Baby will not go to sleep when Dad is home.

Miranda - posted on 05/18/2011

Sorry I have not been back on here in a while. Louise she just turned 1. And we do not put her in our bed unless it is a last resort like it is midnight and we all just need some sleep. So we let her lay with us until she falls asleep and then move her to her crib. Thankfully we seem to have curbed the problem. We started doing lunches together if he is with in 50 mi of us. We can usually get in 1-2 a week which gives them a little time to be together and she is not so disturbed by his presence at home. I guess he just seemed like a stranger who was trying to take away her mommy time. she has been perfectly fine now that she sees him more.
Meredith it is so weird how they process things isn't it? I mean you would think he is so excited for daddy to be home he would suck up every minute. hopefully that is just a phase. But if you find out how to fix it let me know because I am sure she will be doing that soon enough!

Meredith - posted on 05/14/2011

My son is now 4, and until recently would wake up during the night looking for Daddy when he wasn't home and get into bed with me. Then he would "punish" his daddy when he got home. He would jump up and down on the sofa, watching his daddy drive in and squeal with excitement, "Daddy's home!" over and over. When my husband would finally walk in the house, my son would completely ignore him! Eventually he would play with his daddy and give him hugs and kisses, but I guess he wanted my husband to know he wasn't happy with his daddy leaving! He also sleeps with me when my husband is gone. I think it makes him feel more secure. I know it's not exactly the same problem you're having, but hopefully she'll outgrow it. Good luck!

Louise - posted on 04/11/2011

This sounds like control to me. She is after both of your attention and by letting her sleep between you both she is controlling the situation. Don't get into this as co sleeping is really hard habit to break. I don't know how old she is but you need to make it clear to her to stop this. Be firm with her and tell her to stop making that silly noise and ignore the screaming as much as you can. Try and ignore the fuss she is making when her dad is feeding her just carry on. You need to stop this control thing now as it will only get worse. I know how hard it is to here your baby cry in the night but let her cry it out as much as you can it is the only way to let her know that screaming does not get her what she wants.