. I am often tired from the baby being up all night and I still have to run the house and teach my son who is home schooled.

Oneika - posted on 04/03/2013

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My husband has been OTR driving since July 2012 when I was five months pregnant. Are son is now four months and my husband comes home for three to five days every other week. I am now facing another possible pregnancy but I am not sure yet. I often feel abandoned and I would be interested in this forum.

Jerilyn - posted on 03/25/2013

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ahh I'm so glad I found this! Tesha my situation is very similar to yours. My boyfriend is recently an OTR trucker. We also have a two year old and I work full time. It's been hard for us figuring out a routine that works for us. My bf left this morning and to hear my daughter saying 'daddy stay home with mommy' is absolutely heartbreaking. I know it's for our own good because he does make more than I do-it just really sucks sometimes. If anyone would like to chat my email is bibbinsjer@gmail.com

Melissa - posted on 03/13/2013

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For all of you lovely ladies, i have created a fb group called Truckers wives. feel free to look us up!

Kati - posted on 03/12/2013

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My husband and i have been married for 5 YEARS. i take care of our two kids the household and the finances. I also work a full time job. I am very frustrated with this and get very overloaded. My husband knows i cant quit my job because i carry the insurance. Dont know what to do. I feel like a single mom. He is always on the road.

Melissa - posted on 03/09/2013

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hey there, i added you to my yahoo but you havent accepted, i would love to talk

Melissa - posted on 03/09/2013

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After some time it gets a little easier, but you will always have about a day or so so upset before you get back to usual routines..

Melissa - posted on 03/09/2013

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hey there, just as i said with melissa crosby, i am always available. mmjohnson8588@gmail.com

Veda - posted on 03/09/2013

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I everyone... my husband left this morning for texas with cr england and he will be gone for 4-6 weeks :-(...the kids were ok but I cried like a baby..Im trying not to be resentful towards him. I know he's doing this so our future can be bright but I know Im going to be so lonely. my email is vedalewis19@gmail.com if anyone wants to chat. thanks

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